10 signs you’re in a really healthy relationship, even if it doesn’t feel like it

Ever find yourself thinking hard about your relationship? Wondering if it’s good or not?

Well, you’re not alone.

We all do it. And sometimes, it’s hard to tell. Love can be a wild ride, full of ups and downs.

But don’t worry, we’re here to help!

You might be surprised! Even if things feel a bit rocky right now, you could still be on the right track.

So, let’s dive into 10 signs that show you’re in a good relationship, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

1. You communicate openly

Do you and your partner talk about your feelings? Do you discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly?

If yes, then that’s a positive sign.

Open communication might not always feel good. Sometimes, it can lead to disagreements or heated discussions.

But remember, it’s not about avoiding arguments altogether. It’s about how you argue and whether you can resolve issues respectfully.

So, even if things get a little intense sometimes, as long as you’re listening, understanding and respecting each other’s viewpoints, you’re on the right track.

2. You respect each other’s individuality

A healthy relationship doesn’t mean you and your partner have to be joined at the hip. In fact, it’s crucial to respect each other’s individuality and personal space.

This includes hobbies, interests, and friendships outside the relationship.

If your partner encourages you to be yourself and pursue what you love, it’s a sign of respect and understanding.

When you feel a bit distant or detached at times, remember that having some ‘me time’ doesn’t mean your relationship is on the rocks. Instead, it shows that there’s mutual respect for personal boundaries.

3. You trust each other

Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship.

Let me share a personal example to illustrate this point. My partner and I have different work schedules; sometimes, we hardly see each other during the week.

At first, this caused a lot of anxiety for me. I would find myself worrying about what he was doing when I wasn’t around. But over time, I realized that my worries were unfounded. He always kept his word, was honest about his whereabouts, and never gave me a reason to doubt him.

So, I learned to trust him and our relationship deepened because of it. We understood that we couldn’t spend every waking moment together and that was okay. This trust between us allowed each of us to have our own lives, while still being committed to each other.

Whether you’re apart at times or grappling with moments of insecurity, keep in mind that trust isn’t something that happens overnight; it takes time to develop. If your partner is consistent, reliable, and open, you’re in a healthy place.

4. You both show appreciation

Feeling valued and appreciated is important in a relationship.

It’s not about grand gestures of love or expensive gifts, but rather the small, everyday things that show you care for each other. This could be as simple as a warm hug, a compliment or a ‘thank you’ for something they did.

Here’s an interesting fact: According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, couples who express gratitude towards each other are more likely to stay together. The research found that showing appreciation boosted relationship satisfaction and helped people withstand the rocky times.

When things get tough, just remember to show some love to your partner – it’s what keeps that strong bond going!

5. You support each other’s dreams and goals

In a healthy relationship, you and your partner are each other’s biggest cheerleaders. You encourage each other to go after what you want in life, whether it’s a career goal, a personal dream, or a fitness target.

There’s something beautiful about being with someone who sees the potential in you even when you’re doubting yourself.

They believe in your dreams, even the ones that scare you. They’re not threatened by your ambition but rather, they’re proud of it. They stand by your side, cheering you on every step of the way, although sometimes it may require sacrifices to be made, which I’ll explain in the following point.

When you’re dealing with roadblocks or feeling frustrated by setbacks, having someone who’s got your back and believes in you can really make a difference. It’s a sign that your relationship is strong and healthy.

6. You make sacrifices for each other

Let’s be real for a moment.

Love isn’t always a walk in the park. It’s not just about shared laughs, sweet kisses, and cozy movie nights. Sometimes, love is about sacrifice. It’s about making tough choices for the sake of your relationship.

Maybe it’s giving up a job opportunity to stay close to each other. Or maybe it’s as simple as skipping a night out with friends to take care of your partner when they’re sick.

These sacrifices might feel like losses at the moment, but they’re really investments in your relationship.

If you sometimes feel like you’re giving more than you’re getting, remember that sacrifices are part of the journey. They show commitment and dedication to your partner and the relationship.

It doesn’t mean you should always be the one giving up things, but a balance of give and take is a sign of a healthy relationship.

7. You feel safe to be yourself

There’s nothing quite like the feeling of being loved for who you truly are.

In my own relationship, I’ve found this to be one of the most valuable aspects. From day one, my partner and I were completely ourselves – no pretenses, no trying to impress or change to fit into each other’s worlds.

I still remember the day I was worried about sharing my love for cheesy 90s pop music, fearing he would find it silly. But instead of laughing at my guilty pleasure, he simply smiled, took my hand and we ended up dancing around the living room to the Backstreet Boys. That moment reassured me that I could be my true, quirky self without fear of judgment.

No need to stress if you’re feeling a bit uncertain or thinking your partner won’t dig your quirks and weirdness. In a solid relationship, they love you for being your awesome, unique self.

8. You’re comfortable in silence

Have you ever noticed how comfortable you feel when you’re sitting in silence with your partner? No need for chit-chat, no awkwardness, just the two of you enjoying each other’s company without saying a word.

This is a sign of a healthy relationship.

I’ve come to cherish these moments in my relationship. We could be on a long drive or simply sitting on our balcony watching the sunset, and the silence between us is never unsettling. Instead, it’s comforting, peaceful even. It’s during these quiet moments that I truly realize the depth of our bond. We don’t always need words to communicate or to feel connected.

9. You have healthy conflict resolution

Arguments and disagreements are inevitable in any relationship. What matters is how you handle these conflicts.

Do you listen to each other’s viewpoints? Do you apologize when you’re wrong? Do you work towards a solution together?

Here’s an interesting fact: According to the Gottman Institute, a renowned research center dedicated to relationship studies, it’s not the amount of conflict that matters, but rather how it’s handled. They found that couples who approach disagreements with respect and openness are more likely to have long-lasting relationships.

Whenever you’re in the midst of a disagreement or feeling frustrated with your partner, bear in mind it’s not about winning an argument, but rather understanding each other and finding a resolution. This shows that your relationship has the capacity to navigate challenges in a mature way.

I’ll explain more in the next point.

10. You forgive each other

We all mess up. We say things we don’t mean, we make mistakes, we hurt the ones we love. It’s part of being human.

But in a healthy relationship, forgiveness is key. It’s about learning to say, “I’m sorry” and also, “I forgive you.”

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or letting someone continually hurt you. It’s about acknowledging the pain, understanding why it happened, and making a conscious decision to move forward. It’s about choosing love over resentment.

It shows that you value the relationship more than holding onto grudges.

If it’s always perfect, it’s fake

Remember, no relationship is perfect. There will be challenges and disagreements. There will be times when you question if you’re in the right relationship.

But these 10 signs are solid indicators that you’re on the right track, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.

Trust your journey and know that a healthy relationship is about growth, understanding, and mutual respect.

Can a gifted advisor help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to someone with special intuition.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Psychic Source when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into what my future holds, and the confidence to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

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Dania Aziz

Dania Aziz

"A spirited lifestyle and love advocate, who loves to explore the two to help herself and others discover what they are really searching for."

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