14 signs someone is manipulating you spiritually

It’s easy to assume that a person is manipulating us when we are hurt and angry about something, but it’s not as easy to recognize it when someone does it subtly, or even gently.

Manipulation of this kind can be insidious and hard to detect.

Thankfully, there are some telltale signs of spiritual manipulation that will be helpful in recognizing such deception.

1) They exploit your faith and belief in them

A spiritual manipulator knows how to play on your faith and belief in them. They know how to present themselves in a way to make their own motives appear holy and righteous.

For example, they might say they are holding back certain things from you because it is part of God’s plan–but in reality, it’s part of their plan.

The manipulator will tell you that a particular action or decision on your part is wrong and not according to God’s will. But then when you do what the manipulator wants, the manipulator will give you plenty of credit for being diligent and faithful.

This is where manipulation really sets in:

Because you are being manipulated into believing that doing things their way will always be better than doing things your own way.

2) They gaslight you to absolve themselves of blame

According to Psychology Today, gaslighting is “the manipulation of another person by telling them that what they are experiencing or seeing isn’t so—and then using details of their environment to convince them that he or she is wrong about their own perceptions.”

So the manipulator will twist reality and then point out the ways your own perception is false; in doing so, they might even tell you that you are “too sensitive” or that you are “overreacting.”

If someone refuses to take responsibility for their actions and instead blames you, that’s a red flag that they are trying to manipulate you.

Then how to deal with manipulation?

Don’t allow resentment and anger to build. Instead, look for a way to forgive.

Consider the Golden Rule in your relationships: treat others the way you wish to be treated.

And most importantly, don’t let one bad experience sour your perception of everyone else. If someone is manipulating you spiritually, that doesn’t mean that everyone else is out to get you, too.

3) They will frequently tell us they are guided by God

This is when a manipulator shows its true colors. This is when you know that they are not being honest and forthright with you.

They will use God as a shield to cover their own lack of integrity and they will use God as a weapon to wield against you.

It gets worse if the manipulator perceives you as an obstacle in their path. They will try to convince you that God is telling them to remove that obstacle from their path.

They will use the Bible to justify any action they take. Things will become so black and white for them.

You will feel like you are being judged on a scale of good and bad based on how you look at them. So be careful about what you say or do in front of them.

4) What would a gifted advisor say?

The signs above and below will give you a good idea about someone manipulating you spiritually.

But a surefire way to know for sure is to speak with a gifted advisor.

They can answer questions like, “Are they a manipulator?” “Is there anything I can do to stop this?” “Should I confront them?”

The problem is finding someone you can trust.

That’s why I recommend Psychic Source. When I signed up for a reading, they provided me with a unique insight into where my life was going, including who I am meant to be with.

Having tried several online advisors, I think they’re the most caring, compassionate, and helpful network of gifted advisors out there.

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Not only will a genuine advisor tell you how to deal with them, but they can reveal all your love possibilities.

5) You’re constantly giving and giving without receiving

Of course, this is the most common manipulation tactic.

It’s when someone is trying to get you to give up your power and become a victim. They will use your kindness and generosity against you.

They will tell you that they are being taken advantage of and that they can’t believe how “unfair” it is for them to be treated in this way.

But wait, there’s more!

They will make a big deal out of you not doing something for them one time and it will snowball into a constant if a not daily question about whether you are “there for them” or “there to take advantage of.”

They are using you to feel powerful and it’s really about control. If your support system is manipulated by this person, don’t be surprised if they exhibit controlling behavior toward you.

The manipulation tactics can quickly escalate and many people end up feeling trapped in them. They want your love and approval, but they don’t know how to earn that love or approval. They’re just asking.

6) They will have an attitude that says they know better than us

Have you ever felt as if someone knows exactly what you’re thinking and feeling? Well, that’s because that person often does.

Manipulators are skilled at reading others.

They use their intuition in order to gain an advantage over others. They will do what they can to gain insight into your thoughts and feelings.

They will predict your thoughts or actions before you do them, even though they haven’t been there and done it themselves (and yes, this is possible).

Many people let the manipulator get under their skin. So you find yourself out of control of what you are thinking or doing because the manipulator is controlling how much power they want you to give up.

You begin to lose sight of your own reality–your truths may become cloudy, fuzzy, or distorted–all because someone else has so much control over your thinking processes that no matter how hard you try to focus on your own reality.

It feels like it is slipping away from you into theirs…away from them…away from the world…away from the tracks ahead!

7) They will frequently talk about their inner peace

OK, I know what you’re thinking:

“This has nothing to do with spiritual manipulation.”

Well, you’re wrong.

The manipulator will use their power over others in order to promote their own inner peace and self-satisfaction.

They are often highly jealous and possessive of their relationships with others.

They feel like there is less of them when they are not in control of someone else’s emotions, thoughts, and actions.

If the person they have power over begins to feel good about themselves (which is usually the case), then the manipulator feels threatened by this and lashes out.

This is why they use subtle or overt manipulation tactics to maintain control over those close to them or over people who come into contact with them each day–people who see through their subtle manipulations–people who can see right through them!

8) They use reverse psychology on you

Another sign of someone manipulating you spiritually is when they use reverse psychology on you.

The reversal means to change the exact opposite of what you’re thinking, feeling, doing, or saying.

So if someone is trying to gain control over you by using reverse psychology on you and they are using religious symbols or spirituality to do it, then this is another way that the manipulator undermines your spirituality–through your weakness for faith in an evil god or goddess.

You will see it when their words and actions don’t line up with their words and actions in previous conversations–when their words and intentions are a reversal of what they were saying before.

The manipulator is often self-serving so you will have to be aware of their motives.

They don’t want you to have what they know that you can have, but they are willing to use reverse psychology on you in order to gain control over the situation or power over you.

Instead of encouraging you, the manipulator encourages a reversal of your thoughts and actions.

So if their goal is for you to give up, then their reversals will encourage that action.

9) They will frequently criticize us for not seeing things their way

I know the feeling:

You tell someone about your good news, but instead of saying something that is encouraging or supportive, they are constantly criticizing you for not seeing things their way.

It’s almost as if they want you to see things from their point of view and if you don’t, then they will put you down for it. This is spiritual manipulation. They want to control your thinking and actions because they believe that this is their path to looking good and making you feel bad.

They will make you feel bad about yourself, but they won’t actually do anything to change the situation unless they think they have the upper hand.

They don’t actually want you to change and get over it, because then they would lose their power over you. They want to keep you feeling stuck in your own situation and in your own negative emotions.

If someone is always putting you down for not seeing things their way, then this is a sign of spirit manipulation–don’t let it happen!

10) They insist that only they can help you achieve enlightenment or salvation

This is a big one.

The manipulator will put you down for not seeing things their way and then insist that only they can help you achieve enlightenment or salvation. If you don’t get it from them, then you will never get it.

They are saying this as a veiled threat.

But in other cases, they may not even be trying to threaten you at all.

They may just be trying to undermine your ability to think for yourself and overcome your own weaknesses.

In other words, they want you to depend upon them for any type of spiritual fulfillment or enlightenment.

They don’t believe that you can get these things by believing in yourself or by doing it on your own for your own satisfaction and benefit–they get to dictate what is right and wrong in a world of their making.

If you want more clarity on this, I’d suggest speaking to a gifted advisor at Psychic Source.

I mentioned them earlier. They have helped me out in the past and I’ve always found them honest and compassionate in their readings.

So instead of trying to solve all your love problems on your own, speak to an advisor who’ll give you the answers you’re looking for.

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11) They have a higher view of themselves

Let me explain:

The manipulator is very competitive and feels like they have to be better than everyone else.

They are more important than you, so if you don’t believe this about them, then there will be hell to pay.

This is a huge sign that someone is trying to manipulate you spiritually. They will put you down for not seeing things in the exact way they want. But they also have an inflated ego and they know that they can control your thoughts and actions because of it.

They may also lead you to believe that you can’t get anything right on your own and that you have to have them in order to know what is right and wrong.

Their ego is their biggest weakness, but it’s also their strength because they’ll use it as a way to control your weaknesses.

They will tell you a different story when they are trying to manipulate or hurt you and when they are trying to make themselves look good.

12) You constantly feel guilty after interactions with this person

I bet that you have been in a situation before where you felt guilty after an encounter with another person. This may not have been about spirituality at all–it could be about something else, but the point is that you felt guilty and it didn’t feel good.

If someone is manipulating your spiritual side, then this guilt feeling may manifest in a very specific way:

You will feel guilty for not being spiritually enlightened, for not having faith (or enough faith), or simply for opening up to another person.

The manipulator wants you to feel guilty in order to gain control over your actions and thoughts.

You will feel guilty for not seeing things their way, for not seeing their path, or for not putting them first.

13) They will attempt to make us feel worthless without them

Another big sign that someone is trying to manipulate you spiritually is when they make you feel worthless without them.

This could mean a lot of things, but it will always be used to serve the manipulator’s purpose and gain control over your actions.

The manipulator wants you to feel worthless without them because they are trying to gain control or power over you–they want to make themselves look good by making you look bad.

14) They constantly trigger your insecurity

Let’s face it:

When you’re insecure, it doesn’t matter how confident you are. You will feel like you’ve lost something important and you’ll never feel good about yourself.

The object of your insecurity is going to manipulate this feeling and make you think that only they can help you feel better. This is the manipulation process at work; you are in the middle of a pattern that has been set up for someone to take advantage of your insecurities.

The manipulator will make you think that you want to do what they want in order to save yourself or to end this feeling of insecurity. This is a hard lesson, but it’s necessary if you’re going to learn how to overcome your own insecurities and gain control of them.

Final thoughts

We’ve covered some major signs of the manipulation process here, but I want to remind you that they are just indicators of a larger issue. You may still be at the mercy of a manipulator who is trying to use these tactics against you.

But if you persevere and work hard, then you can overcome this manipulator and create your own path of spiritual fulfillment.

Hopefully, the signs above will shed some light on manipulation issues.

But if there’s a part of you that still wants to know more, I recommend speaking to a genuine advisor.

And there’s one company that I always end up recommending, Psychic Source. Not only did they blow me away with their accurate reading, but they were also kind and understanding of my situation.

So if you’re tired of wondering about someone manipulating you spiritually, get in touch with a gifted advisor and take your future into your own hands. I did, and I’ve never looked back since.

Click here to get your own professional love reading. 

Can a gifted advisor help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to someone with special intuition.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Psychic Source when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into what my future holds, and the confidence to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

If you haven’t heard of Psychic Source before, it’s a site where gifted advisors help people through complicated and difficult life situations.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a highly intuitive psychic and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my psychic was.

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Thảo Anh Nguyễn

Thảo Anh Nguyễn

It is the little daily things that make life worth living and I know how to put you in the right perspective. I write about the intersection of life and love: how spirituality has changed my relationships, what I do to cultivate love in my life, and why I believe that all relationships are spiritual. Meet all your needs for your relationship and pieces of life advice with my articles.

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