12 incredible signs of the twin flame runner chaser dynamic

The twin flame runner chaser dynamic forms part of a twin flame cycle that’s on the same spiritual path, but at different levels.

Because of its intense and often illogical nature, it can be hard to pin down and understand.

But this blog post will give you 12 incredible signs of the twin flame runner chaser dynamic, so you’ll know when it’s happening.

1) You’re getting into bad habits

When you’re in the twin flame runner chaser stage, it may be hard to deal with intense emotional pain. Sometimes, it comes strong without any warning at all.

Whether you’re the runner or the chaser, the separation phase from your twin flame is the most devastating experience to go through. And when you’re feeling a lot of despair, coping with the separation can lead to forming bad habits.

You start to drink and smoke a lot more than usual, you’re going out a lot and have no self-control to stop yourself from getting into trouble.

Or you could start taking on more addictive behaviors like gambling and other risky activities that take a toll on both your mind and body.

What matters is that you’ll ultimately seek comfort in any way that you can, however briefly or harmful it may be.

2) You put off important decisions

Being in the twin flame runner chaser stage has a way of putting off important decisions.

Heck, even the smallest decisions like what to wear to work, or where to go for dinner can feel insurmountable when you are in this dynamic.

Not only do you put off these small day-to-day choices; but big life-changing decisions such as moving cities, attending grad school, or changing careers are all put on the back burner.

You seem to keep getting “cold feet” about making a big decision that will impact the rest of your life.

Like whether or not to take a new job. Or how your finances are going to work out.

The reality is that you don’t care about any of that. At least, you don’t care enough to put much thought into the issue.

Instead, what you do is stall and delay and, eventually, you end up doing nothing.

Which is almost as bad as moving to another country and starting a new life with someone you don’t love.

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4) You take your health for granted

The twin flame runner chaser stage may not be for the faint-hearted. This is because you may not feel like you have a choice in whether or not to put yourself first.

Running away from, and pursuing love feel more important than anything else.

It’s easy to fall into an unhealthy routine when all your mental capacity goes towards obsessing over where your twin flame is and if this person’s thinking about you. You’d rather focus all your time and energy there than take care of yourself.

Not only are you neglecting yourself because of your busy life schedule; but the fact that you’re so detached from your day-to-day activities means that it’s easy for you to ignore any pain or discomfort.

The thing is, you may not realize how much damage is being done until the effects of neglecting yourself start showing up in other ways; like getting sick more often than usual, struggling with weight gain (or loss), and feeling exhausted all the time despite sleeping enough hours at night.

The twin flame runner chaser dynamic has a way of taking over everything in your life without giving anything back.

Without putting in effort towards maintaining healthy habits, you might find yourself lost in this unhealthy cycle for months on end before realizing something needs to change.

5) You return to an ex

Being in the runner chaser stage can be a very painful and overwhelming experience.

This dynamic can leave you feeling lost and unsure about what’s going on with both yourself and your twin flame relationship, so it can seem easier to return to someone who knows “the old” version of you.

However, familiarity with an ex-lover can be a tricky thing when you’re a twin flame in the middle of the runner chaser dynamic.

This tendency for you to return to an ex is usually because, in this stage of your twin flame journey, you feel like you need something familiar.

You reconnect, start seeing each other and try everything out again.

Eventually, you’ll realize there wasn’t anything worth saving from that relationship anymore because it doesn’t match up well enough after connecting with your twin flame.

Don’t get me wrong. Sometimes, reconnecting with exes isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

But if you’re looking for a second chance to make things work with your ex out of easy comfort and convenience, you’ll end up wasting time and energy.

The bottom line is that everyone pales in comparison to your twin flame. And no amount of familiarity or comfort can replace what you have with your twin flame.

You don’t need an ex to tell you that, do you?

6) You impulsively get involved with someone else

Being in a twin flame runner chaser dynamic means that you impulsively get involved with someone else because it’s an easy way out.

Similar to getting back with your ex, if you get involved with someone new, you think you can temporarily forget about the pain. You could also try to convince yourself that there’s a possibility to find a new twin flame.

By getting involved with someone new, you seem to want to experience that deep sense of connection again.

Here’s the thing: it doesn’t change anything.

When you’re in a runner chaser stage, the relationship with someone new might seem like it can replace that feeling of connection and love from a twin flame partner. But nothing will ever compare to a twin flame, and you’ll eventually feel that this someone new is a poor substitute.

You know, deep down, that no one will ever come close to being your twin flame.

7) You start to lose faith

Losing faith is another sign of being in a twin flame runner chaser dynamic.

To be honest, because these relationships are so intense and dramatic, being in this stage can push you to the edge, up to the point of losing faith that this person’s even the right one for you.

And that’s not all.

At this point, you could even question if a twin flame relationship is even real.

You’ll begin to doubt any belief that deep down inside, you know there’s someone who’ll complete all of your needs and desires as no other person can.

If you were the chaser in the relationship, you become anxious and start losing your faith in the relationship as well because your twin flame keeps running away from your advances, and trying to be with them becomes more difficult over time.

8) Finding happiness seems bleak

Finding your twin flame can be very intense and intoxicating. You’ve found your match, and you have everything that anyone could ask for in a life partner, and you’re on top of the world.

However, when you get to the runner chaser stage, this feeling of happiness can be lost in an instant.

It can feel difficult to hang on to that happy feeling because it’s as if someone else has control over your happiness and purpose.

You may find yourself struggling with depression or sadness on so many occasions because the relationship has turned from blissful into tumultuous and confusing.

9) You’re struggling with peace of mind

When you’re in a twin flame runner chaser dynamic, it can feel difficult to find peace within your mind.

Why is that?

Well, because you’re constantly in a state of limbo. You never really know what’s going to happen with your or your relationship, and this can be very unsettling for your mind.

You may experience constant anxiety and unease, always waiting for the other shoe to drop. This leaves you wondering why you’re not able to find happiness or inner peace despite having found your twin flame.

This could also cause problems with your family and friends. This is because you’re unintentionally unable to be fully present with and around them.

What’s more is that they won’t understand how much control this person has over your emotions, happiness, and purpose.

10) You constantly think about your twin flame

When you’re in the twin flame runner chaser stage, it can be a distressing process that leaves you wondering about your twin flame. Even if you’re trying to turn off your feelings, it’s nearly impossible because there was once an intense connection between you two.

You constantly think about your twin flame and wonder what they’re doing at all times of the day. This attachment causes your stalker tendencies come out because you check their social media accounts to see what they’ve been doing and to check if they’ve been in any relationships since your breakup.

And guess what? Your twin flame is most likely doing the same.

Believe it or not, twin flames have a telepathic connection. You’re linked in ways that make it possible for one person’s thoughts to become the other’s.

Now, let me clarify – it’s not that you read each other’s minds. Rather, you know what your twin flame’s thinking and feeling because it’s also happening inside your mind.

11) You become more mature

When you’re in the twin flame runner chaser stage, you become more mature as you get more clarity about yourself. You begin to recognize that you must improve yourself rather than wait for your twin flame to complete you.

That’s the great thing about being in this kind of relationship.

You strive to become the best version of yourself. You keep working on your life and make it better because you know that no matter what’ll happen with your twin flame runner chaser dynamic, you want to be able to look at yourself in a mirror without feeling like crap.

That’s why twin flames are teachers by default – they motivate us to improve.

Whether you’re the runner or chaser, you become more mature in understanding that it’s not always about the running and chasing dynamic you’ve been experiencing. You start to appreciate the separation as it’s a much-needed space for yourself.

It’s a good time for self-reflection, self-care, and self-improvement.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you no longer have feelings for your twin flame. It simply means that you’re able to recognize that sometimes, feelings get in the way of good decision-making.

And, more often than not, growth and maturity happen as you consciously choose to work on yourself more, in preparation for your twin flame.

12) You grow spiritually

During the twin flame runner chaser stage, both you and your twin flame start to discover who you are and start to grow spiritually.

You’ll both start to shed the emotional baggage from past relationships as you become more and more authentic. You’ll also start to connect with your spiritual side and learn how to trust your intuition.

This is a time where you both become more sensitive to the energy around you, and you may even start seeing or hearing things that others can’t.

You start to understand the meaning of synchronicity as it becomes increasingly common in your life. This is the time when you most feel your twin flame and where all synchronicities become messages of your unconditional love for each other.

You start to let go of fears, limiting beliefs, anger, guilt, and shame.

In this spiritual journey, you’ll both start to heal the emotional wounds from your past, and gain a new sense of courage, freedom, and self-assurance.

At this point, you’ll both be ready for a more balanced, joyous, and harmonious relationship with each other.

And when the time comes that you’ll reunite with your twin flame, your relationship will be deeper, more fulfilling, and more satisfying than ever before.

What to do while you’re in the twin flame runner chaser stage?

It may seem like the impossible, but moving on to ending the twin flame runner chase stage is going to be a long, strenuous process.

This is because the twin flame runner dynamic can last for years and you must work on it gradually in order not to cause yourself any more damage than what has already been done.

This twin flame separation can be a very painful one, but it’s also fascinating and beautiful in its own way.

You must understand that you can’t completely end this stage or get over your other half if they’re not ready to give up the chase either. Therefore, there are certain things you can do to get through this stage.

Keep yourself busy

The twin flame runner chaser dynamic can be a very draining one. It’s exhausting and you may end up feeling like your life is falling apart at the seams if this continues for too long.

Whether you’re the runner or chaser, you must remember that this isn’t something permanent. You will eventually get through this.

This stage will end at some point, but it’s something you can’t escape from if your twin flame isn’t ready for a committed relationship yet.

Moreover, anticipating the time it will end isn’t going to help either. You both must want this stage to end to move forward with your twin flame relationship, but it’s also important not to be too hard on yourself while you’re working on this process.

So in the meantime, find numerous distractions. Keep yourself busy with things that make you happy.

It could be anything, really.

Take up several hobbies that have been on your bucket list for some time. Start your home spring cleaning early. Travel the world with your dearest friends.

It could also be simply spending quality “me” time in the favorite part of your home, writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal.

All these are great ways to release all the negative emotions that are bottled up inside of you and will help you feel better in the long run.

Keeping yourself occupied will help take your mind off your twin flame and allow you to move on with your life. That way, you won’t have time to think about them and potentially obsess over what they’re doing at any given moment in the day.

Avoid toxic circles with your twin flame

You and your twin flame are meant to be together. However, that doesn’t mean that your paths will always cross.

To be honest, there’s no way of knowing if or when you’re going to see each other again unless the two of you truly want it and work towards making things happen on both ends.

You have to understand the chance that you’ll meet again and even getting the opportunity to build a committed relationship together will take time.

It won’t happen overnight.

You’re going to experience a rollercoaster of emotions throughout this entire twin flame runner chaser dynamic, but it’s important not let your mind get stuck in the past.

Therefore, don’t get stuck in toxic circles with your twin flame. Don’t allow yourself to fall back into old habits that are counterproductive to your growth and betterment.

Don’t let your memories with your twin flame hold you back from living.

You have to realize that the past is exactly what it was. It’s over.

Instead of letting your past hold you back in toxicity, use them as your motivation to move forward towards what you want to accomplish in your life.

There’ll be plenty of time for reminiscing and healing after the twin flame runner chaser stage is finally over.

Focus on what you want and move in that direction because chances are, there’ll be many bumps along the road. But with enough patience and dedication, you will eventually get to where you want to be.

Don’t regret anything about your twin flame relationship

When you’re in the twin flame runner chaser dynamic, it can be very easy to regret the memories that the two of you have shared together. That’s the effect of the intensity of the connection you have with them.

As the runner, you may have a hard time letting go of the past, while as the chaser, you may struggle with moving on and building a future for yourself.

But regret is a feeling that you should never feel.

The past is just that – the past. You can’t change it, and you shouldn’t want to either.

Don’t regret anything you’ve done during your relationship with a runner or a chaser because everything happens for a reason – even if those reasons aren’t apparent at this time.

It may be hard to let go and move on at first, but give yourself time.

Things will get better every day.

Work on yourself

Of course, this is something all people should do. But when it comes to someone who’s experiencing the twin flame runner chaser dynamic, working on one’s self is particularly important to remember to do.

Put yourself first and focus on your own needs.

You have to learn what you want in life and how to go about fulfilling those dreams so that you can grow, and be your own person.

Stop falling into the same traps over and over again with your twin flame. It’s only going to keep dragging on this dynamic for longer than necessary.

That won’t be good for you or your relationship.

Remember, it’s always a good idea to trump self-love over anything else.

It’ll definitely take a lot of work, but before you can give yourself the kind of love your twin flame deserves, it’s important to learn and understand how to appreciate and take care of yourself.

Once you’re able to do this, you’ll be more than ready to give yourself and commit to your twin flame when the time comes that you’ll see each other again.

Are Twin Flames and Soulmates the same?

There are many similarities between a twin flame and a soulmate, but ultimately, they are distinct from each other.

According to licensed psychotherapist Babita Spinelli, there’s a common misconception that a twin flame is a person who completes you.

On the contrary, twin flames are two halves of the whole. They’re believed to be one, split into two bodies.

Soul mates, on the other hand, are just extraordinary links with separate individuals.

We have many soul mates in this lifetime, and through our personal choices, we may gravitate toward specific soul mates and navigate away from others.

In other words, soul mates come and go. We can meet a number of them throughout our lifetime, and it’s up to us to decide whether to keep them in our lives or not.

That’s not the case with twin flames.

The twin flame relationship, which is usually romantic, carries an energy that’s incredibly great and powerful. Meeting your twin flame may be sweet, magical, and dream-like at first, but it’ll evolve into a crash course of spiritual enlightenment.

This person, this relationship, will mirror back to you aspects of yourself you must heal.

Your fears, your insecurities, your judgments, your issues with true intimacy, anything holding you back from being your true divine self will be placed front and center for you to face.

Twin Flame Stages

For betting understanding, it’s important to get an overview of the twin flame stages. This will help you understand why your twin soul’s so different from all other relationships you’ve experienced until now, and how you can make the most out of it.

1) Yearning for “the one”

This is the stage of your life before meeting your twin flame, which usually lasts the longest. So if you haven’t met your twin flame yet, this stage can last for years.

But here’s the kicker: in this stage, you know that there’s someone perfect for you out there.

You can have happy relationships, but at the back of your mind, you’ll have that feeling that there’s still someone out there who’s more perfect for you.

So what happens is that a lot of people unconsciously spend this time preparing for the arrival of their twin flame. This is translated into developing their own self-awareness, discovery, and understanding to have a better idea about what they want in life.

2) Meeting your twin flame

For most people, meeting your twin flame in person can be quite an overwhelming experience.


Because twin flames have this energy unlike any other.

It’s an instantaneous but deep connection with one another that feels like the most natural thing in the world, even if at first this person doesn’t feel like someone who’s meant for you, and vice versa.

The chemistry between you two will feel right despite all your doubts and fears about it.

3) Falling in love

Meeting your twin flame is a momentous experience. And when you fall in love with this person, it’ll change your life forever.

Make no mistake: you will fall very hard.

The intensity of the relationship will be more intense than anything else. And the impact will be so consuming that it might knock the breath right out of your lungs.

You may even resist or try to run away from it at first but eventually, you’ll give in and embrace it.

In fact, as you get closer with them over time, falling deeper into an unconditional emotion is inevitable.

4) It’ a fairy tale

You’ve finally found your twin flame! You’re in a state of bliss, and you can’t believe how perfect this feels.

This relationship will be the best experience because, even without trying, the strong connection with your twin flame makes everything better than before.

It’ll be the best relationship you’ve ever experienced because it feels like this person fulfills every single need that was missing from life before them or even knew existed.

This fairy tale romance with your perfect match makes everything seem so effortless. There are no worries about what could go wrong when they’re around at all times.

5) Here comes the challenges

This twin flame stage will be quite a challenge because as you’ve been enjoying your relationship, differences in opinion and personality eventually arise.

You’ll start to fight and argue with each other.

Now, it’s easy to get upset and frustrated when the bickering seems endless. You have this intense energy between each other that can be quite overwhelming when there are disagreements.

But keep in mind that, like twin flames, you’ll feel more about and for each other on a spiritual level. Conflict may be uncomfortable in its own way, but this is a necessary part of growth.

6) The runner and the chaser

The runner and the chaser stage is said to be the most difficult stage in a twin flame relationship. In fact, it could also be the longest because it could last for years.

Here’s the thing: there’s a lot of push and pull in a twin flame relationship. And when the inevitable conflict and tension happen, you’re pushed to the limits.

What happens is that one of the twin flames may emotionally or physically “run” away from the other, while the other one will pursue or “chase” the runner.

7) Surrender and dissolution

The journey of a twin flame relationship can be grueling and intense at the same time, and surrendering isn’t easy especially for those who are used to being in control of their lives.

But when you let go of past triggers and insecurities, accept each other’s faults, and feel right about it once again, you’ll end up surrendering to the relationship.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a runner or chaser.

If you muster up the strength to let go of your ego and allow the relationship to unfold as it should, you allow yourself to become immersed in the bliss of twin flame union.

8) Reuniting as one

The eighth stage of the twin flame relationship is the result of fully accepting your destiny and the twin flame journey.

You know, it’s almost impossible to describe your love for each other. It’s as though your souls are connected by an invisible thread and nothing can break that connection.

In this stage of oneness, you get to share your life with someone and help them grow. You feel empathy for each other’s struggles as well as understanding what it’s like in the same boat together.

In this reunion, you truly become “one” in an indestructible way. You can never be separated again.

It’s a matter of time

Twin flame relationships can be overwhelming, especially when you’re in the runner chaser stage. But if you’re willing to work through this period, there’s no way that your union can’t be successful.

That being said, the twin flame runner chaser dynamic isn’t a stage that you should rush through. You will need a lot of patience, and a strong will.

If you’re the runner twin, allow yourself to run without regret. Use this time to improve yourself and develop your spirituality, and work on any personal problems that might get in the way of your relationship.

Strengthen your relationship by getting stronger apart.

If you’re the twin flame chaser, go ahead and chase your twin flame. Show them that you’re serious about them and that you won’t let them slip through your fingers. But allow yourself to discover life and grow as well without them.

Don’t give up on the relationship, and don’t make any rash decisions while you’re apart. Just know that everything will work out if both of you keep working together towards your true twin flame connection.

When you’re both ready, you’ll find each other again.

Can a gifted advisor help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to someone with special intuition.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Psychic Source when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into what my future holds, and the confidence to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

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Frankie Pascua-dela Pasion

Frankie Pascua-dela Pasion

Frankie was born and raised in Manila, Philippines. She is a graduate of Humanities from the University of Asia and the Pacific. Frankie is a seasoned Customer Success and Human Resources professional. She is also a certified Life Coach and Career Strategist. She helps people young and young at heart to simplify their lives by creating emotional awareness. She also loves working with people who have a genuine interest in breaking their inner limits through their journey of self-discovery and authenticity in their personal and professional lives. Frankie’s recent venture into writing is fueled by her passion for human connection and meaningful relationships at home, at work, and basically everywhere. She enjoys the research, discovery, and reflection that go into each article as much as she writes about them, in the hopes that her words resonate with, and give perspective to her audience. Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn: Frankie Pascua-dela Pasion

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