10 reasons why relationships that move fast fail

Have you heard of a whirlwind romance?

Many people experience a new love interest quickly in their lives, often for the wrong reasons.

Even so, at some point, we create an illusion of happiness and intimacy like no other.

The truth, however, is that this type of relationship can often become disastrous quickly and have lasting effects if not handled correctly.

Rushing into a relationship can be detrimental to both parties.

Here are 10 reasons why relationships that move fast fail

1) Unrealistic expectations

Being in a relationship is a journey.

When there’s an illusion of intimacy, people may believe that they have found “the one” right away.

However, when couples begin to truly get to know each other, many often realize that their expectations were too high.

The fantasy of what love should be can quickly turn into a reality that’s not so great.

Love is often conceptualized in a way that’s not necessarily true.

We may feel an intense attraction, but then when that person says or does something hurtful, it’s easier to justify the feelings away by saying they were never really love to begin with.

This is the sad result of many people falling in love too fast and at first sight.

They may fail to realize that true love involves developing a deep understanding of another person over time.

When relationships move fast, people may often view a commitment as a sign of respect and love.

However, many people fail to realize that commitment is not given lightly.

If a relationship moves too fast, both parties may have expectations that cannot be fulfilled.

They may also feel pressured to do things they’re not ready for.

2) Unrealistic perception of sex

Sex is a powerful tool that can be used to manipulate a situation into something it’s not.

Even if your S.O is saying the most romantic things or showering you with gifts, their true intention may be about satisfying primal urges and nothing more.

When relationships move fast, the less time that’s spent on talking about what a relationship is going to be, the less realistic it becomes for both parties.

Many people believe that sex is the only way to show affection, but this is not always the case.

Most couples are quite happy without sleeping together or having sex until they know each other better.

People often don’t know how to communicate their expectations and desires.

As a result, they may not be listening to what you’re saying due to them being more focused on their desires.

When a person views sex as a sign of respect, it can make matters more difficult.

Why?

Because they may have a strong desire to engage in sex, but the other person is not so inclined.

If you truly love someone, why would you want to pressure them into having sex?

Not having sex is not the same as not showing love.

Love can be expressed in many different ways other than physical intimacy.

Sexually aggressive people often lead with sex because it’s easy for them to do.

For others, their motivation is often to avoid a real conversation and build a physical connection that’s unhealthy.

And this will never translate into a lasting relationship.

3) Lack of communication is the gateway to all other problems

Isn’t it nice if you can say and share anything with the one you love?

Communication is a necessary aspect of any relationship, especially when it comes to issues that are happening between two people.

A relationship will fail if you don’t talk to each other about how you feel and what is going on.

It’s just an illusion.

If someone is not telling you the truth (even a lie by omission), then they are not being honest with you.

Remember, honesty is the key to a happy relationship.

When you’re looking for a new relationship, it’s easy to be gullible and let things slide because you see something you like.

Inevitably, people will often try to get what they want by lying or keeping information from their partners because it’s easier than having an honest conversation about it.

When one or both people are dishonest with each other, they do not have the same respect for each other.

If you can’t talk to someone about something, anything, then you don’t know them.

It’s a process to build trust in a relationship.

And just like any process, it takes time.

4) Time

When you’re in love, there seems to be no time. You can’t get enough of each other!

But when reality hits and your “high” fades, you realize that your lives are pretty full and you’ll definitely have to make time for one another.

If you don’t set reasonable expectations, you may end up spending less time together than you intended.

The more you leave things to chance, the more likely it is that your relationship will fall apart.

A lot of people think that once they find the right person, suddenly everything else in their lives will fall into place.

But this is not realistic. You are still responsible for all aspects of your life, including your relationship.

For a relationship to flourish, each party must take note of the whole scenario including the time you have to share- and this is not a one-time thing.

This needs a series of dates and conversations.

Once you overlook that, you’ll find problems within the relationship that could cause its doom.

5) Not seeing the true colors of your S.O.

People who are moving fast may be showing off a fake persona that they want you to see.

Even if you know in your heart that it’s not true, you still accept them because of the fantasy.

You’re hoping that they can be the person they’re portraying themselves to be, but this rarely works in a relationship.

Many people think that if they’re doing something for someone, then it must mean that they love them.

Wrong.

If you’re caught up in pursuing someone, you’re probably not actually in love with them.

You do this to escape your current situation, which is why a person who’s as-is or “straight” may seem too much to handle.

When you’re in a relationship, taking care of yourself and being happy comes before any other thing.

If you’re not happy, your relationship will suffer.

Many people who are moving fast don’t think like this and won’t see the signs that they’re being played.

They may hang on until they start feeling “used” or they feel the relationship has run its course.

Do not allow yourself to be used by someone who is trying to show you a fast-moving facade of success but is a big disappointment.

6) Lacking effort

When a relationship moves too fast, there is often a lack of effort.

If you were doing things together because you were genuinely interested in each other and what they had to say, then it’s likely that the feelings were real.

However, if there was an element of fear or uncertainty involved, then it may not have been as meaningful.

People can quickly become attached simply because they want to overcome those feelings or fear.

The biggest problem with moving too fast is that people who are doing it cannot see the reality of their situations, because they’re going to be invested in the outcome.

Because of this, they fail at noticing the red flags that would otherwise tell them that something is not right about the relationship.

You can’t avoid pain in life. You can’t win people over that don’t want to try.

So if you’re trying to move too fast with someone, they may not be ready for a relationship and just want something casual.

Or they could be using you to escape the pressures of everyday life.

7) Lack of commitment

When you’re in the honeymoon phase, it’s easy to overlook other people and their opinions.

This is why many people take for granted that everyone should want a long-lasting relationship when it may not be the case.

If you find someone willing to move too fast with you and then you stop, the relationship will become stagnant.

A relationship should be based on love, commitment, trust, and respect.

When a person stops caring about a while, they can do whatever they want with the other person because they don’t feel connected to them.

Once this happens, it’s hard to get it back.

When people don’t show commitment to their relationships, they will never truly be committed.

8) Inability to communicate

Communication is the foundation of any relationship.

When a person moves too fast, there could be problems in communication.

First, if you get into a relationship with someone too quickly, it’s hard to have your own life and interests.

Although most people do eventually give up some of their time, when this happens too quickly for comfort, it creates issues with the relationship.

Miscommunication can be detrimental to a relationship, especially if it’s something that should have been talked about.

If your partner doesn’t communicate with you, you cannot make informed decisions. When you don’t know what’s going on in your relationship, you can’t make decisions about it.

Even if you have a really good friendship, it’s best to talk with each other about your relationships.

Lack of communication in relationships is likely to lead to conflicts, which could eventually make you want to move on.

9) Unreciprocated feelings

Many people don’t realize that when they get into relationships too quickly, they aren’t giving the other person a chance to reciprocate.

People who are moving fast are often afraid of committing because they don’t want to be rejected.

They think that if they don’t commit, their fears will come true.

However, it’s impossible to know if someone is going to be serious with you until you’ve given them the chance.

Think about it.

If you meet someone and then move too fast with them, you’re not even giving them a chance to know the real you, your thoughts, and opinions.

You’re not giving them a chance to know if they like or love you because all you see is the “fake” that you want to show.

Think about this.

You don’t have time for this as a single person, so why would you place so much stress on a relationship?

And lastly,

10) It’s hard to build trust and intimacy

When people move too fast, it’s hard for them to build trust and intimacy.

If you’re not talking or doing things together, then how can you know if you can trust them?

Intimacy is about trusting that the person you’re with wants what’s best for your relationship. If there is no intimacy, then you cannot have a healthy and happy relationship.

Moving too quickly keeps you from knowing the person in front of you and trusting them to be consistent and trustworthy.

A relationship needs to be based on trust and honesty. If this isn’t present, then it can’t last.

These are just 10 of the reasons why fast relationships don’t last.

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