The twin flame journey: Stages, signs, and how to find your twin flame

You may be stopping by because you just can’t stop wondering – what is a twin flame journey, for real?

Well, to put it in a nutshell, the twin flame journey is a spiritual path in which you will start to discover your perfect counterpart, the one person who embodies all of your depths.

When this spiritual meeting occurs, it ignites a deep desire that gets you moving.

This post will explore the stages and signs that you may be catching on, with pointers on how to find your twin flame. So, let’s get this love train running!

The stages of a twin flame journey

The twin flame journey is a beautiful and magical experience, but it can also be difficult and challenging, especially in the early stages.

In fact, you might have noticed that your possible twin flame is becoming a major part of your life. Or, you may have felt the pull of your twin flame but weren’t able to connect into their vibrational frequency.

And even though the twin flame journey is different for everyone, there are a few stages that everyone seems to have in common.

1) Preparing and longing

This is the first stage, and it can last for a very long time, depending on your own personal situation. The longing in your life can feel like a void and you’ll be tempted to fill that void with all kinds of junk (insert your poison of choice).

The waiting process can be incredibly frustrating, so it’s important that you don’t go straight into the next steps.

During this phase, you may feel as if something is missing from your life, but you won’t know what. It’s a time of preparation and longing, where you may be on your couch eating leftovers alone, suffering through emotional pain and confusion.

Or it could be that you have asked your twin flame to show up in your life, but they have not yet come. Use this period to work on your own issues and find answers to questions that have been bugging you for too long.

As the stages progress, this longing will turn into something a little more beautiful. And you’ll begin to learn. Hang in there, champ!

2) Restless waiting

Now, when you’re spending most of your time alone – waiting for someone who just doesn’t show up – this can become quite tiring.

You may have found yourself staring at the wall for hours. You may even begin to doubt the existence of twin flames and whether this is even real.

This will confuse you and make you frustrated, but this feeling will slowly start to shift as you open the gates in your mind. Simply allow the troublesome doubt to go on a little vacation.

After some time, the restless waiting will fill up with a new sense of optimism and happiness.

This is because you begin to feel more in tune with the universe and eventually, you’ll begin to realize that your twin flame will be showing up soon. 

3) A sense that something has shifted

This stage doesn’t occur before the previous one is completed, so if you find yourself there, then you’re heading in the right direction. You may also experience a new energy flooding your body.

There is a way to use this energy wisely. I want to suggest that you hang on for just a moment here.

I recently learnt something useful from the modern-day Brazilian shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me how the lies we tell ourselves about love are part of what traps us in things like finding the flawless partner.

As Rudá explains in this transformational free video, love is available to us if we cut through the lies that we tell ourselves.

We need to face the facts about what it truly means to find your twin flame and love.

The alternative is to end up in loveless relationships or endless dating frustration that only leaves us cold and empty.

Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.

While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to making me believe in true love again.

If you’re done with wasting your time on love that doesn’t work, I invite you to watch this short video and open your mind to new possibilities to guide you on the path to finding true love and intimacy.

Click here to watch the free video.

When you finally start to understand how important this stage is, you will look back and realize how long it took for you to really grasp what was happening – at least, on a conscious level.

If you decide to look for help during this stage of your twin flame journey, you may sooner feel as if something has shifted and that your heart feels more open to love.

You’ll notice that your life is changing in ways that are not under your control and everything will feel magical and beyond what you could have imagined.

4) The twin flame union

This is THE moment that you’ve been waiting for, and I mean, this is the moment where you’ll finally meet your twin flame.

It’s a deep and meaningful connection that will last forever, which feels almost impossible to believe in at first.

This stage begins once you feel an energy shift within yourself or around another person when they are nearby or close to you.

At this time, you may first feel that there is a connection to the other person, or that they are familiar somehow, whether it’s a physical resemblance, some kind of spiritual likeness, or simply an inexplicable energy.

When you have this first initial connection, it’s important to understand that the other person may not feel anything.

This is because the process of meeting a twin flame is a journey that both parties go through, and the other person may not be ready for a relationship with you yet.

In some cases, the person doesn’t even know about the spiritual journey because they are living in a world that is asleep.

5) Mixed feelings towards the person

This stage can last for days to weeks, but then suddenly and inexplicably things will start to change.

You might start to feel confused about what’s happening because you aren’t sure if you like the person or not.

Here’s why: when the twin flame journey begins, there is often an initial attraction that feels good, but we aren’t sure if it’s just lust or something deeper.

Then we start to unconsciously push the other person away without knowing why.

You will feel like there was something about that person you just weren’t feeling before. However, there could be a lot of reasons for that, such as:

1) fear of intimacy,

2) the fact that the person was unavailable before.

3) you just weren’t ready or comfortable with opening up your heart.

6) A mutual attraction

This stage happens when you come into contact with the twin flame again or are in their presence.

In this stage, you may notice an immediate connection or pull between each other that is strong and just can’t be denied. At this point, it’s a good idea to try and match each other’s energy because the more aligned the energy is, the stronger the attraction will be.

This attraction is something different than what it was in the past and it’s more powerful.

Every time you feel this energy, you’ll want to be around them more and more.

The energy in your body will start to really become alive and you’ll feel more joy and happiness. This is a type of attraction that people often confuse with lust.

However, you’re seeing this person in a more realistic way now and you’re beginning to learn to trust them.

You have noticed a shift within yourself, which means that your life is changing in an amazing way!

It’s a big change, and it’s important that you remember that this is still a journey.

7) A deep connection

During this phase, you may become so enamored with someone that your whole life revolves around them.

You’ll be so in love that you would do anything for them, and you might even feel that they can read your mind and know exactly what you need.

It’s a type of connection that is very powerful, so sometimes you’ll find yourself making excuses to be near that person, and you could develop an inexplicably strong longing to be near them.

You will feel such a strong attraction that you may feel as if there is no one else in the world that could make you feel like this.

Your thoughts, worries, and emotions all come back to them because that’s who you are at soul level with. You will also feel more aware of them and what they are thinking and doing.

It’s a very powerful stage in a way because it feels as if your life is finally starting to make sense.

8) Out in the open

While in this stage, you’ll probably make a conscious effort to keep in contact with one another and express your true feelings to each other.

By now, it could be very difficult to deny that you feel something so strong towards this person. You may know them for years before the initial attraction manifests itself and this is totally fine!

This can happen when you’re beginning to feel a spiritual connection. Here’s what to expect in this stage:

  • You’ll begin to share your thoughts and feelings easily and you will feel a deep truth, trust, and security with this person.
  • The passion you feel is something that can be hard to describe, and you could even find yourself feeling highly protective of that person.

It’s important at this point to be aware of how strongly you might feel things for the other person because it can change very suddenly.

9) The crisis

This is where the twin flame journey sometimes starts to get emotionally intense!

Even though you are both feeling deeply in love, it’s very common that you will still have a difficult time ironing out all your differences.

During this time, you can find yourself being very hurt, but also very unkind towards the other person. You may feel confused or angry with them because something doesn’t seem right.

The only thing to do during this crisis stage is to be compassionate and kind towards each other. This stage can last for days and even weeks if it’s not resolved soon enough.

You’ll still feel drawn towards them, but something might start to hold you back.

This would be a good time to ask the Universe What Is Going On? 

You may also find yourself feeling confused or scared because your twin flame is behaving in a way that is unexpected.

I want to share something with you that changed my own twin flame journey.

At a time when I was stuck in a rut, my emotions running wild, stress, and anxiety closing in daily, I was introduced to an incredibly invigorating breathwork video, created by the shaman Rudá Iandê.

Now you might be wondering, how can breathwork help with the trouble you are facing with your twin flame?

Well, through the breathwork sequences Rudá has created in this life-changing video, you’ll learn to empower your emotions instead of letting them rule you. You’ll be given the tools to dissolve stress and doubt.

And most importantly, you’ll learn to reconnect with every fiber of your being.

And yes, it really is as simple as taking a breath.

So why am I so confident this will help you?

Well, Rudá isn’t just your average shaman. He’s spent years combining ancient shamanic healing traditions with breathwork techniques to create this unique flow.

And if it could bring me out of the rut I was stuck in, I’m sure it could help you too.

So, if you’re ready to take a step towards reconnecting with yourself and injecting a breath of fresh air into your life, check out Rudá’s excellent breathwork flow.

Click here to watch the free video.

Your focus and intention will change, but it’s important not to get too wrapped up in the outcome.

You’ll need to be patient with the process.

10) The chaser and the runner

This is the most intense stage because you’re both feeling so strongly about your own opinions and also about each other.

You might feel as if you are either being chased or running away, and it’s very possible that you won’t know why this person has become so important to you.

There will be a strong pull to be close to one another, but there will also be an equally strong push from your own inner voice saying “Wait! Wait! Wait!”

Don’t let your feelings get the best of you. You may not be able to understand why it is that so much of your life seems to revolve around them, or why you have been experiencing such a dramatic change in your life.

You may think you need to protect yourself from this person, but it could be part of your soul’s plan to achieve higher consciousness.

This is the most important stage because you are on the path to enlightenment and complete awakening.

It’s important to remember what you might be feeling is completely normal because you are going through a natural process.

If you ever find yourself feeling confused or stuck, the best thing to do is to look to your guides and angels for help and guidance.

11) Help from above and within

Now it’s important to remember that your guides and higher self are a part of this journey, so it’s vital that you work together as a team in order to be successful.

You will also feel closer to your guides at this time.

This kind of connection can be beautiful because it’s truly unique and life-changing.

It’s very important that you open up to your guides now because you could be going through the next stage, which is the most powerful one of all!

This is a very powerful stage because it will feel like everything in life has come together for you at once.

You won’t need any more guidance or help from anyone else because everything is literally falling into place for you.

11) Overthrowing the ego

You may feel as if you are walking on air.

It’s a time when you will be able to see where those negative feelings come from, and you will begin to see yourself for who you really are. It takes a lot of courage to let this happen but once it does, you will have the strength and power to move on.

You will find that you no longer need to be afraid of being yourself. You will let go of those ego restrictions and embrace the true potential in your souls.

In doing so, you’ll also begin to understand a lot more about each other. You’ll both be allowing yourselves to be vulnerable in front of your partner, which is why it’s so important not to allow fear and doubt to get the best of you.

This can be difficult because you will likely be going through a lot of hard lessons as well.

It’s also very important that you don’t get stuck in this stage.

The inner work you are doing is how you will regain your strength and find that sense of trust in each other that you have always wanted.  Once it all settles down, you will be able to see each other as whole and complete individuals.

Your life will change completely, and you’ll finally realize what you’ve both been looking for all along.

In a sense, you will have come home to yourself.

12) Love at peace

This is the point that you’ll reach only when you have learned to let go of your fears and become open to accepting what’s happening.

Your life will feel much less complicated now and you’ll probably be a little more relaxed at this point.

You might be able to see that there is a deeper spiritual meaning behind this whole experience, and this may come as a surprise to you.

Signs pointing to a twin flame relationship

It’s important to remember that twin flames are not meant to happen overnight.

It’s essential that you have some patience and be ready for the significant changes that are going to come into your life. 

There will be very subtle signs that you’ll begin to see in yourself as a result of working on these things.

1) Feelings of love and compassion

It’s possible that you could start to feel a lot more love than ever before. It’s not just the people that you care about that will be getting this extra love from you, but your whole environment!

It’s not unusual to feel as if you are ready to give your love away because you will have so much more of it.

In fact, according to my own experience, you’ll have a deeper sense of compassion and appreciation for the world around you.

2) A renewed sense of self

You might find yourself feeling more purposeful than ever before in your life as well. Your sense of identity will be clearer, and you’ll feel like a complete person, with all that this entails.

You might begin to value yourself a lot more.

As your mind becomes clearer, you’ll begin to see yourself for who you really are and where this path is most likely taking you next.

3) Feeling more aligned with your higher self

This will be a time in your life when you’ll feel like everything that you do is of the highest good and right for the world. You won’t care what people think about you or how they judge you.

You will begin to see your actions as a way to help others, and not as something that’s going to harm or inconvenience anyone.

You’ll begin to feel more in touch with your higher self and have a new sense of personal power. This will also make it easier to connect with others on an entirely different level.

4) A sense of calmness you’ve never felt before

There will be a new sense of peace in all areas of your life, which will make it even easier to see this bigger picture. You’ll be able to look at things from a whole different perspective.

Your thoughts and feelings will be more in line with your soul’s needs now, instead of just your ego’s needs. This will make everything that you’re currently doing become more meaningful.

It will be easier to open up to the world and feel the way that you want to, without worrying about how other people will react.

The signs above will give you a good idea whether you are currently living your twin flame journey.

But a surefire way to know for sure is to speak with a real advisor.

The problem is finding someone you can trust.

There’s an abundance of fake “experts” out there, but very few genuine advisors who can offer practical life advice.

That’s why I recommend Psychic Source. They provided me with a unique insight into where my life should go, including who I was meant to be with.

Having tried several online advisors, I think they’re the most caring, compassionate, and knowledgeable network of gifted advisors out there.

Click here to get your own personalized reading.

Not only will a genuine advisor tell you more about your twin flame, but they can reveal all your love possibilities.

How to find your twin flame?

Twin flames come into your life when you’re ready for it. It’s essential to be in a place of love and light at the time you find one another.

It’s also important to remember that the twin flame connection will mirror the relationship you have with yourself.

Look back and see if there is anything you need to improve on, so that both of your energies can flow in harmony together.

The most important things while searching for your twin flame are as follows:

  • follow your soul’s path,
  • always listen to your intuition,
  • have faith and trust in your soul’s instinct,
  • and ask the universe, because it knows what you’re looking for better than you do.

It’s very possible that this feeling you have can be answered if you are looking at the right time.

There has been much evidence that twins feel a connection with each other even without meeting in person or talking for a long time.

The book “Angel Communicator” contains a chapter on twin flames. In this, the author states:

Twin Flames are born within the soul of the same constellation at approximately the same time in the astrological cycle and will be attracted to each other after bonding with each other in guided soul work. A Twin Flame is not just a person but represents and embodies an aspect of your Self, your Soul, that is waiting for you to awaken and bring into full expression.”

The above quote also explains why twin flames often feel drawn to each other and reminds us of the importance of trusting our inner guidance.

So even if you think that you can’t find your twin flame because of some reason, remember that this is the time to let go and just let the universe guide you.

If your twin flame is meant to be a part of your life, it will happen. All it takes is a good amount of patience and trust in yourself to let things happen in their own time.

You can still work on raising your vibrations and getting in touch with your soul so that when he or she does come along, you’ll be ready for them with open arms and love.

You can also use tools like tarot cards or other types of divination tools in order to find out what your next step is supposed to be.


Life is always going to be full of changes and new experiences, but with the right mindset, these changes can be as easy as they are enjoyable.

Finding your twin flame is a very empowering experience and it’s an extremely important part of your life.

When two people find each other and connect on a soul-level, they can see that there is so much work to be done in the world and a deeper meaning behind why they are here on Earth together at this time.

In this way, they can make a huge impact on the world as a team and make it a better place for all of humanity to live in.

Hopefully, the steps and signs above will shed some light on your twin flame journey. 

But if there’s a part of you that still wants to know more, I recommend speaking to a genuine, professional advisor.

And there’s one company that I always end up recommending, Psychic Source. Not only did they blow me away with their accurate readings, but they were also kind and understanding of my situation.

Take your future into your own hands. I did, and I’ve never looked back since.

Click here to get your own professional love reading.

“’Our souls already know each other, don’t they?’ he whispered. ‘It’s our bodies that are new.’” — Karen Ross, ‘Chianti Souls: An Italian Love Story’.

Nevena Glogovac

Nevena Glogovac

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