Being cheated upon by your twin flame sucks. Trust me, I know the feeling.
The good news is there are many things you can do about this. Here are 13 tips on dealing with your cheating twin flame, based on my firsthand experience.
1) Don’t blame yourself
First and foremost, you need to know it’s not your fault.
It’s not because you neglected your twin flame or took them for granted. As far as you’re concerned, you did everything to keep them happy.
The decision to cheat was solely theirs.
In fact, research has shown that people cheat mainly because of:
- Low commitment
- Need for variety
- Sexual desire
Don’t lose yourself thinking of how things could’ve been – or would’ve been. Your twin flame cheated, and that’s the end of the story.
2) …But don’t ignore the fact!
Some people believe in sweeping things under the rug – primarily because they really love the person.
Well, I beg to differ. When it comes to cheating, this is a big NO.
I know that denial is the first stage of grief, but you shouldn’t linger here.
You shouldn’t take a blind eye. You need to acknowledge what happened.
How would you be able to move on if you don’t recognize the fact that you’ve been wronged?
3) What would a gifted advisor say?
The signs above and below will give you a good idea about cheating twin flames.
But the best way to know for sure is to speak with a gifted advisor.
They can answer questions like, “why has my twin flame cheated on me?”
The issue, however, is finding someone you can trust.
That’s why I recommend Psychic Source. When I signed up for a reading, they provided me with a unique insight into my twin flame, including what the future holds for both of us.
Having tried several others, I think they’re the most caring, compassionate, and helpful network of gifted advisors out there.
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Not only will a genuine advisor tell you about your twin flame, but they can reveal what might happen in the future.
4) Keep your cool
Like any other person, you may be tempted to criticize them on the phone or send them a lengthy (and furious) text of what you feel.
Worse, you may be enticed to expose all their dirty laundry on your social media.
I feel you. You’re experiencing anger, which is the second stage of grief acceptance.
But before you do anything that you’ll regret, you need to take a deep breath.
Your twin flame did you wrong, sure, but there’s no reason for you to shame them (or set fire to their things.)
Whenever you feel the urge to go on a tirade, do something that’ll cool your mind. My suggestion? Self-healing meditation. It’s all about using your mind to heal your body.
Not only will this make you more self-aware, but it can also help reduce stress, anxiety, and depression!
5) Try to understand the twin flame runner’s feelings
Many believe that twin flames are physically unable to cheat.
They’re just like any other human being – they’re not immune from infidelity.
In fact, most of the cheating takes place in runners. They’re the ones most likely to develop bad habits – affairs included.
You can blame this on their low self-esteem – and circumstance as well.
See, runners run because they get too overwhelmed with the relationship. After all, they’re with a person who’s just like them. They’re reflecting all your qualities – most notably the bad ones.
That’s why it’s crucial to understand the chaser-runner dynamic. You won’t be left clueless as to why they cheated on you.
You’ll understand the motivations that pushed them to do so in the first place.
The best thing about acknowledging the runner’s feelings? This will help you understand that what happened is not your fault – as I’ve mentioned previously.
It’s theirs – and it’s just the way they are. Don’t beat yourself up over this.
6) Live with the fact that you’ll hurt for a while
A twin flame breakup is going to sting for a while. As for your part, you need to accept the fact that you will feel this way for quite some time.
See, we all grieve differently. A report says that it takes 3.5 months to heal (on average.) But in some cases, the pain could linger for about 1.5 years.
These projections could last even longer, depending on how committed you are to the relationship.
There’s also the trauma of betrayal, which could set you back a few more months (hopefully, not years – but this is possible.)
There’s no use trying to speed things up. You do you. It takes time to heal – and I’ll discuss that below.
7) Take time to heal
Life is a journey, not a race. You don’t need to ‘win’ the twin flame breakup.
Sure, they may get over you first – they left you, after all. But that doesn’t mean you should outrun them (or at least match their pace by looking for somebody else.)
Take all the time you need to heal.
Just think of the adage ‘time heals all wounds.’ It’s partially true, for time can help you:
- Process a painful event, such as infidelity
- Reflect on yourself – and the relationship
- Grow more as a person
- Make space for new people – and activities
The bottom line here is that you don’t have to hurry to get over them. Take as much time as you want, and don’t compare yourself to them – or others experiencing the same problem.
You are your own unique person. You deserve all the time you need to get over your cheating twin flame.
8) Don’t let fear steer the wheel
It’s easy to have fear take over you during a twin flame situation.
You feel like you won’t meet someone else like them – and it’s partially true, for you only get to have one twin flame across different lifetimes.
This fear, unfortunately, can drive you to make poor decisions. During bargaining or the third stage of grief, you may want to make compromises to get them back.
This could include, say, turning a blind eye to their infidelity.
So, believe me when I say this: a fear-driven decision-making process will only worsen everything.
As behavioral economist George Loewenstein explains it:
“Fear causes us to slam on the brakes instead of steering into the skid, immobilizes as when we have the greatest need for strength.”
Add to that, experts believe that fear can lead to “greater pessimism and feelings of unpredictability about the future as well as lower feelings of self-control.”
In a nutshell, don’t let fear take over your decisions. Do what you need to do because it feels right.
Before you know it, everything will fall into the right place.
9) Don’t play the victim forever
Yes, you are a victim for your twin flame decided to cheat on you. But as you see, it’s not healthy to revel in this fourth stage – depression – forever.
Listen: when you play the victim for too long, you’ll end up feeling hopeless and damaged.
You’ll feel so bad for yourself that you end up losing your self-esteem.
So instead of heeding the universe’s call for you to move on, you remain stuck in an unpleasant space.
You get defined by this event, which shouldn’t be the case.
Simply put: whenever you find yourself in a ‘victim’ frame of mind, try your best to snap out of it. If you don’t help yourself out, your support system can only do so much.
10) Work on yourself
While you’re not to blame for your twin flame cheating, this doesn’t mean that there’s no room for you to grow.
Just think of this: the only real way to know how to create a happy relationship with someone else is by creating it with yourself first.
You see, until you work on that, you’ll never find the happiness you’re looking for.
I learned about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his free masterclass on Love and Intimacy, he explains why it’s essential to put yourself first, before any romantic relationship.
And in fact, he explains why putting yourself first is actually necessary for a healthy romantic relationship.
By bringing the focus away from my twin flame and back to my own needs, I was able to restore the balance in the connection.
By unlearning my toxic attachment to my twin flame and loving myself, I was able to heal the pain of being cheated on by him.
I highly recommend that you go through this masterclass and make the most of it.
11) Have a small social media detox
Social media is good – but it can be bad for your mental health, too.
It’s no secret that it activates the brain’s reward system, which is why it’s highly addictive.
And, if you’re going through a pretty rough twin flame separation sickness, this may worsen your anxiety and depression too.
You’re going to see some of your twin flame posts with their new beau, especially if you’re social media friends.
And, even if you ‘unfriended’ them, you may be tempted to check their profile from time to time.
What you don’t see won’t hurt you. But if you keep looking at their profile and posts, you won’t be able to move on.
So if you want to be on the straight road to recovery, I recommend you undergo a social media detox.
Don’t just take it from me. Take it from the experts, such as clinical psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren.
In her interview, she explained that “Staying actively engaged in the relationship through social media will make it harder to move forward, and the recovery will take longer.”
That’s why she believes it’ll do you good to distance yourself from your social media accounts – at least for the time being.
“We need to take time away from our ex to start creating a ‘new normal’ that isn’t defined by the past relationship. Most of us benefit greatly by keeping our distance, including on social media,” she adds.
12) Surround yourself with family and friends
Your twin flame cheating on you is sure to leave a big hole in your heart. But instead of wallowing in self-pity, there’s a better thing you could do: and that is to surround yourself with your family and friends.
See, they’re the best support system you could ever have during this ‘rough patch.’
According to experts, these people can help:
- Listen to your twin flame problems
- Provide encouragement and boost your spirits whenever you feel down
- Make you more resilient in times of grief
- Identify if you’re stressed out and about to do something terrible (say, drunk texting your twin flame)
- Guide you and give you beneficial advice
- Think of the best ways to address your current situation
- Enjoy better health and well-being
Whenever the thought of your twin flame cheating takes hold of you, don’t be shy to run to your support system for help. Confiding with them is sure to ease your heart’s burden.
13) Keep yourself busy
While it’s true that time heals all wounds, you can make the experience go even faster by keeping busy.
If spending a lot of time with your twin flame kept your hobbies at the wayside, then it’s time to revisit them once again.
Paint. Sculpt. Do whatever pastimes you’ve neglected doing.
And, if you’re not a creative person, you can keep yourself busy by working out. Not only will this keep you healthy, but it can also make you happier.
According to psychologist Dr. Kelly McGonigal:
“When you exercise, it increases endorphins, dopamine, adrenaline, and endocannabinoid — these are all brain chemicals associated with feeling happy, feeling confident, feeling capable, feeling less anxiety and stress and even less physical pain.”
14) Don’t be afraid to seek professional help
If you think you need professional help to gain the acceptance that you need, then, by all means, do.
There’s no problem seeing a therapist. In fact, it’s one of the best things you could do for yourself.
Take the case of individual therapy, which could help explain how you’re feeling. Better yet, it can help you forgive, cope, and move on with your life.
There’s also couples therapy, which may be suitable in the long run. Remember, this will only work best if you are 100% decided to save the relationship.
Your twin flame cheating on you is truly devastating. But like any other problem in your life, you can get over this easily.
It’s just a matter of conditioning your heart – and of course, your mind. Before you know it, this twin flame separation will soon be over.
That said, if there’s a part of you that still wants to know more, I recommend consulting with a genuine advisor.
And there’s one company that I always end up recommending: Psychic Source. Not only did they blow me away with their accurate reading, but they were also very sympathetic to my situation.
So if you’re tired of wondering about your cheating twin flame, get in touch with a gifted advisor now. I’m glad I did, and I’m sure you will be too.
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