How to know when a Leo man is playing you: 11 signs to look for

Being in a relationship with a Leo and not knowing where you stand in his life can be tough.

Of course, you want to find out if he is serious about you, right?

Well, there are 11 signs that will show that his priorities lie elsewhere and that he is playing you.

Let’s take a look at them:

1) He’s not very affectionate

If he is not very affectionate, then he may be playing you.

There are many reasons for this.

He may not be feeling it emotionally or physically.

It could also be that he does not want to get too close to you so that you can’t hurt him.

In his mind, if he acts like everything is cool, you will eventually give up and go away on your own accord.

Another reason could be the lack of trust.

If you have done something in the past that has made him question your loyalty and trustworthiness, then he may show his emotions in other ways instead of being affectionate with you.

You see, Leos tend to be very affectionate, especially when they are in love.

They want to sweep their partners off their feet and shower them with love.

This is usually their way of showing appreciation and love, and it comes relatively naturally to them.

Needless to say that when he isn’t affectionate with you at all, then he may be playing you.

2) He antagonizes you

Leos are known for their arrogance and pride.

When you do something they don’t like, they will try to make it seem like you’re the villain.

You see, they have a tendency to want to be the victim.

They don’t take responsibility and instead lash out at others.

This is a big sign that he is playing you because he doesn’t want to change and has no intention of making it work with you.

You will notice that when you two have an argument, instead of listening to your side of the story, he might immediately antagonize you.

He will make you feel like you are the one with the problem and that it is all your fault.

He will try to put you on the defensive, and instead of solving anything, he will be pushing you away.

This is a big red flag that he is playing you.

You see, when a Leo man truly cares about you, these traits of his will be held on the down-low and he will make an effort to actually listen to your side of things.

And the worst part?

If he antagonizes you like that, he might be searching for a way to get you to leave him but doesn’t want to say it to you directly.

Simply put, if this keeps happening, he is playing you!

2) He doesn’t prioritize you

Leos are known to be dramatic.

They love the spotlight and they love being in the center of attention.

If you’re constantly not on his priority list, then this would be a sign that he is playing you.

You won’t always be a priority for him, but when a Leo is serious about someone, they make sure to make that person a priority.

I know, we can’t always be a priority for other people, life and responsibilities can get in the way.

However, if this man keeps you waiting for hours, canceling dates last minute and leaving you standing a lot, then it’s time for you to move on.

Leo or not, no man should treat you this way.

You see, if you want a man who respects you, you need to set higher standards for yourself.

He’s not getting back to you about a date you have set for tonight? Make other plans and tell him you can reschedule for a few days.

If he won’t make you a priority, he’s probably playing you and it’s time for you to find someone better.

4) You’re not triggering his inner hero

Okay, I know this one might sound a bit weird, but allow me to explain.

When you trigger a man’s inner hero, he will want to commit to you and be serious about the relationship.

There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.

This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.

I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.

The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.

But how do you trigger this instinct in him?

The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.

If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.

Here’s a link to his unique video again.

5) You don’t get to know his close friends

Leos are the type of people who have a lot of close friends and they would want to introduce their partner to their friends.

If you don’t know any of his close friends, it means that he is not really interested in you.

He is trying to keep everything secret and private, which could be because he doesn’t want his friends to meet you.

I know, this might hurt a bit, and of course, there could be other logical explanations for this, but when it happens in conjunction with any other signs in this article, it’s pretty clear.

You see, Leos usually only introduce people to their friends who they see an actual future with.

They are not the type of people who introduce people to their friends just for the heck of it.

If he’s not introducing you to his friends, it means he doesn’t see a future with you.

And if he sees no future with you, he’s probably playing you.

If that’s the case, try to get out of that relationship as soon as possible and find someone who is serious about you!

6) You don’t know where you stand in his life

If you are wondering where you stand in his life, there are many signs to look for.

If he doesn’t make time for you, or if he doesn’t seem interested in doing things with you, that is a sign of disinterest.

Leo men are all about getting their way and not compromising or sharing their spotlight.

If you have been on a date with your Leo man, and he has only talked about himself the whole night and never asked about your life or anything going on in your world, then this is another sign that he may be playing you.

But regardless of that, if you don’t know where you stand in a man’s life, chances are that he is playing you, no matter what other signs he shows.

You see, when a man is serious about you and he wants you in his life, he will make that very clear to you because he won’t want to lose you.

So, if you are confused about where you stand, that means he is not as interested in you as you would want him to be.

I learned this lesson the hard way but from my own experience, if a man likes you, he will leave no room for doubt in your mind whatsoever, it will be clear as day where you stand with him.

7) He won’t open up to you

Leo men are known for being confident and charismatic.

They are often funny, too, and are not shy to express themselves with their partners.

But if he is playing you, Leo men may show signs of reluctance to open up about himself or his feelings for you.

He may keep conversations short, only texting or calling when necessary.

He may also avoid eye contact and become cold when he’s around you.

His actions will clearly show that he doesn’t care about your feelings and wants to keep you in the dark about his true emotions as a way of keeping power over you.

A Leo man may also complain about feeling trapped in the relationship but not doing anything to change it.

These signs indicate that he is not happy with the current situation but won’t make an effort to fix it because of his laziness and unwillingness to get out of his comfort zone.

You see, if he can’t be vulnerable with you at all, that is a pretty good sign that he is not the one for you and he’s actually playing you.

If that sounds like your situation, it might be better to leave.

You see, you deserve a man who opens up his heart to you and lets you into his deepest thoughts, fears, and emotions.

Simply put, you deserve a man who is real with you and doesn’t hide behind a mask of confidence.

8) He tries to make you jealous

One of the signs that he is playing you is if he tries to make you jealous.

He will post pictures on social media with other girls, hoping that you will get upset.

If he does things like this, it’s clear that he doesn’t care about you and is simply playing a game.

He may also do things like talk about how many girls he likes or how many girls are interested in him.

That’s another sign that a Leo man is playing you as he knows his masculinity will impress women and make them want him more.

I know, this sounds terrible, and that’s because it is.

He might be trying to make you jealous in an attempt to get rid of you, or he’s just trying to let you know he’s not serious about you without actually saying the words.

If he is doing things like this, you need to get out of the relationship as soon as possible.

You see, a man who is real with you will not try to make you jealous.

He won’t worry about what other girls think of him or say about him.

He will be secure enough in his own masculinity that he won’t feel the need to prove himself to anyone but himself.

You see, if he’s trying to make you jealous, it’s because you aren’t a priority to him, as simple as that.

9) He doesn’t really try to get to know you

If you ask him questions and he doesn’t really answer them, that could be a sign that he is not interested in getting to know you.

He may also use the same responses to every question, like “I don’t know.”

You see, a Leo man usually loves to talk and hold a conversation, so if you feel like this man just doesn’t try to get to know you, there’s a good chance he’s just playing you.

Think about it: when you’re serious about someone, you want to know everything about them, right?

After all, they might be your future partner, so you’re interested in what they have to say.

But if he isn’t interested in getting to know you, then it’s clear that his intentions are not real.

He is just playing a game and trying to get you into bed.

You deserve someone who is interested in getting to know you and wants to know everything about you.

Again, if he’s not doing this, then it’s time to leave the relationship.

Think about it this way: what do you get from staying in this relationship?

You are simply wasting time with someone who doesn’t even care enough to get to know you better, so why bother?

This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.

When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to commit to you.

And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.

All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

10) He leaves right after sex

Okay, this one is pretty self-explanatory and shows the true face of the man you are dating.

If he leaves right after having sex every time, then you know exactly what his intentions are.

You see, if a man cares about you, he will want to be with you, even after the deed.

Men who are serious about a woman love nothing more than to spend the night, talk, and simply spend time together regardless of whether they have sex or not.

Another little sign that relates to this is when he is almost mad whenever you don’t want to have sex with him.

If that happens, you should be careful and take good care of yourself. Someone like that is not a good partner.

You don’t owe this man anything, and if he ever makes you feel bad for not being in the mood, it’s time to leave him.

You see, he only wanted you for the sex and so, when you don’t feel like it, he feels like he wasted his time.

I know this sounds disgusting – it truly is! But unfortunately, some men like that exist and when you are unlucky enough to meet one like that, you should run for the hills!

11) He admits it

Another huge sign that he is playing you is painfully obvious: he admits it.

You see, when he blatantly admits that he wants nothing serious out of this relationship, you know it’s time for you to move on.

You can also ask him if he is ready for a serious relationship and if he is ready to settle down, and you’ll probably get the same answer.

You see, if he is not interested in settling down with you and wants to keep having casual sex with you, then it’s time to move on.

He will tell you that he loves sex but doesn’t want anything more serious than that.

What kind of relationship is that?

Once he admits it, that should be the last straw and a reason for you to move on.

You deserve so much more than that!

Is he playing you?

You saw lots of signs here of whether or not he is playing you.

One piece of advice I have for you is that if he shows a lot of these signs, don’t try to change his mind.

That will only create a more painful situation for you.

Usually, when a man isn’t serious about you, that won’t really change.

Of course, you could try a thing or two, but if that doesn’t work, move on!

What could you try if you really wanted him to commit?

Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.

You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.

And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.

So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.

Click here to watch his excellent free video.

Can a gifted advisor help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to someone with special intuition.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Psychic Source when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into what my future holds, and the confidence to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

If you haven’t heard of Psychic Source before, it’s a site where gifted advisors help people through complicated and difficult life situations.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a highly intuitive psychic and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

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Anna Scheucher

Anna Scheucher

Freelance writer specializing in holistic health, wellness, and psychology. Check out my blog to find out more!

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