So, you met someone. You became so close (and so quickly!) that it felt like a supernatural event was taking place when you met.
For a while, you spent all your time together. You never wanted to be apart.
When you spent time together, you noticed that the good things in life got better, and the bad things in life… got worse.
It didn’t take long for you to realize that this person was your twin flame.
After some time together, maybe a few months or maybe even a few years, your twin flame said they needed space.
They started to separate from you. Or maybe they just cut you out altogether.
Now you’re feeling bereft, alone.
Will your twin flame come back?
In this article, we’ll talk about what a twin flame is, how you can tell if you’ve met your twin flame, discuss reasons why twin flame relationships don’t always work out and talk about some ways to get your twin flame back.
The more you know about your twin flame, the better off you’ll be.
What Is a Twin Flame?
A twin flame, also called a “mirror soul” is someone with whom you share an intense connection – on the soul-level.
Twin flames get their name from the idea that a twin flame is formed when one soul is separated into two, and each piece of the soul takes a different body.
Twin flame relationships can be very rewarding, but they can also be very challenging.
Because both people come from the same soul, they often share negative qualities as well as positive qualities.
If you’ve found your twin flame, you’ll notice that all of your good and bad characteristics are amplified when you spend time with your twin flame.
Because of this intense connection, twin flame relationships sometimes self-destruct.
We’ll discuss why and how this happens in more detail, but what you need to know is that most people look into their twin flame’s personality, and they see their own flaws shining out at them.
This can make twin flame relationships just as difficult as they are rewarding.
Twin flames aren’t always romantically involved. Sometimes a twin flame is a friend or acquaintance.
Romances are common among twin flames, because the intense spiritual connection is difficult to deny.
If you found your twin flame, it’s important to recognize that you can only have one.
If your twin flame has left you because they couldn’t take the intensity of the relationship, then you won’t be able to get a different twin flame.
These connections are very rare and do not occur with more than one person.
Are Twin Flames the Same As Soul Mates?
A twin flame and a soul mate is not the same thing.
A soul mate is a person who seems to be of a type that you can relate to, someone with whom you feel a deep connection, but not necessarily someone who comes from your same soul.
For this reason, soul mates often end up having healthier relationships because they bring out the goodness in the person they’re with.
Meanwhile, twin flames can be as dangerous to one another as they are a positive influence on each other’s lives.
How Can You Tell If Someone Is Your Twin Flame?
Before you can start trying to get your twin flame back, you should first ask yourself whether they were really your twin flame to begin with. There are several signs that a person is your twin flame.
Here’s what to watch out for:
You Seemed to Recognize Each Other Right Away
When you first met your twin flame, you probably had some sense that you had seen them before, but couldn’t quite place where.
Maybe you felt like you were instantly attracted to them, or maybe that sense of recognition took the form of a bond instead of literal recognition.
Either way, you felt like you knew them, even if you had never met them before that you could remember.
You Have Similar Doubts, Insecurities and Personality Challenges
You and your twin flame should have many of the same doubts and insecurities.
In fact, you should find that analyzing your twin flame’s weaknesses can give you insight into your own.
You’re Similar In Weird and Eerie Ways
You and your twin flame may have had many similar past experiences and may have many overlapping interests now.
Some of these similarities may seem superficial, but other similarities should be very deep and personal.
Maybe you both memorized the same poems in high school, or both have an ability to paint beautiful portraits.
Whatever it is, you and your twin flame should have some overlapping interests and abilities.
You Fight – A Lot
Even though you’re always wishing you could be closer to your twin flame, you’re also constantly in a state of arguing with your twin flame.
This is because your twin flame is so much like you that you can’t help but be upset by some of their weaknesses.
After all, you see yourself reflected in them.
You Keep Coming Back Together
Twin flames often can’t help themselves.
Even though they might want to separate from one another because they fight too much, they also want to keep coming back to one another, to be close, to share that feeling of sameness and closeness.
It’s not always a healthy relationship, but twin flames always want to come back for more.
These relationships are often very intense, because they bring so much conflict and because twin flames are connected on a soul-level.
You Always Want to Be Closer
One of the ways you can recognize your twin flame is that you’ll always want to be closer, and when you’re apart, you feel some sorrow or loss just because you’re away from each other.
The Connection Feels Supernatural
Twin flames are two parts of the same soul, so it’s only natural that your connection would be somewhat supernatural.
When you encountered your twin flame for the first time, you probably felt like something really big was happening – because it was.
You probably didn’t realize your twin flame was your twin flame at the time, but once you knew, it all fell into place.
Sometimes, you’re even able to read your twin flame’s emotions and thoughts. This psychic connection is just one more sign that your twin flame is someone special.
Why Did Your Twin Flame Leave?
So, if your twin flame is someone with whom you share a psychic connection, and is actually another part of your soul just inhabiting another body, then why on earth would your twin flame leave?
Unfortunately, twin flame relationships can easily become dysfunctional and even toxic. This happens for the same reasons that the relationship was special in the first place.
You know by now that it’s very easy for a twin flame relationship to become too close, for your twin flame to feel a little co-dependent and even squashed by the closeness of your relationship.
Or it may have been a one-sided spiritual connection.
So if your twin flame has recently left your relationship, it may be that your flame needed some space. …or it may be that the relationship had simply become too toxic for your twin flame to feel fulfilled as a person.
Will Your Twin Flame Come Back?
Whether your twin flame will come back depends on why your twin flame left and if there’s any room for a healthy relationship.
Signs Your Twin Flame Wants to Come Back
- Your twin flame calls sometimes. If your flame really wanted to stay away, they would stop calling altogether. If you hear from them on a regular basis even when you haven’t called them, this is a sign that they would like a way back in your life.
- You have a feeling your twin flame thinks about you. A lot. Remember, you and your twin flame have a connection that you don’t have with other people. If you’re getting the sense that your twin flame is thinking about you on a regular basis, this is probably true. Follow your instincts about your twin flame.
- Your twin flame softens their tone whenever you speak. Maybe when your twin flame left initially, they sounded cold every time you spoke on the phone. Then, gradually, your twin flame’s voice started to sound warmer, and warmer. This gradual warming is an indication that your twin flame is ready to give your relationship one more try.
What Can You Do to Coax Your Twin Flame To Return?
So, you suspect that your twin flame would like to return, and now you want to make that happen. As long as the relationship isn’t too toxic, you should be able to get your twin flame to return with some coaxing and strategic moves on your part.
Give Your Twin Flame Space
Recognize that your relationship with your twin flame became unhealthy over time and now space is something that you both need.
Don’t push your twin flame to call or have contacted more than they’re ready. You can call your twin flame or have contact with them as often as they have contact with you, but not more.
Want to talk to your twin flame but they haven’t called? Try texting. Texting is a low-key, low-pressure way to have contact with someone without actually pressuring them to be more involved in your life.
Don’t Force the Issue
Let your twin flame gradually come back to the idea of seeing you and spending time again without pressure from you.
When your flame is ready to return, they’ll start to suggest spending time on their own, without suggestions from you.
Ease Back Into a Relationship
The frequency of your contact may increase very gradually. This presents an opportunity for both of you to decide whether being in a relationship and seeing one another regularly is right for you at this time. Be willing to go slow.
This will help your flame decide whether seeing you again is truly their priority.
If you push the issue, they may decide they don’t want to see you as badly as you want to see them – and from there, the relationship could fall apart altogether.
Take this Time to Fix Yourself
While your flame is trying to decide whether they’re ready to see you again, take this time to work on yourself.
Remember, the reason that your flame stopped seeing you in the first place is likely because your relationship was co-dependent and even a little toxic for the both of you.
You need to be ready for your twin flame to return if they decide to come back.
That means you need to be ready to be an independent person, capable of being in a relationship with your flame without losing yourself or making them feel bad about themselves.
One of the many reasons that twin flame relationships crash and burn is because of the intensity of the relationship and the lack of boundaries.
When your twin flame starts talking to you more, be willing to set some boundaries.
How often will you see one another? What made you feel bad about talking to your twin flame before, and what can you do to avoid those problems in the future?
Set boundaries from the start so that you and your twin flame can get the most out of your relationship, without the codependent problems from before.
If Your Twin Flame Doesn’t Want to Return, How Can You Move On?
If your twin flame just isn’t ready to come back to you, then it’s time to focus on you and stop thinking about your flame. There will only ever be one flame, but there can be other people who are also important in your life. Being stuck on one person will make spending time with others more difficult and less rewarding.
Take some time to focus on developing healthy relationships and personal strength.
- Spend time with others you care about. Gradually build up your relationships with others you care about, to make spending time without your flame easier and rewarding.
- Meditate. Meditating is a way to develop a sense of personal strength and calm, which ultimately can help you recognize the good things in your life, without focusing on the things that are missing.
- Exercise. Build up your confidence in yourself by exercising on a regular basis. Getting physically fit can help you feel better mentally and emotionally, even without your flame.
- Work on your hobbies. Spend some time building up things to do in your spare time – things that will help you feel better even without your flame in your life. The more personally fulfilling activities that you engage in, the better you’ll feel even if your flame never comes back.
The most important thing to remember is that twin flame relationships aren’t always healthy. If your twin flame doesn’t come back to you, there may be a good reason for this. It may be best for both of you. Either way, keep a positive attitude and assume that what happens will be best for both of you.