15 spiritual signs he’s not the one (and what to do next)

Finally! You’ve met someone who ticks most of the boxes, and this guy seems like long-term relationship material.

BUT, for some reason, you keep feeling this nagging sensation that he is not the one. So, you ignore it, but as your relationship progresses, this nagging feeling continually haunts you.

Maybe you’ve had a disagreement that makes you think you don’t seem to click as well as your couple friends, or perhaps it runs deeper. One thing is for sure; you just can’t shake this gut feeling that something isn’t right.

Dating and relationships can be trial and error; you’re going to have to kiss loads of frogs before you uncover your prince, but, although you can never be sure, there are some clear-cut signs that he’s not the one.

So, read on to determine which spiritual red flags you need to be aware of to avoid heartbreak.

1) He throws shade and has a nasty streak

Does your partner always seem to throw shade at you when you’re around other people? And, when you call him out on it, he responds with, “Babe, relax, I was just kidding.”

Also, does he make inappropriate jibes and jokes at your expense?

It’s normal for guys to joke around at times, but the difference between a warm-hearted, not-so-funny joke and a direct attack is substantial.

Do you also feel like they never have anything nice to say about you, and are you worried about what they will say around your friends and family? Ladies, this is a significant sign that he’s not the one.

When these things are directed at your personality, character, and who you are vs. regular lovers banter, consider that your man is launching a full-scale personality attack on you.

If your partner does this frequently, an attitude adjustment is not going to help. Instead, this behavior can signify that they’re insecure and might have unresolved anger issues.

This toxic behavior can be damaging, so if you’re experiencing this (you’ll feel it in your gut), the Universe is revealing this to you so that you can get out now while there’s still time.

Nobody deserves to be saddled with a potential narcissist who’s passive-aggressive. RUN!

2) Your friends and family don’t get along with him

Do you avoid hanging out with family and friends because your partner doesn’t seem to get along with them?, Or, in situations where you are all together, do you get the impression that they avoid speaking to him or dislike being in his company?

There’s a reason why this is happening. Your loved ones know you inside and out, and it’s no, it’s because they’re being spiteful or intentionally mean.

Love clouds our judgment, and while you may be infatuated at the moment, those who know us best often know if someone is suitable or not.

It’s like the old saying, mother knows best. So, if you find yourself having to justify how much you love your partner to your family and friends, chances are, the Universe is telling you that he’s not the one.

Of course, we all have free will. You can choose to stay with a partner who doesn’t see eye to eye with your fam, not only presenting challenges down the line; it’s also super awkward for everyone involved.

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3) You feel more like his mom and not a girlfriend

Being on equal footing with whomever you choose to marry or stay in a long-term partnership with is always first prize.

Possibly you have had partners who take over and dominate in your relationship without valuing your opinion or allowing you to be involved in decisions.

Essentially, you’re being treated as a child, which is not healthy.

On the reverse end, do you find yourself constantly reminding your partner of everything and micromanaging them so that they do what they’re supposed to?

As a result, you act like a parent, which ultimately makes you lose respect for them.

Give and take are essential in a solid and loving relationship.

But, in the end, you’ve not put on this earth to mother your boyfriend and remind him to pick his wet towel off the floor.

So, if your relationship feels like you’re raising a toddler, it’s time for you to head for the door.

4) Your value systems are totally at odds with one another

Being with someone who does not share your values is probably one of the most vital signs you’re not with the right person.

Just as with your life goals, your values may be shaped by what you want out of life as well as what morals you live by.

Over time, you learn about their values.

Maybe wealth and status are important to them. Or maybe achievement and challenges are significant to them.

Perhaps they value spirituality, integrity, kindness, or humor. The list goes on, but you should be able to gauge what’s important to them.

The alignment of your values should naturally occur over time.

Besides interests and hobbies, it focuses on what you consider crucial and worthy of your time and energy.

When these don’t gel, being in a happy and healthy relationship is going to be tricky.

Are your values aligned? Now might be a good time to sit down and have a serious talk if you’re getting nowhere, girl; he’s not the one.

5) He rushes the relationship

During the honeymoon phase of a relationship, a guy may come at you hot and heavy.

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Relationships shouldn’t progress at lightning speed! It is exciting to start a new relationship, but moving too fast may cause the relationship to fail.

Take things slowly, and don’t be pressured into doing something you’re not comfortable with.

If he’s the one for you, he’ll respect your boundaries, and if not, it’s a telltale sign that spiritually, he’s not.

6) You’re constantly making excuses for him

You’re constantly trying to justify his behavior. He’s telling you something about himself and his character if he says or does things that make you uncomfortable.

There are various ideals and comfort levels among people.

One person’s ” okay” can be another’s “not okay.” If your man behaves in ways you find undesirable and puts you in an uncomfortable position, take a close look at it.

As the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words” – and so they do.

What are his actions telling you?  If they’re unsupportive, disinterested, unfair, and unethical, girl, move on.

7) He’s nonchalant and emotionally unavailable

When he doesn’t want to do the “work,” it’s another spiritual sign he isn’t the one.

Relationships can be a job, and hard work is necessary. Of course, certain relationship phases are much more straightforward than others, and we will all experience hard times, but it takes both partners to build a strong relationship.

It might be a sign that your current partner is not suitable for you if they show no interest in strengthening your relationship or working through underlying issues.

Your man might have a dry sense of humor that can come across as being distant, but sometimes, he’s intentionally sending bad vibes your way because he simply just doesn’t give a damn about your feelings.

Whatever the case, you don’t have to put up with this bs. You deserve a loving and supportive partner, so if he’s constantly bringing you down, it’s time for you to pull the plug.

8) You find your eye starting to wonder

Having only been attracted to your current partner for such a long time and then suddenly checking out everyone you see that seems attractive is something to be aware of.

While you do not know why this is happening, it may mean that you need to contemplate your current relationship and what is no longer working for you.

Sometimes you’ll get a karmic slap over the head from the Universe because you have never considered leaving your partner.

You might realize that your Mr. Right, was in fact, only Mr. Right now and that you still haven’t found “The One.”

Again, a very potent sign that your current bae is not the one.

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You’ll never worry about finding someone else who’s better than your soulmate if you’re in a genuine relationship.

Then, when you find your perfect partner, you will know, heart and soul, that they are the one for you.

You will know deep down that your soulmate is the one for you even if they are nothing like what you ever imagined.

But, on the other hand, you may wonder if someone better exists if you’re not with the one meant for you.

Often, you think about whether you and someone else are a good fit, and you’re worried that you may be missing out.

9) You are not comfortable being yourself around him

If you feel like you’re constantly making compromises to maintain peace in your relationship, then your partner probably isn’t “The One.”

In a relationship, the Universe usually communicates with us through our emotional bodies. So if it’s difficult for you to relax and be at ease, this is a big red flag that your man isn’t the one.

When you are with “The One,” you’ll have a feeling of clarity and stillness.

Ignore the karmic lures of fireworks, and intense passions for these are fleeting. Instead, focus on finding that feeling of being balanced and whole.

Your perfect match will differ from you but will compliment you. When you’re with them, you will feel a sense of peace and will be comfortable in your skin.

So, if you’re constantly feeling like you’re living a double life and can’t be yourself when you’re with him, it’s a definite sign that you need to move on. Fast.

10) He’s overly critical of you to a point where you feel disrespected

To criticize sometimes is normal.

However, when you’re criticized to the point that it starts becoming an endless cycle of “you aren’t great at that,” or, “you shouldn’t have done that” or, “I told you so,” this is a substantial spiritual red flag that you’re not with the right person.

If you feel like you have rocks in your stomach, you’re constantly anxious, sad, or worried about when the next round of critique may occur; this is a sign, sent straight from the Universe (to your gut), that it’s parting time.

The Universe constantly sends you signs; you just need to trust your intuition and listen to the messages.

11) He hears what you say but doesn’t listen

You need to communicate if you have any hope for the survival of a healthy relationship; after all, it’s the gateway to intimacy.

The need to share our feelings and chat with our other half should make us feel closer and more bonded to them.

Good communication is more than just talking. It also involves listening, and without it, communication is just a waste of time.

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If you feel like your partner isn’t in tune with what you’re saying, there could be several reasons this occurs.

Firstly, your boyfriend might be using this as a coping mechanism to ignore the touchy feeling things you’re saying to him.

Or, he is in disagreement with what you’re saying and by keeping mum, sparing your feelings rather than telling you what he thinks. 

Both examples are unhealthy and can be toxic in a loving relationship.

You should be able to share anything and everything with your boyfriend, and there should be enough mutual respect between you two to speak your minds.

Regardless, if you continually feel like a stuck record and that your partner isn’t entirely taking in what you’re saying, this is a telling sign alerting you to the fact that he is just not interested in what you have to say.

12) You’re an option, not a priority

Hanging out with you is a chore, and you’re the go-to when everybody else is busy.

As a result, your time together (when he can squeeze you in) consists of binge-watching Netflix.

You seldom enjoy adventurous activities together, and everything is always on his terms.

Also, you’re never the ‘plus one’ to important events, and you don’t get invited to hang out with his friends. They also have an annoying tendency to cancel plans and to bail on you at, last minute.

With that said, You’re also starting to feel like you’re cramping his style and that his friends are more important to him. This is a huge red flag.

A man that cherishes you will move mountains to spend time with you, so ladies, if you’re in this predicament, the Universe is confirming what you already know. He is not the one; get rid of him.

13) He acts shady

There is something off about your relationship if you feel like you’re a member of the FBI.

There might be some underlying jealousy issues present, or he’s doing dodgy things.

Trust is the most prominent cornerstone in any healthy relationship, so if you feel like you can’t trust him or he has given you reasons not to trust him, your relationship is going nowhere.

Trust your instincts; not being able to trust your partner is a huge sign that they’re not the one.

14) You don’t feel valued

In most cases, a man cannot see your worth for two reasons: either he doesn’t respect himself, so he can’t love you, or you don’t value yourself, so he can’t either.

You are wasting your time with someone who doesn’t value themselves, and it’s not your job to fix the problem.

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Also, if you don’t acknowledge your value, you cannot expect someone else to.

Know your worth and then add tax. Don’t give him the power to let you feel worthless, so if you’re feeling undervalued, the Universe has spoken. NEXT!

15) Your gut is telling you that he’s not the one

If you’re dating someone that you really like but simply are just not vibing with him, chances are he is not the guy you’re going to end up with

When something just feels off about the relationship, don’t justify why you should keep dating him.

Higher powers are letting you know via your gut because your head is not listening that the moment to call time of death on your relationship has arrived.

Wrapping up

So ladies, if you’re nodding your head in agreement with many of the points mentioned, it’s safe to assume that he is not the one for you.

What you do now is up to you. You can’t change him, nor can you afford to sit around and hope that things will come right.

Staying in a relationship merely for the sake of it is neither healthy nor productive. I know it sounds cliche, but with so many fish in the ocean, don’t feel pressured to catch the first one that swims your way. Don’t settle for a  guppy when you can be patient and catch a Salmon.

Take time to work on yourself, and don’t settle for less than you deserve. The right man will come into your life when you least expect it.

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