Hang out with people who belong in your future

You might not pay attention to it, but the kind of people you surround yourself with can have a huge impact on your growth and overall well-being.

It’s this simple:

When you surround yourself with supportive and motivated people, you’ll grow and succeed more. But surround yourself with negative and toxic people, and your life will be a living hell.

It’s not selfish to cut off people that constantly bring you down. At the same time, it’s completely alright to have high standards when it comes to your intimate relationships.

Here are _ types of friends you need to avoid at all costs:

1. The “Debbie Downer”

A “Debbie Downer” is someone who constantly adds negative energy to social situations. This type of friend is someone who constantly makes people feel bad, either for sport or just because they’re unhappy themselves.

Debbie Downers are extremely dangerous. Even studies show that being with negative people is incredibly harmful and contagious.

Do yourself and everyone else around you a favor and slowly distance yourself from them. No matter how “positive” you are, they’re bound to drag you down.

2. The Defeatist.

This type of friend is the one that always puts you down, whether it’s downplaying your potential or telling you to just give up.

Every time you’re suggesting something or coming up with an idea, The Defeatist will always be the first to shoot you down. Worse, they’re so convincing, that they’ll list all the reasons why you shouldn’t do it and why you’re only wasting your time.

Defeatists are dangerous because their constant fear of the unknown will eventually rub off on you, too. If you’re not careful, they’ll plant so much fear in you that you’ll no longer be willing to try new things.

3. The Skeptic

If you think The Defeatist is bad, it’s nothing compared to The Skeptic. Skeptics are extremely dangerous because they suck out all the joy and excitement of any challenge or change coming your way.

They’re always quick to point out all the bad things that could happen.

Worse, is that they’re really passive-aggressive about it. They will make you think that they’re excited and supportive of your plans, but they’re the ones who secretly relish on your failures.

4. The Braggart

Are you friends with people who are always talking about themselves and making themselves look better?

Braggarts are people who always need to be in the spotlight. They take hold of every conversation, talking about every achievement or material possession worth bragging about.

It’s one thing to be supportive of your friend’s successes. But hubris is a sign of narcissism, which means your friend is deeply insecure. You probably notice how they drain your energy when they’re constantly seeking approval from you or others.

But remember: it’s never your responsibility to make someone feel good about themselves.

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5. The Inconsistent One

Being friends with people who are always inconsistent doesn’t make you look good. For one, it means that you’re not good at setting boundaries. For another, it means you don’t know your worth.

Because you don’t deserve being treated so horribly. It’s obviously horrible when a friend constantly cancels on your appointments, misses your calls, and is never there when you need them. But it’s worse because you allow it to happen.

You should always hold higher standards when it comes to the people you choose to let into your life. It’s one of the best things you can do for your future—a promising, happy, and healthy one.

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