15 signs of a wicked woman (and how to deal with her)

Think you’re up against an evil person?

If you want to know for sure, then you need to be on the lookout for these 15 signs of a wicked woman.

Read on to learn more about these toxic traits – and how you should deal with a black-hearted lady.

1) She’s just plain mean

Humans, by nature, are social beings who want to engage in positive relationships.  In other words, people like to get along with each other.

A wicked woman, on the other hand, is just the complete opposite. She likes to hurt and harm others. She revels in conflict.

So why are wicked people like that? According to Psychology Today’s Dr. Nathan Heflick, there are 3 possible reasons:

  • Positive distinctness: She wants to be unique from other people, especially when there’s competition around. By being mean to you, you end up the outcast — and she, the in-crowd favorite.
  • Downward comparison: She feels good about herself by looking down on other people.
  • Ego threat: It’s like revenge — people have been mean to her, so in turn, she’s being wicked to others.

2) She lies a lot

Wicked women are master liars. More than just hiding her true intention, lying helps her take control of the situation.

According to experts from the American Counseling Association, liars do this so that the story turns up with the ending she pictured.

Repetitive liars, for one, actually believe that they’re telling the truth. They’re so immune to lying that their memories have become unreliable.

By lying, she’s cast in a better light, because, frankly, she needs it. She wants other people to see that she’s better than you when in reality she’s not.

Wicked women may also lie to hide embarrassment or run away from an awkward situation. So the boss is mad she didn’t finish her work? Well, she’ll lie her way out and most likely blame you.

3) She likes being in control

Everybody wants to be in control of the situation.

A wicked woman, however, will make sure that everything goes her way – whether it’s by hook or by crook.

According to Dr. Timothy Carey of Psychology Today, a controlling person is somebody who focuses on the specifics – and other people’s behaviors.  In other words, she wants the people around her to act in a certain way.

With this view of how things should happen, she’ll do everything in her power to make sure that things turn out the way she intended.

While her thirst for control may be irritating at your end, the only silver lining here is that this actually makes her life harder.

Just think of this: you have probably done the opposite of what a controlling woman wants just to spite her.

4) She manipulates you — and other people

Apart from exerting control, a wicked woman will try to manipulate you.

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Not only will she try to distort your thoughts, but she will try to exploit your emotions as well.

While it’s hard to differentiate manipulation from influence, Psychology Today offers these tips on how to spot a master manipulator:

  • She goes for the home-court advantage: A manipulative woman will corner you in an area that she controls. It could be her home, car, or office.
  • She’ll make you speak first: She doesn’t ask questions because she wants to know more about you. She does this to assess your strengths and weaknesses.
  • She’s aggressive: She’ll raise her voice and use body language to have an ‘impact’.
  • …or she’ll do the silent treatment: A master manipulator will ignore your texts, emails, or other inquiries to make you feel uncertain.
  • She’ll judge and criticize you: She’ll demonstrate her authority and shut you out through ridicule or dismissal.
  • She’ll make you feel guilty: She will try to appeal to your soft spot so you’ll give in to her requests.
  • She distorts facts: She’ll lie, make excuses, and blame you in the end. A two-faced woman will even distort the truth – if not withhold vital information from you.
  • She’s an intellectual bully: To impose power, she’ll overwhelm you with facts, data, and statistics that you possibly couldn’t know.
  • …or she’ll play dumb: By making you think that she doesn’t understand anything, you’ll end up doing what she has always wanted.
  • She’ll play the victim: She’ll play weak and powerless to exploit your conscience.
  • She uses bureaucracy: If the numbers don’t scare you, then she’ll use bureaucratic red tape. She’ll use procedures and by-laws, basically everything that will stop you from knowing the truth.
  • She makes fun of you: She’ll do this subtly. For example, she’ll poke fun at your non-designer bag – even the public school from which you graduated.
  • She’ll give you little time to decide: Call it time pressure, but she’ll press you to decide even if you’re not ready.
  • She’ll surprise you — although negatively: She’ll tell you that she couldn’t keep up or do this and that. She’ll ask for leeway so that you’ll continue dealing with her.

5) She takes advantage of you

A wicked woman will take advantage of any person — from kind empaths to regular Joes.

She’s what psychologists call a covert aggressive — a person who deceives and manipulates people to get what she wants.

Here are the tactics a wicked woman will use to take advantage of you:

  • Seduction
  • Denial
  • Selective inattention, where she purposely ignores your urgent requests
  • Diversion or changing the subject
  • Guilt
  • Shaming
  • Victim-playing
  • Feigning confusion or ignorance
  • Lies, lies, and more lies!

6) She doesn’t show any guilt or remorse

Most people feel remorse, or deep regret, for anything wrong they have committed.

Wicked women, however, don’t seem to have this definition in their dictionary.

Think about this: those who show remorse usually feel anxiety over something they’ve done.

This is especially the case when family or friends are affected. They agonize over the situation because they’ve caused a loved one so much pain and anguish.

An unremorseful woman, on the other hand, will not own up to anything she has done. And even if she decides to admit to doing this or that, there’s no chance she would apologize to you.

Lack of remorse is actually one of the symptoms of antisocial personality disorder. This disorder is characterized by a lack of regard for right and wrong – and the tendency to ignore the rights and feelings of others.

Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

7) She won’t own up to any of her mistakes

Any normal female will own up to her mistakes. And while it might be hard, she’ll readily say “It’s all my fault.”

A wicked woman, however, won’t take responsibility for anything she has done.  As to why experts attribute it to a variety of reasons.

For one, she thinks avoiding responsibility is easier than making herself accountable.

There’s also this long-running victim mentality. She believes other people are to blame for everything that went bad, even though it’s her fault.

Wicked women see everything as bad — so they dislike seeing other people happy.

Given the person’s fragile ego, this is either a defense mechanism or a way for her to relinquish control. That’s because deep inside, she’s not confident and does not like to be rejected.

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8) She makes you feel stupid

A wicked woman thinks she is superior, even though she’s not. And for her to truly feel this way, she will try to bring you (and other people) down.

After all, she can only control or manipulate you if you doubt yourself.  Remember the saying “misery loves company”?

She likes bringing you down because she’s envious of your success. So for every good you do, she’ll focus on the bad ones.

Another possible reason is that she might be projecting. Here, she takes unwanted traits that she doesn’t like in herself – and attributes them all to you.

9) She often deceives you

A deceptive, wicked woman will try to persuade or impress you with distorted or exaggerated facts. In other words, she’ll try to make you believe something false.

Apart from deceiving you, she might be doing what researchers call persuasive bullshitting. And believe it or not, it’s actually a phenomenon that was published in the British Journal of Social Psychology.

Researchers define this ‘bullshit’ as facts that have little truth. They are specifically aimed to mislead people.

More often than not, these persuasive BSers have often been BS-ed themselves. As if things can’t get any worse, this deceptive person may even try to gaslight you.

She intends to harm you and undermine your sense of reality – all to control you (which, as mentioned, is a hallmark trait of a wicked woman).

10) She belittles you

A wicked woman will intentionally try to make you feel empty, dismissed, and worthless.

According to the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association, it’s actually a form of physical and emotional abuse – one that can make you feel empty, lonely, and desperate.

And like other ‘wicked’ traits, this all boils down to the woman’s insecurity, self-doubt, and lack of confidence.

She believes that because she is incapable of doing something, you won’t be able to do it as well.

11) She is disrespectful towards you

Disrespect, which is one of the many signs of wickedness, comes in many forms.

There’s disruptive behavior, including swearing or verbal threats. There’s demeaning behavior, which includes humiliation, shaming, and demeaning comments.

A disrespectful woman can also be overbearing — in other words, arrogant, patronizing, and sarcastic.

She could also be passive-aggressive, or someone unreasonably critical of things.

Another type is passive disrespect, where she often fails to participate in something.

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Disrespect is also obvious in dismissive treatment, which you can see in her condescending comments and patronizing attitudes.

Disrespect is not limited to words though, as it’s very obvious in body language too. If she stares, glares, or sighs at you, then these are physical signs!

12) She delights in your misfortunes

Do you often find her smiling (or even laughing) every time you’re suffering?

If she acts like the antagonist in your favorite TV show, then it’s a possible sign that she’s wicked to the core.

Scientifically, this is what psychologists call Schadenfreude.

A combination of the German words Schaden (harm) and Freude (joy), it literally means laughing at another person’s misfortune.

Everybody’s guilty of schadenfreude – like you when you laughed at a friend who tripped over the stairs.

And why not? This act gives the brain pleasure.

Wicked women, however, find it addictive to bask in the pleasure of someone else’s pain.

13) She thinks she’s the center of the universe

A wicked woman feels like she’s the most important thing in the world. She craves attention so much that she lacks empathy for others.

In other words, she’s a narcissist.

To summarize, this person is:

  • Constantly searching for validation
  • Often comparing herself to others
  • Overreacting due to deep fear
  • Using anger as a defense mechanism
  • Following her own set of rules, no matter how wrong they may be

14) She doesn’t have any boundaries

A wicked woman can’t set boundaries because she’s deeply focused on what people think about her.

In some cases, it’s because she’s scared or doesn’t know how to. She’s unable to separate her needs from that of another person.

She thinks of crossing boundaries as some safety mechanism. In her head, it should make her likable – and effectively cover up her lack of self-esteem.

15) She has a “wicked” reputation

Having a “reputation” is not always good. Case in point: when you’re dealing with a woman who is known to be wicked.

So why should you stay away from someone who has such a reputation?

For one, it’s a sum of all her actions — as reflected by the people around her.

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Simply put, it’s an ‘indirect result’ of everything she has said or done. And since it takes time to build a reputation, having a bad one shows that you have been so for years.

Remember, it’s not just about listening to the office or neighborhood gossip. If most of the people know her for her wicked reputation, then it’s a good chance that she is!

How to deal with a wicked woman

Now that you know the traits of a wicked woman, here are some tips to help you deal with her.

1) Choose your battles wisely

The best way to deal with mean people is to let go and move on.

Reacting badly will give her the chance to disrupt the peace further. If she sees you’re troubled, she’ll definitely pester you more.

Talk about adding insult to injury. That said, don’t let your emotions take hold of you. Present her with solid facts (receipts, as they say) – she’ll find it hard to distort them.

2) Don’t engage

It’s easy to lose your cool when you’ve been lied to time and time again.

If you try to correct her, you’ll just sink deeper into her trap.  So even if you want to, don’t engage.

Remember: you need to be firm – yet kind – when dealing with lying wicked women.

3) Think hard before you say anything

Don’t let guilt or her lies fool you into doing what she wants.

Think once, twice, even thrice before you answer because your emotional and mental health depends on it.

4) Learn how to say no

She won’t be able to take advantage of you if you don’t let her in. When you know she’s being unreasonable, shut her down right away. Don’t let her drag you into her wicked little world.

5) Prove her wrong

You know you’re not stupid and that she can’t control you. You have to show her that.

By showing the world that you can do what she thinks you can’t, she’ll be the one who ends up embarrassed.

6) Forgive

It’s not easy to forgive, but you should give it a try.

Remember: you can’t change her, but you can change how you feel about her.

It’s all about accepting what happened, even though it’s hard.

She’s a flawed person and there’s nothing you could do about it. But by not dwelling on the past, you’ll definitely sleep better at night.

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7) Focus on yourself

As the quote says, “People can be mean. Don’t take it personally. It says nothing about you, but a lot about them.”

Don’t let her manipulative ways send you to a spiral of self-doubt. It’s time you stopped giving a damn about what she thinks.

Always trust your judgment. Don’t fall for her remarks and criticisms. If you know what you’re capable of, you won’t fall for her wicked trap.

Conclusion

A wicked woman is mean, controlling, and manipulative.

She’ll try to deceive, disrespect, and belittle you.

She’s narcissistic and unremorseful, and will most likely take advantage of you.

So before you get caught up in her web of wickedness, you need to take note of these 15 signs. That way, you get to escape from her clutches — right before it’s too late.

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