17 subconscious signs a man is falling in love (complete list)

Is he falling in love or just mildly interested in you?

It sounds easy to tell, but it’s not: especially because men sometimes don’t even realize when they’re falling in love.

Here’s how to tell if he’s falling for you on a deeper level.

17 subconscious signs a man is falling in love (complete list)

1) He asks about your life a lot

One of the top subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that he asks about your life a lot.

Even though he barely seems aware of it, he hangs on your every word.

He wants to know what you think, what you feel, where you grew up and why you decided to study business at college.

Even trivial details that you can’t imagine why he cares, he seems to take a special delight in.

Why would he care what kind of dog food your special puppy prefers or whether you prefer a plastic or real Christmas tree?

Isn’t that just a bit too much information for an average conversation? Yet there he is all google-eyed looking rapt with attention.

You might not realize it, but he’s hooked on you.

2) He tries to help you out in small, courteous ways

Another one of the subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that he keeps helping you out in small and seemingly unimportant ways.

But for a man these small ways of helping out are actually very important.

You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

The truth is, it comes at no cost or sacrifice to you. With only a few small changes in how you approach him, you’ll tap into a part of him no woman has tapped into before.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.

Click here to watch the free video.

3) You feel it in your bones

 Never underestimate female intuition. As someone who grew up with a sister and mom I can promise you that women tend to have a special spidey sense about other people.

They’re good at telling when someone is lying…

When they’re upset…

And how they’re feeling about something.

One of the top subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that you as a woman can sense it.

I’m not saying women have superpowers or anything (although I’m not 100% sure they can’t read minds in some way)…

But they definitely tend to have the kind of sense of how someone’s state or feelings are even when that person might not realize it.

Which is why you should trust your intuition…

Even though he doesn’t seem to be showing any outer signs, if you have a feeling that there’s more going on under there you just might be onto something.

There is just some subtle cue and feeling that sticks with you that this guy’s interest in you goes far beyond the casual.

4) He does his best to make you smile

When a man is in love, money stops being his main currency.

His main currency becomes the smiles and attention from the woman he loves.

Regardless of how much he realizes it or not, this guy is out here hunting for your smiles and cherishing each one he gets.

When you’re having a bad day, there he is bringing you a cup of coffee.

When you open your inbox, presto! A funny message from Mr. Mysterious.

Whether you appreciate these little gestures is a different subject, but you can be sure that his smiling face popping up so often is no mistake on his part.

5) He calls to let you know when he gets good news

What do you do when you get good news?

In my case I call my mom, or my best friend.

That’s how it is when something special happens: you fall back on the people closest to you.

That’s why one of the subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that you’re on the top of his list when he gets good news.

If he got promoted or had amazing news about the future or his health or anything, he dials you up or sends you a text.

You’re on the list of his most important people.

And that’s a very strong cue that he has stronger feelings for you than you or he might realize.

6) He constantly looks at you almost like he’s drawn by a magnet

If you catch him looking at you unexpectedly or out of nowhere, this guy is probably more into you than he lets on.

Looking at someone is one of the classic signs of interest because when you like something you look at it.

If he keeps looking back it’s simple: he likes you even more than other things which he also finds appealing.

You’re extra appealing to him in an almost magnetic way.

And where I come from, we call that love.

Or at least the beginning of potential love…

7) He keeps conversations going as long as possible

One of the other key subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that he tries to keep conversations going as long as possible.

Even if you’re just chatting about the weather, he wants to keep things rolling.

Or if it’s a small discussion as you lean out of your car window on a weekend as he’s driving by.

He’s those people who stop in the road for a chat and make other drivers go mad with frustration…

He just wants to talk to you at all costs.

As Clayton Olson writes:

“A man who is in love with you will never get sick of your company and he will always be happy the times where the two of you get to hang out.”

8) He’s touchy-feely even though he doesn’t seem aware of it

Another one of the crucial subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that he seeks physical closeness all the time.

He wants to snuggle up to you like a cuddly little kitten almost all the time and wrap you in those big paws of his.

This is an important sign that he’s falling for you…

He wants to be around you as much as possible…

Caress you, touch you, and give you love and tenderness…

9) He sees you in his future in various ways

One of the other subtle signs that he’s falling in love is that he talks about the future as if he’s pictured you in it.

Men don’t tend to do that about a girl they don’t care about.

They do it when they’re interested…

As Orna and Matthew Walters put it:

“Whether he’s reaching out to you for future dates, planning a trip together, or buying tickets to events three months in advance, he sees the two of you together beyond the present moment.”

10) You jinx each other constantly and then laugh at the coincidence

One of the funny things that happens when two people are on the same page and in love is that they start jinxing each other.

They finish each other’s sentences…

They both tell the same joke at the same time and then lock eyes and laugh.

It’s like a magic kind of circus going on, except the only clowns are the two fools in love.

As Marissa Laliberte explains:

“If the two of you are always in fits of giggles, it shows that you have fun together, which is a foundation for a lasting relationship.”

11) He agrees to followup dates instantly without even thinking

If you’ve been going on a few dates and things have been getting cozy, watch how this guy responds to the idea of a followup date.

One of the top subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that he agrees to meeting you almost instantaneously, as if he can’t control his answer before it comes out of his mouth.

He’s so into you that his voice is speaking before his mind can try to play it cool.

That’s because he wants to see you so badly that he can’t hide it.

12) He remembers small things you told him effortlessly

Another one of the key subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that he remembers small details which you’ve told him as if they’re second nature to him.

Your birthday, favorite color, even the place where you first held his hand.

He’s got it all stored up there in the old memory bank…

And he doesn’t even make any effort when a recollection comes to mind.

Let’s face it: when you remember this many details about someone you’re either a weirdly meticulous serial killer or you’re in love.

13) He makes any excuse to pick your brain on a subject

This is related to the fact of a man in love wanting to extend conversations as much as possible.

He’ll make any excuse to pick your brain on a subject…

He wants to know what you think, why and where you traveled in Peru on your 25th birthday…

He wants to know it all, just because…

It’s like watching a physics genius meet someone else who shares their interest or expertise. They suddenly transform into a mythical creature, glowing with a kind of joy.

It’s like that when he asks you about anything.

He probably loves the sound of your voice, too.

14) He becomes a huge fan of things that you like

If you like a TV show or series and recommend it to him, it’s obviously a little “clueless” for him to just pile on and get really into it as well…

But that’s exactly the kind of thing that a man in love does!

He immediately gravitates toward your interests and passions and begins to genuinely like them.

This is an especially telling sign if he gets into things which he formerly expressed hesitancy or dislike of.

But because you like them he starts to legitimately come around. Because he loves you.

15) You feel the vibrations of him falling in love with you

On a related note to the woman’s intuition point, I believe some of us can “feel” someone calling out to us.

The vibrations of their thoughts reach us.

Perhaps it’s something like what scientists call morphic resonance.

We’re all connected, that’s for sure…

And when these vibrations hit you then he may also register a kind of docking sensation too. You’re linked up in spiritual cyberspace…

Sounds like love to me.

16) He’s all over your social media and messaging apps

One of the other less subconscious signs a man is falling in love is that he’s all over your social media and messaging apps.

This isn’t so subtle, as you can imagine.

If you’re getting pinged every 20 minutes you eventually will catch on that at the very least this guy wants to get in your pants.

The dividing line is if he’s not just being naughty and is really trying to get to know you and talk about real things.

That’s more in the love category.

17) He’s awkward and breathless when he’s out on dates with you

People in love tend to be out of breath and blush a lot.

That’s because their endorphins are firing off like crazy and heating their body up into a state of excitation.

If he’s awkward and breathless when he’s out on dates with you that’s definitely a potential sign that he’s falling for you.

Like Abigail Boyd says:

“One such example would be that he’s interested in you and building a relationship and not just thinking about his sex life. He may also feel more of a pressure to succeed, provide for, or protect his partner.”

Is he really in love or just on the fence?

All of these signs are pretty exciting.

After all, if this is a guy that you’re into then you’re probably feeling pretty good about your chances.

And you should be.

But love is always unpredictable, and sometimes it doesn’t go the way you hoped.

His signs of being in love fall flat, or wax and wane…

And you’re left in the lurch, unsure if you’ve been ghosted or if he’ll be back for another try at winning your heart.

But think about it…

How can you create happy relationships with others, if you’re ignoring the most important one; the relationship you have with yourself?

You see, until you work on that one, you’ll never find the happiness you’re looking for.

I learnt about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you some unique tools that put you back at the center of your world.

He also covers some of the major mistakes most of us make in our relationships, mistakes most of us aren’t even aware of.

So why am I recommending Rudá’s life-changing advice?

Well, for a start, Rudá isn’t your average shaman. He’s been through the same ups and downs in love that most of us have experienced. And through his ancient shamanic teachings, coupled with his very modern-day journey, he’s found the solutions.

And that’s what he wants to share with you.

So if you want to make a real change to your relationships, if you want to cultivate love and happiness, start today by checking out his genuine advice.

Click here to watch the free video.

Love it or leave it!

When a man is falling in love he feels something special…

And maybe you feel it, too.

Everyone moves at a different speed, and every man is different.

When the different elements begin to add up, he’ll think about how he feels about you and make his decision.

Your choice is to encourage him or put the brakes on the interaction.

At a certain point, even a very smooth guy has to decide whether to go for it or not.

Falling in love can’t remain subconscious and low-key forever, and at a certain point you have the right to tell him to love it or leave it.

Good luck!

Paul Brian

Paul Brian

I’m a multimedia journalist with experience in print, photography, video and online. My passion is reporting on individuals, faiths, nations and situations that impact us all on the journey of life.

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