Virgo men are natural analysts, constantly observing and analyzing the people around them.
This makes them excellent partners, but it also means they will be incredibly thorough when testing you to see if you’re a good match.
Here are 10 ways a Virgo man will test you and how you can best respond:
1) He’ll see how well you communicate
One of the first ways a Virgo man will test you is by observing how well you communicate.
He’ll want to see if you and he can calmly discuss sensitive topics with ease.
He’ll also want to see if you can be diplomatic in your communication and avoid saying anything that may offend him.
After all, communication is key in every relationship — and especially in a romantic relationship.
If you have a difficult time communicating with your partner, then it’s important to figure out what is causing the issue.
Are you not being heard? Do you find yourself getting defensive? Do you struggle to find the right words?
If so, you may want to look into ways to improve your communication skills.
You see, improving your own communication skills will not only help you with your Virgo man’s tests, but it will also improve all your relationships in general.
Communication is always important, whether that’s with a partner, a friend, or even your boss.
And if you’re having trouble improving your communication skills, then you may want to look into some of the best books on communication.
Doing so will impress this Virgo man and it will also help you be a better person, in general.
2) He’ll see if you can handle criticism
Virgo men are extremely critical thinkers, and they’re very good at pointing out other people’s flaws.
This means he’ll be quick to criticize you, but only because he’s trying to help you improve.
If you can’t handle constructive criticism and you get easily defensive, he’ll know that you’re not a good fit for him.
If you’re in a relationship with a Virgo man and he criticizes you, try to see the positive in his criticism.
Ask yourself what you can do to improve. And remember that he’s criticizing you because he cares and wants you to be the best version of yourself.
However, that doesn’t mean you have to let him walk all over you or criticize you without saying anything in return.
If you can’t handle his criticism, then it may be better to end the relationship and find someone who will appreciate your efforts.
But you can also be honest with him and talk about how the way he criticizes you sometimes triggers you and how he could better phrase things.
This will make him realize that he needs to be more careful with his criticism and that you’re not going to take it lying down.
Believe it or not, seeing how open and honest you are about this will convince a Virgo man that you might be the one!
Are you giving him what he wants?
How well do you really know your Virgo man?
The simple truth is that understanding the unique traits of a Virgo can help you better connect with him on an emotional, spiritual, and even sexual level.
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3) He’ll test your boundaries
One of the best ways to test your boundaries as a potential partner is to test how well you set boundaries.
Are you able to say “no” when you need to without feeling guilty?
Are you able to set clear expectations and communicate your needs to your partner?
If so, he’ll know that you have good boundaries and are a good fit for him.
If you’re in a relationship with a Virgo man, make sure you are able to set boundaries without feeling guilty.
It’s okay to say “no” or to set clear expectations. If you don’t, he may feel like he’s walking on eggshells and that you’re not a good fit for him.
However, setting boundaries is difficult, especially if you’re not used to it.
If you’re not used to setting boundaries, it may be best to wait until you feel more comfortable with them.
But if you feel like you can set clear expectations and communicate your needs, he’ll know that you’re a good fit for him!
Now, if you aren’t comfortable setting boundaries, the problem is usually not the other person, but your relationship with yourself.
A part of you might believe that you are not worthy of having your boundaries respected.
And that might cause you to feel guilty and end up feeling like you don’t deserve to have them respected.
But if you can acknowledge this feeling and work on it, you’ll find that setting boundaries become easier for you.
And the best part?
This will be exactly what this Virgo man wants to see!
4) He’ll see if you’re equally invested
If he’s testing to see if you’re equally invested in the relationship, he’ll want to know that you’re as committed to it as he is.
He’s not a man who will jump into something without being 100% certain that it’s the right decision, so he wants to make sure you’re as invested as he is.
One way you can show him you’re equally committed is by making sure you invest in the relationship as much as he does.
You can do this by making sure you’re communicating with him, spending time with him, and making him feel special.
If you do these things, he’ll know that you’re just as invested as he is and that you may be a good partner for him.
You see, a Virgo man just wants to feel secure, he doesn’t want to feel like he’s being taken advantage of.
If he feels like you’re not equally invested in the relationship, he’ll feel like you’re taking advantage of him and that it’s not a good fit for you.
So, simply put effort into the relationship, as well, and show him you are serious about it (if you are).
5) He’ll test to see if you’re a risk taker
Virgo men make excellent risk takers, so he wants to make sure you’re a risk taker too. However, they like to take calculated risks.
If you’re too careful with your emotions and you’re afraid to take any risks, then he may not think you’re a good fit for him.
But if you go out on a limb and take crazy risks all the time, that might push him away, too.
If you’re dating a Virgo man and he wants to know if you’re a risk taker, try taking risks in your relationship.
You can do this by talking about your feelings and emotions, or you can try taking a few small risks with him.
If you’re in a long-term relationship, you can also try out new things together to show him that you’re willing to take risks.
Taking small risks together can strengthen your bond.
If he’s testing to see if you’re a risk taker, he wants to see that you’re willing to take a few risks in your relationship.
He’s not looking for you to be reckless, but he does want to make sure you’re not too careful and afraid to try new things.
One way you can show him that you’re open to taking risks in your relationship is by being open to new experiences together.
6) He’ll check to see if you can be trusted
One way a Virgo man will test you and see if you can be trusted is by checking to see how honest you are with him.
If you’re always honest and upfront with him, he’ll know that you can be trusted.
If you lie or try to hide things from him, he’ll know you’re not a good fit for him.
If you’re in a relationship with a Virgo man, make sure you’re honest with him.
This means you should be honest about your feelings, your past, and your future.
If you’re upfront with him, he’ll know that you can be trusted and that you may be a good fit for him.
You see, for a Virgo man, it’s all about trust and being able to feel safe with you.
If you can’t be honest with him, then he may not feel safe with you.
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7) He’ll check to see if you have your own life and are independent (but not too independent)
Virgo men are incredibly independent people who love to do things on their own.
They also want their partners to be independent, but not too independent.
If you don’t have your own life and you’re always leaning on him for everything, he’ll know that you’re not a good fit for him.
If you’re in a relationship with a Virgo man and you want to show him that you have your own life and are independent, try to do things on your own.
You can also talk to him about your interests and encourage him to spend time with his friends too.
You see, Virgo men value a good balance – you are okay on your own but not so independent that you make him feel like he’s not needed.
If you want to be with a Virgo man, make sure you’re independent, but still, show him that you need him to some extent.
8) He’ll gauge how much you care
Virgo men are incredibly caring people, but they also want to see if you care as much as they do.
If you show him that you care and that you’re invested in the relationship, he’ll know that you’re a good fit for him.
One way you can show him that you care about the relationship is by talking about your feelings. You can also try to do things for him that show how much you care.
Find out his love language and then do something nice for him according to that.
The love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, and acts of service.
If you care about him and you want to be with a Virgo man, then try to do things that will show him how much you care.
9) He will look at your past relationships
Your past relationships and partners can say a lot about who you are as a person or what type of relationship you’re looking for.
If you want to be with a Virgo man and he looks at your past relationships, then this is a good sign that he may be a good fit for you.
He’s not looking at your past relationships to judge you – he’s looking at them because they can give him insight into who you are.
He wants to know if your past partners were good people or if they were cheaters or liars.
He also wants to know if they were compatible with him, which will tell him how compatible he might be with you.
By seeing your past experiences, he will also know in which ways you might be scared of relationships – for example, if your past partner cheated on you, you might have trust issues.
Talking honestly about your past with him will convince him that you are the one.
10) He’s NOT just looking for perfection
Finally, you may feel like a Virgo man is just looking for perfection in a partner.
But the truth is that he’s not just looking for the perfect partner — he’s looking for the best partner for him.
If you’re dating a Virgo man, don’t try to be perfect for him.
Instead, focus on being the best version of yourself. If you do that, he’ll know that you’re a good fit for him — no matter if you are “perfect” or not.
Most importantly, just be yourself. Don’t try to change to pass your Virgo man’s tests…
If you don’t pass his tests, then you aren’t meant to be together, anyways!
Think about it: you want someone to love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be, right?
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