Twin flame healing process: 15 things you need to know

“For some people, “the point of no return” begins at the very moment their souls become aware of each other’s existence.”

― C. Joy Bell

Twin flames are dynamic beings. They evolve as a pair. 

In fact, did you know that twin flames are so energetically connected that healing is always needed on both sides of the medallion?

The following article shares what happens during the unusual process of twin flame healing.

Hopefully this will give you an understanding of what to expect along with potential obstacles you might come up against.

The top 15 most important things to know about the twin flame healing process

1) You and your twin flame are both on a quest

As mentioned above, twin flames are dynamic, ethereal beings. They have to go through different experiences in life just to learn and evolve.

You and your twin flame are on a similar path. This will include many ups and downs and changes in the way you both feel about each other.

Just like you have a past and a future, your twin flame does too. They might be living a different life somewhere else.

But even then, they’re always connected to you. They have a spiritual connection that no one can sever, not even death.

“The way our fingers intertwine feels so natural and right; as if our hands hold memories of meeting in a thousand other lifetimes.”

― John Mark Green

2) The healing process for twins takes time

It takes time for your life’s purpose to unfold. Healing is an integral part of this, which means the process can take quite some time if it hasn’t started already.

Your healing journey will continue in this lifetime until you reach a higher level of consciousness.

You might feel like it’s taking forever and even start to wonder whether your twin flame is ever going to come back to you.

But it’s crucial that you get through this process, because until you do, the spiritual bond between the two of you won’t be fully complete.

This is why it’s so crucial to stay focused, put in the work and notice how you are changing. The change will come through you, but the process is yours to complete.

3) The healing process is usually intense

This is especially true if your twin flame has effectively disconnected from you and their life has taken them away from you for some time.

During the healing process, you might experience an immense amount of pain, sadness and even anger.

This is the path by which you let go of your ego, which means having to release all the things that have been preventing you from loving yourself and being your true self.

Deep down, you know that this is what needs to happen for your twin flame to heal.

You know it’s what must happen in order for the spiritual connection between you both to be reestablished.

And just like you’re experiencing uninvited changes in yourself, they are too.

Coming back to the present moment after years of being in a different part of your soul’s journey can be quite an intense experience.

4) You will undergo a physical, emotional and mental transformation

Healing is like a journey involving mind, body, and soul.

It involves working on negative emotions that have built up along with learning to accept yourself in ways you never thought possible.

But – this is only possible once you’re able to fully focus on your purpose in life. Along your twin flame healing journey, you’ll come to realize that visualization and positive vibes won’t bring you closer to your dreams, and they can actually drag you backwards into time-wasting, idle fantasy and frustration. 

But it’s hard to truly heal when you’re being hit with so many Instagram influencers and studio gurus who want to convince you that you’re just being negative. 

The fact is: 

Before you can experience a real change, you need to really know your purpose. 

I learned about the power of purpose from watching Ideapod co-founder Justin Brown’s video on the hidden trap of improving yourself

Justin used to be addicted to the self-help industry and New Age gurus just like me. They sold him on visualization and positive thinking. It left him lost and confused. 

That’s why he traveled to Brazil to meet the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, who taught him a life-changing new way to find your purpose and use it to transform your life and everything around you. 

After watching the video, I discovered my purpose in life and it’s no exaggeration to say it was a turning point in my life.  

I can honestly say that this new way of finding success by finding your purpose actually helped me to connect with myself on a deeper level, thus deepening the connection I share with my twin flame.

Watch the free video here.

5) You will encounter obstacles along the way

No one said that the healing process was going to be easy. There will be roadblocks, especially in the beginning of your journey.

Whatever happens, every obstacle you face will give you a lesson for your spiritual growth and open up space for growth and transformation.

The first thing that you need to know about this kind of journey is that it’s usually not something that happens overnight.

6) You will have to be willing and motivated

You might have all the reasons in the world as to why you shouldn’t heal with your twin flame, but in spirit and astral realms, there is no such thing as a ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’.

Everything is set in motion on your spiritual path and in life, so you have to be willing to go through it.

Try as hard as you can to change yourself, because if not, the process will drag on forever. If you haven’t already, you will.

You have to be willing to open up these many causes for healing because it’s the best way for both of you to evolve. You’ll feel your soul calling you forward, and this will liberate you from your ego.

Learn to be motivated by the love that fills your heart and transforms your soul for the better. The only way to go higher up on your spiritual path is through love.

7) You will experience pain

This is especially true for the first few stages of healing before you get the hang of the process. You might experience physical symptoms or find yourself in pain for no apparent reason.

These are all signs that you’re going through significant changes in your soul structure, which usually involve intense pain, but also intense pleasure.

Just remember that you’re meant to go through this, so don’t hesitate to ask for help if it becomes too much. You can speak with a real advisor.

The problem is finding someone you can trust.

There’s an abundance of fake “experts” out there, but very few genuine advisors who can offer practical life advice.

That’s why I recommend Psychic Source. They provided me with a unique insight into where my life should go, including how to handle the twin flame healing process better.

Having tried several online advisors, I think they’re the most caring, compassionate and knowledgeable network of gifted advisors out there.

Click here to get your own personalized reading.

8) You will have to come face to face with your dark side

When your twin flame is no longer by your side, it can be quite difficult to see yourself for who you really are.

You might begin to judge yourself, which is normally the last thing you want to do. But it’s what’s needed for you to truly heal.

Avoiding your shadow side means having no awareness of who you really are.

It means that you have no knowledge of the things that make you feel bad about yourself and have no ability to overcome them.

It’s impossible to have a connection with a twin flame without the complete acceptance of yourself.

9) You will have to be open

Openness is key in this kind of journey. Being open is necessary in order for you to move forward because if you’re not, you might find yourself stuck in a particular stage of your process.

If that happens, chances are you’re going to keep repeating the same mistakes for years and years.

If you don’t want to repeat the same mistakes, then you must be open to the healing process. You must choose to accept yourself in ways that you never thought possible.

You can’t close off parts of yourself during your twin flame healing process, because if you do then you won’t get the results that you want and that is of course, a mistake.

10) You will have to make some changes in your life

The only thing that is going to make the journey a lot easier for you is by making some changes in your life.

It’s a process that is going to be extremely personal and very soulful.

Still, remember that adjustments can help you get through the healing process faster and better.

If you keep the things that have a negative effect on your life, such as alcohol or drugs, you will have a hard time healing.

You might find that you’re attracted to situations or people who are not open to change and who are not on the same “wavelength” as you.

It’s best to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, who accept you for who you are and want the best for both of you.

But be aware that the process might be very intense so do whatever you need to do to feel better. This will help you heal more quickly.

“A twin flame requires you to detach from society’s mindset. A twin flame requires you to be alone with yourself. A twin flame requires you to Master Yourself.”

― Serena Jade

11) You might want to take a break from your twin flame

Taking a break from your twin flame is not something that you should feel guilty about.

The process might seem like it’s dragging on forever, but every time you let go of one part of yourself, another part opens up its arms to welcome you into the healing process.

Be prepared that you might want to take one or more breaks from your twin flame during the healing process.

It’s not always easy and it’s tempting to just let go of your twin flame, but don’t.

Letting the person go doesn’t mean that they are gone, it just means that you are ending a chapter in your spiritual path.

And when you take a break from them, take the opportunity to deepen your connection to yourself.

Remember how I mentioned the shaman Rudá Iandê earlier? Well, he has a free Love and Intimacy masterclass that will help you do just this. 

When I took a break from my twin flame, I wanted to work on myself emotionally to heal certain parts of me.

I took Rudá’s masterclass, and it completely transformed the way I view relationships. I was able to create better emotional habits in my life, heal from old hurts, and come back to my twin flame in a healthier way. 

Well, that’s exactly what happened, and more. I couldn’t have imagined the amazing changes I would see in my relationship when the break was over.

So if you want to take a break from your twin flame and use your time apart wisely, take the free masterclass.

Here is the link to it again.

12) You will want to know what is ahead after the healing process

Be very aware that there is no way of knowing what is coming next on your spiritual path.

Maybe you feel that you’ve been through so much in life, that you think the healing process will end it.

Still, the truth is that there are no limits to how far your spiritual path can go.

You might not even get to understand what a twin flame is at the end of it all, but for now, just focus on healing and being open to the many experiences that await you.

When you’ve made it past a certain point, you will feel like an entirely new person, but not necessarily in a good way right away.

Some people might find that they are ready to let go of everything and step into heaven, which is okay and normal.

But some people might find that the heavens are too far, so the process might somehow be turned into a hellish one.

It’s up to you to decide how to do it since it depends on how you want your life to be.

13) You will want to know where you’re going and why

If you think that your healing process is complete and that nothing else can confuse you, you’re wrong.

You will have many more insights into yourself as well as the universe that are going to make things much clearer.

Some people might be wondering why they had to drink so much or why they had to eat something they didn’t like. It might seem stupid at first, but it will eventually start making sense.

Trust that you’re doing the best you can, because nothing else would make sense.

As a twin flame, you’re meant to love everything about yourself, even the things that you don’t like. You’re meant to be able to accept all of your past relationships and let go of them without any regret.

You should feel lucky that you have had all those experiences and understand what they really mean in your life and soul.

14) You will want to understand the universe better

Along with this, you will want to understand why some things happened to you in your life that made you feel so bad.

You will look back at old relationships and see them in a new light.

You might have to look back on all the past situations with your twin flame and how they affected your life in some way.

Even though it might not seem like it, there was a reason behind it all. And you need to find that reason.

The universe might tell you that this is your way of learning how to not make the same mistakes again.

It’s as if your soul is saying that it’s finally time for you to learn something new.

You will feel like a giant weight has been lifted off your shoulders, even though you might still feel some kind of pain.

You will start to experience life as something much lighter and eventually see the things before you from a new perspective.

15) You will start to love yourself again

When you’re not connected to your soul and don’t understand what a twin flame is, you might regard yourself as nothing more than your body.

You will view yourself as an object and not a person with the ability to make choices for themselves.

But when you’re going through the Twin Flame healing process, you start seeing things differently.

You will start feeling good about yourself again, not just in your twin flame healing process.

You might start to believe again that you’re capable of doing anything. You might feel powerful like nothing can stop you. It’s almost like a second birth.

It’s as if you’ve become a new person and things will start looking up for you.

Soon enough, you’ll start thinking about how you used to be and how far you have come along in your journey.

You’ll start feeling like you’ve become an entirely new person, worthy of love.

Who should undergo the twin flame healing process?

Healing in this case has nothing to do with health per se.

It means clearing past emotions and trauma that may be affecting you as an individual or your connection with your twin flame.

It’s recommended that if you have a Twin Flame relationship, both parties should do the healing process together.

Seeing as two souls are involved, reversed roles create a stronger bond.

Working on the healing process may mean focusing on your own growth at times while on other occasions it means focusing solely on the other person in accordance to their energies.

Twin flames can also heal each other through energetic exchanges that maintain a closed loop between them by flowing from one twin flame to the other when one twin is in need of a boost of spiritual energy for example.

Healing can be done through guided meditations, prayers, or visualization techniques.

There are many resources out there for this purpose, and you can find the right one for you to heal.


There is no right or wrong way to do the twin flame healing process.

What you do is up to you and only you can choose how your life will ultimately be.

My tip is: take the time that is needed and expect the unexpected.

The old saying goes in this situation: “No plan survives first contact with the enemy.”

So, when you’ve finally found each other, it means that the lessons and experiences of both of you are over.

You’ve finally completed your individual journeys and it’s time for you to be together in harmony.

Good luck on your twin flame journey and may you find everything you’ve ever wanted. You deserve it!

“I found my Twin Flame. I found My Soul, My Heart, My Love. The one who is closer to me than my own breath, my own heartbeat, than the blood running in my veins.”

― Lala Agni

Nevena Glogovac

Nevena Glogovac

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