8 signs you’re becoming the person you were meant to be, according to psychology

We all strive to become the best version of ourselves, but knowing if we’re on the right path can be tricky. Not all of us have a clear roadmap to our true selves.

Psychology, however, offers some clues. According to psychologists, there are specific signs that indicate you’re morphing into the person you were destined to be.

In this article, we’ll unpack eight of these signs. Using simple, everyday language, I’ll guide you through these telltale signs that suggest you’re on the journey to becoming your authentic self.

Let’s start the process of self-discovery together!

1) You’re comfortable in your own skin

Self-acceptance is a powerful concept in psychology. As Carl Rogers, one of the founders of humanistic psychology, put it: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Being comfortable in your own skin means that you are at peace with who you are – the good parts and the bad. It’s about acknowledging your flaws and accepting them as part of what makes you, you.

According to psychologists, this acceptance is a vital part of personal growth. It’s a sign that you are becoming more authentic, more ‘you’.

So if you’re noticing that you’re less concerned about what others think of you and more focused on being true to yourself – congratulations. It’s likely a sign that you’re becoming the person you were meant to be.

2) Your intuition is getting stronger

Psychology tells us that intuition is a real and powerful force. It’s our brain’s way of quickly analyzing situations based on past experiences and knowledge.

I remember a time when I had to make a major career decision. On paper, the job opportunity seemed perfect – it had a great salary, an impressive title, and was located in a bustling city. However, something felt off.

Despite all the apparent advantages, I couldn’t shake the feeling that it wasn’t right for me. I decided to trust my gut and declined the offer.

A few months later, an even better opportunity came up that was more aligned with my passions and values. Looking back, I am so glad I trusted my intuition.

If you find your gut feelings becoming increasingly accurate, it’s a sign that you’re becoming more in tune with your true self. You’re developing a strong sense of who you are and what’s right for you – key indicators that you’re evolving into the person you were meant to be.

3) You’re becoming more resilient

Resilience is often viewed as the ability to bounce back from adversity. But it’s more than just recovering; it’s about growing and learning from the experience.

Resilient individuals don’t just survive challenging times; they use these moments as stepping stones towards personal growth.

Interestingly, research has found that those who have experienced some hardships in their lives (but not extreme adversity) tend to be more resilient than those who have had a smooth sailing journey. It’s as if these challenges have given them the strength and wisdom to navigate future obstacles.

So, if you’ve noticed that you’re handling life’s curveballs with increasing grace and poise, give yourself a pat on the back. This increased resilience is another sign that you’re becoming the person you were destined to be.

4) You’re actively seeking personal growth

Personal growth doesn’t happen by accident. It’s a conscious choice to learn, evolve, and become a better version of oneself.

If you’ve noticed that you’re more open to new experiences, eager to learn new things, or actively seeking opportunities for self-improvement, that’s a powerful sign.

Perhaps you’ve started reading more self-help books, or you’ve taken up meditation, or you’re consistently pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.

These are all indicators that you’re not just passively drifting through life. Instead, you’re taking control of your personal development and steering yourself towards becoming the person you were meant to be. It’s this active engagement with your own growth that truly sets you on the path to becoming your authentic self.

5) You’re more compassionate

Compassion, both for others and for ourselves, is a cornerstone of emotional maturity. It allows us to connect deeply with others, to empathize with their struggles, and to offer kindness even in the face of adversity.

Perhaps you’ve noticed that you’re more patient with people, even when they’re not at their best. Or maybe you’ve become better at forgiving yourself when you make mistakes, understanding that it’s all part of the human experience.

This growing compassion isn’t just about becoming a nicer person. It’s a reflection of a deeper understanding and acceptance of human nature, including your own.

This heart-centered approach to life is a clear sign that you’re evolving into the person you were meant to be. It indicates that your heart is opening up, making room for more love, understanding, and genuine connections.

6) You’re embracing solitude

In today’s hyper-connected society, solitude is often misunderstood. But spending time alone is not about being lonely; it’s about being with yourself.

I used to fear solitude, equating it with loneliness. But over time, I’ve learned to appreciate the value of my own company. Solo walks in nature, quiet evenings with a book, moments of reflection – these have become some of my most cherished experiences.

Embracing solitude allows you to connect deeply with yourself, understand your thoughts and emotions better, and cultivate a strong sense of inner peace.

If you’re finding comfort in your own presence, it’s a sign that you’re becoming more attuned to your inner world. You’re becoming the person you were meant to be – someone who values their own company as much as they value the company of others.

7) You’re setting healthier boundaries

Boundaries are essential for our mental and emotional well-being. They’re the invisible lines that define what we’re comfortable with and how we expect to be treated by others.

Setting healthy boundaries means standing up for yourself, saying ‘no’ when necessary, and making your well-being a priority. It’s about respecting your own needs and wants, and ensuring that others respect them too.

If you find yourself setting clearer boundaries and sticking to them, it’s a significant sign of personal growth. It means you’re becoming more aware of your own worth and are no longer willing to compromise it for the sake of pleasing others.

This newfound respect for your own needs is a clear sign that you’re becoming the person you were meant to be. It shows that you value yourself enough to protect your mental and emotional space.

8) You’re living in alignment with your values

Your values are the guiding principles that dictate your behavior and actions. They’re deeply personal and serve as a compass pointing towards your true self.

Living in alignment with your values means making decisions and taking actions that resonate with what’s most important to you.

If you’re making conscious choices that reflect your values, even when it’s challenging or inconvenient, then you’re on the right track. This alignment is the clearest sign that you’re becoming the person you were meant to be.

It signifies that you’re not just following the crowd or living according to someone else’s expectations. Instead, you’re honoring your truth and shaping your life around what truly matters to you.

Final words: It’s a journey, not a destination

The path to becoming the person you were meant to be is a lifelong expedition. It’s not about ticking off boxes or reaching a final destination.

It’s about growth, evolution, and constant self-discovery. It’s about embracing your strengths and weaknesses, your triumphs and failures, your joys and sorrows.

Carl Jung, one of the pioneers of modern psychology, once said, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” This journey of becoming isn’t always easy or straightforward. It requires courage, resilience, introspection, and above all, patience.

So as you continue on this path of self-discovery and personal evolution, remember that every step you take brings you closer to your true self. Cherish each moment, each insight, each breakthrough.

After all, becoming the person you were meant to be is not about reaching a finish line – it’s about enjoying the journey.

Lachlan Brown

Lachlan Brown

I'm been through a lot, come out the other side, and I'm here to reveal everything I've learned. If I can help even one soul from my spiritual reflections, then my work here is done. Some people call me a spiritual warrior or an enlightened soul, but I'm just a humble guy that wants the best for humanity. If you want to get in touch with me about my writings, don't hesitate to hit me up on my Twitter (@lachybe). Namaste.

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