You thought you were being all slick and sneaky by, you know, being single.
Well, God’s not fooled.
He’s been preparing you for marriage for years.
Here are 14 signs that God will soon make your momentous union possible. It’s coming soon!
1) You’re (unconsciously) seeking a life partner
To begin, you’ve been seeking a lifelong partner.
Your soul longs for someone to share life with and love unconditionally.
You know the loneliness of singledom is getting old and you’re ready to settle down (if you’re with someone special).
You can’t get enough of reading your favorite authors – characters who found their kindred spirits in each other. Their stories make your heart sing a little louder as they soar through happy years together.
Remember the times when you see a person and you just thought, “Well, that’s a great quality for a spouse.”
You pray many times in secret for your life partner to be revealed to you.
2) You’re getting tired of the party life
It takes a lot of energy and time to keep up with the party scene.
Before you know it, early morning comes around and you’re wondering if your head will ever be clear again.
So much for those plans for the day– now maybe tomorrow. The partiers always get up to something at the last minute.
You’ve learned to just make it through the party life. You’ll do anything for a good party. But I know you don’t want to live like that forever.
Just the thought of being hungover the next day doesn’t sound like a very efficient use of time even if you will definitely have fun.
For the most of it, you spend your free time by:
- Working on your spiritual growth
- Learning useful skills (cooking, driving, etc.)
- Serving others
- Or, really, just reading
Again, you’re seeking God’s will for your life and waiting patiently for His perfect plans to unfold.
3) Your friends are (unknowingly) placing you in a marriage match
You may have noticed your romantic friends have been trying to set you up.
They know it’s time for you to find “the one” and have a lifelong partner.
For instance, they may mention they know a guy like you who’s single and looking, or they’ll throw out the names of potential matches such as “Ben Murphy – single biker looking for a girlfriend”.
Your friends are also aware that it’s a numbers game.
Heck, they don’t want you to stay single either.
But they know that God has a perfect partner in mind for you and many suitable matches out there (if you’re ready).
So you keep an open mind and be ready to meet your future spouse, your friends might just have someone in mind for you!
4) You’ve gained some life experience
“All I need is just a little more life experience before taking the big plunge into marriage. I’m not quite ready yet.”
Life experience is a necessary part of the natural process (the process God has set in place) to prepare you for marriage.
I’ve personally witnessed this, because most people I know who are either newly engaged or married got married after a short period of time from when they were single. They were not just “ready” when they married; marriage happened quickly for them. I know it’s hard to wait.
But trust God, and you’ll understand why the natural process is necessary to prepare you for marriage.
With this, your experiences in life made you a better person.
And remember, people don’t change much in just a few months (or years) – that’s how you know it’s more than just a “phase.”
5) You won’t settle for anything less than your soul mate
You want to be with someone who you can trust and falls in love with you unconditionally.
The thought of settling down with someone who doesn’t love you or respect your values as they should make you cringe inside. It sounds like a terrible life.
So you’re looking for a partner who will make life better, not worse.
You want someone who will add value to your life and be role-model material for the kids.
While you’re admittedly focused in your search for your soul mate, it’s hard to see what you want. You know the individual you’re meant to be with will look and feel differently from anyone you’ve ever known before.
But that’s not something to be bothered about – since God is in control.
So you wait patiently and know that the perfect match is coming soon.
Here’s you: an extremely faithful, honest person who lives his life to the fullest.
And these core beliefs are very important to you. So you want someone who sees things the same way, as this will make life so much easier and more meaningful for both of you.
6) Your sexual lifestyle has changed
Remember the nights when you just want to be with someone just to release some of all you’re feeling?
Well, that’s because your sexual hunger has grown and become more and more intense.
You love the feeling of intimacy (sex), but you still don’t have that deep, lasting relationship you crave. So you’re looking for something to fill the void left by being single.
Now, you’ve learned to have self-control with sex – to not just have sex to just anyone.
You know to protect your body from the sin of premarital sex. You’ve learned that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage (because it’s not just about you).
You now know how to respect yourself so that others will respect you as well. You’ve learned some important lessons about purity and your sexual identity.
It seems like you’re ready to handle lifelong sexual intimacy with a partner.
You don’t want to enter into marriage and be caving in to pressure from your libido (sex drive).
You can wait.
7) You’ve become a little pickier about whom you date
Now that you’re older, you no longer look at every potential mate from your Facebook catalog.
Instead, you’re now looking for someone who is sincere, kind-hearted, has good morals and values, someone who is growing in their relationship with God every day (that’s very important) – someone with a sense of humor would be nice.
You’re becoming a little more picky these days.
You’ve got your standards all set.
You’re not looking for a party animal here, you want someone who is consistent and ready for you – someone who wants to build a future with you.
8) You’ve learned to listen to your head and heart
When making the next steps in your dating life, you’re now listening to your logical mind and the voice of your heart.
You may be tempted to get married without being sure God’s plan is for you. If you’re not sure, you’re waiting and praying on it.
You’ve learned to listen to your head as it guides you throughout the dating process; this is an intellectual decision and not just an emotional decision.
You also listen to your heart for that little “feeling” about your partner.
Simply put, you’ve learned that while your heart wants to be in love, your head tells you not to get too serious too fast.
You’ve learned that while God might prompt your heart to jump in head first with someone, that it might not be the right person.
9) You’ve finished most of the “work” God has for you before you get married
You’ve learned to trust God as He guides you throughout your life.
You’ve learned that He had a perfect plan in mind for what was best for you, and that when things don’t go as planned, He has a way of making the best things come out of it (I’m not just talking about marriage here).
You’re ready to make God your number one priority now.
You know that when you get married, it will be with someone who will build a lasting relationship with you and God–not just with another person. You’re a person who knows that God has a purpose and a plan for you, and you’re looking forward to spending your whole life with the one He chose for you.
You’ve finished the “work” God’s been doing in your life with His help (even though He might not have said so explicitly).
God has been working in your life, because He’s been speaking to you (not always with words, but through His Spirit).
He wants you to be happy and fulfilled. He wants you to know Him. He wants your life to be a testimony of His grace and goodness.
10) You have the right attitude about your dating process
Looking at your dating history, you’ve learned to have a positive attitude about dating, rather than a negative one (or one full of doubt).
You know that God hasn’t forgotten about you–that He is not hiding from anyone, nor is He playing any games. You know that God has a plan for you. You’re not looking for someone to change your life, and you’re not looking for a “quick fix” romance.
You’re looking for the right person with whom you can remain in the relationship you have with God and be happy doing it. You have the right attitude about your dating process because you know that God has already given you all the tools needed to find the right person.
God has already given you the peace and strength to handle the difficulties of dating.
You’re not looking for a perfect or flawless person.
You know that God made everyone with imperfections in mind, so you’re not expecting your partner to be everything for you. You’re just looking for someone who will be a good companion, friend, and marriage partner for you.
11) You’ve let go of any reservations you might have
You let go of any reservations you might have about being in a relationship.
You know that God’s perfect plan for your life is for you to be truly happy and fulfilled.
Listen to this: you’re not looking for someone to change you, nor are you looking to change your life, if there’s something wrong with it. You’re not looking for someone to help you get over the things that might be troubling you, nor do you want to change yourself, as a person, for them.
You’ve let go of these feelings stopping you from finding the right person for you.
12) You’re asking yourself if you’re ready for marriage
You’ve asked yourself this question many times before.
Not to be blunt, but if you haven’t asked yourself that question, then I think it’s good for you to take a look at your life and ask why not:
- Are you mentally stable?
- Are you emotionally stable?
- Are you financially stable?
Do you have any issues from your past that would be better to work through before getting married?
If not, then get ready! Because God is ready.
It’s important to be self-aware. It’s a no-brainer, but you need to be ready for marriage before you get married.
You constantly check on yourself and your own ego.
You’re committed to God, and you know that you’re a worthy person.
You know that getting married will give you the security of God being your rock (not to mention an awesome wedding… just saying!) and that He’ll be there for you through it all (especially the hard times).
13) You want to marry for the right reasons
You want to get married for all the right reasons, not just because everyone around you is getting married, or because all your friends are engaged, or because you think of weddings as something romantic (you know they’re mostly!).
You want to get married because you want to be married. You want to be a couple and grow together, not just get married because you think it’s what you’re supposed to do.
As if that’s enough, you want marriage to help you grow as a person, rather than make you lose who you are – you know that no matter what happens in a marriage, God is always there for you, and will never leave or forsake your marriage (Hebrews 13:5).
You respect the institution of marriage and you want to become part of it for a lifetime.
You know that if God wants you to get married, He’ll bring the right person into your life, whether it’s now or later on. But trust me, it’s soon!
14) You have someone special in mind as your match
You’ve found someone you truly want to be with forever.
You’re really looking forward to being with them for the rest of your life.
This person has a personality as unique as you are. They’re a good fit for who you are as a person and how God has made you, so it’s perfect for both of you.
You want the same things that person wants in life and for you as a couple. You feel a calling to be with this person, to grow and mature together, to be there for each other no matter what.
And the best part is?
You know that God has found the right person for you.
Of course, you know it’s not up to you to find the right person (that’s God’s job).
He has already found your match. You’re looking forward to being with them and growing together.
You can’t wait to be married – you can’t wait to start a family with that special someone, and create an awesome new life with them.
You can’t stop thinking about this match. You just know they’re the one – your better half.
Marriage is a huge step.
It’s a one-time thing, and it’s for life.
So you have to make sure that you’re ready for marriage before you get married. If not, you just have to wait until you’re ready, because nothing great can be built on something that wasn’t meant to last.
You need to be sure that your attitude towards dating is positive and non-distorted (like looking at the world through rose-colored glasses).
That’s why God guides us through faith and through our hearts to know whether or not we’re ready for marriage.
We’re hard-wired for God, so when we feel something in our heart, that’s what we can trust.
God has the power and wisdom to help us know whether or not we’re ready for marriage.
It’s important that you learn how to rely on God in every step of your dating process.
So we can make sure that we’re looking for the right person with His help.
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