12 signs a Scorpio man just wants to be friends (and how to change his mind)

A Scorpio man is a rare find, and it’s hard to tell if you’re just friends or if there’s something more.

But never fear!

We have your back with this handy guide. Here are 12 signs a Scorpio man just wants to be friends:

1) He avoids physical contact

Here’s an interesting fact:

A Scorpio man will rarely initiate affection or touch, and he will pull away if you initiate it.

You’re probably just friends if he gives you a high-five or a pat on the shoulder instead of hugs, kisses, and massages.

If you try to hold his hand, he will push yours away.

He wants to keep physical contact at a minimum because he’s not ready for a relationship yet.

2) He doesn’t act interested in your life outside of social media

Based on his zodiac sign, a Scorpio is a private person. He has secrets and things he doesn’t want others to know about.

If you try to get him to talk about his personal life, he will immediately change the subject or tell you he’s not ready to talk about it yet.

You’re probably just friends if your conversations are primarily held on social media and limited to an exchange of likes and comments.

Trust me, he’d rather not talk to you at all than have to divulge personal secrets.

3) Every conversation goes to a dissatisfying dead end and he doesn’t seem to care

Have you ever found yourself talking to a Scorpio man and wondered where the conversation went?

The answer is nowhere.

Scorpios are known for being blunt, concise, and to the point in conversations.

If he doesn’t want to talk with you, he certainly won’t spend a long time talking about anything. He will either completely ignore your message or give you an answer that doesn’t satisfy your curiosity.

Making small-talk is not his thing either unless it’s absolutely necessary. You’re probably just friends if you engage in any conversation with him and he responds with one-word answers.

4) A gifted advisor confirms it

The signs above and below will give you a good idea about the signs a Scorpio man just wants to be friends.

But a surefire way to know for sure is to speak with a gifted advisor.

They can answer questions like whether your Scorpio man is just friends or if there’s something more.

The problem is finding someone you can trust.

That’s why I recommend Psychic Source. When I signed up for a reading, they provided me with a unique insight into where my life was going, including who I am meant to be with.

Having tried several online advisors, I think they’re the most caring, compassionate, and helpful network of gifted advisors out there.

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Not only will a genuine advisor tell you if your Scorpio man is just friends or if there’s a chance for more, but they can reveal all your love possibilities.

5) He’s not interested in your extreme excitement

If you’re just friends with a Scorpio man, don’t get excited if you win an award at work or if your close friend gets married.

He’s not going to congratulate you.

Scorpios are known for being quite stoic. This is why winning an award will be met with silence and a straight-faced nod or perhaps a “that’s awesome.”

If he has other plans, he will let you know ahead of time and won’t show up to the award ceremony.

It’s also a good idea to ask him ahead of time if you can tell him about your good news. He may not be interested in hearing it.

You’re probably just friends if he doesn’t get excited about your most exciting moments.

6) He doesn’t initiate things

Scorpio men have what scientists define as an “acquisition complex”.

That’s a fancy way of saying they’re planners.

A Scorpio is more likely to put off something he wants until it’s the right time.

So what does all this mean?

He just wants to be a friend if he doesn’t bring up plans and he doesn’t initiate a conversation. That means he may never suggest getting coffee or asking you out on a date. If you ever want to meet up, you’ll have to do the asking.

7) He never talks about his feelings


Scorpio is one of the most independent signs of the zodiac.

They believe in doing things themselves and don’t want to rely on anyone for support. They don’t like to be told what they’re feeling or what they want.

He doesn’t like to be the center of attention. He’s not good at sharing the spotlight and prefers to stay in the background where he’s comfortable.

Instead of telling you how he feels, he’ll leave you guessing. So if you want to know where he stands, ask.

If he’s just friends with you, there’s a good chance that you’ll get a vague answer like “I don’t know” or “it’s uncertain”.

8) He makes you feel like a burden to him when you go out with him and his friends

Apart from being introverted, a Scorpio man feels responsible for his friends.

That means he doesn’t want to do anything that will cause them harm or make them uncomfortable.

He can be quite protective of the people he cares about.

So if you go out with a Scorpio man and his friends and the night goes south, don’t expect him to be too concerned.

He’ll just let it go and pretend as if nothing happened.

If he treats you like a burden or a third wheel when you go out with him or his friends, then it’s possible that he just sees you as a friend.

9) He is more invested in his work than in relationships

You don’t have to be a career woman to know this.

Everyone knows that Scorpios are hard workers and workaholics.

If you’re friends with a Scorpio man, then you know he’s focused on his career and isn’t looking for love. He’ll tell you that there’s no time for romance and he hasn’t thought about dating anyone in particular.

If you want him to be interested in more than just friendship, it will have to come from outside his field of work.

But if you want more clarity on this, I’d suggest speaking to a gifted advisor at Psychic Source.

I mentioned them earlier. They have helped me out in the past and I’ve always found them honest and compassionate in their readings.

So instead of trying to solve all your love problems on your own, speak to an advisor who’ll give you the answers you’re looking for.

Click here to get your own personalized reading.

10) His patience can be fragile and short-lived

Another sign that he’s just friends with you is if he gets easily irritated.

For example, if you’re late for a date, he may get annoyed with you and tell you that it’s rude to be late.

Then, if he’s getting tired of the way you speak to him or if your relationship just feels stale, he’ll let it go with a sigh and tell you that things aren’t working out.

He feels responsible for tending to the needs of others, so if something isn’t working out this is his way of removing himself from the situation before it starts affecting someone else.

11) He’s always available for sex, but never for intimacy or commitment

It’s no secret that Scorpio is one of the most sensual signs in the zodiac.

They live for the companionship of others and enjoy the small things in life, like a cold glass of milk or a hot bath. That’s why they aren’t exactly one to initiate a relationship.

This is their way of living in the moment and appreciating what life has to offer.

But if all you want is a good time, then he’s not the one for you.

He might be into you, but the attention he gives you will always come with a price tag attached.

12) He talks to women without any regard for your feelings

Once again, this is another sign that he’s just friends with you.

Scorpios also aren’t great with regard to emotional attachment and don’t think about the feelings of others.


It’s not because he doesn’t care. He just lives life on his own terms and as I said before, they’re independent people.

They don’t want to rely on anyone else and they don’t think about others’ feelings either. This is why he may talk to you as if you aren’t important or that it won’t affect your feelings in any way.

But if you’re upset about it, there’s no point in getting upset with him for doing this.

So, how can you change this?

If you want to be more important and to matter to him, you’ll have to be proactive instead of reactive.

There are 8 ways to do this and it’s something you’ll have to work on.

1) If there’s a mutual interest, be open to communication and compromise

As I said before, Scorpio is a perfectionist and one who thinks about what others think.

If you want him to respect your feelings and be open to communication and compromise, then this is how you’ll have to act.

You should always hold a conversation with him whenever there’s no pressure or business stake in the matter.

Make it clear that you need him to listen with an open mind so that he can share his ideas when it comes time to make decisions together.

You’ll also have to be a good listener. If he has an idea that can help you out, make sure to tell him what you think about it.

And if you disagree with him, make sure that you’re respectful of his opinion as well.

If he makes an offer, take it or leave it. In case he involves you in his decision-making processes, then this means that he wants to be involved in your life as well.

2) Refrain from flirting with him too much

This is a big no-no.

For a Scorpio man, flirting can be a turn-off.

That’s because he’ll think that you’re more interested in the attention than actually being with him. So if you want to keep him around, refrain from flirting and make it clear that you’re just friends.

But if he sees that things are becoming too serious and there’s too much at stake with your relationship, then he might step away for his own protection.

3) Be clear about what he wants from you

It would be wise to ask him if you mean anything to him.

This is important because like I said before, he’ll give you what he can and not what you want.

But if he realizes that you’re serious, then he might revise his thoughts about your relationship and give you what you want.

Here’s the step-by-step process:

  • Ask him what he wants from the relationship.
  • Tell him that you take your relationship very seriously, and ask for the same in return.
  • If he doesn’t want to be committed, then let him know that you don’t want to be in a casual relationship and let him go.
  • If he wants to commit and work on the relationship, then you should know that it will take time.
  • Give him your support and communicate with him honestly.
  • If he gives you an ultimatum or continues to push you away, don’t give up on the relationship.

4) Don’t give him hints of your interest but don’t play hard to get either

This is another way of working on the relationship and being more important.

Scorpio men are sometimes bad at reading people. So if you want him to see that he’s important to you, don’t give him hints of your interest.

But if he doesn’t seem interested in you, don’t play hard to get either.

Treat him naturally and be the same way with him that you would be with your friends or family.

5) Make him worry that he’ll lose you

This is a common survival instinct with Scorpios, so if he proves to be too much of a distraction or threatens to take you away from him, then he might back off.

But if this doesn’t happen, then you’ll have to make him worry that you’re going to get bored or bored with him and move on.

This will help keep his interest levels high and it will keep him close at hand, ready to be there for you any time of the day.

6) Let him know you like the way he handles his emotions

Here’s the deal:

You can’t control him but you can control how he feels.  And that’s the reason why he’ll give you the amount of attention and affection you deserve. If you make him feel loved, then he’ll definitely love you back.

So, here are a few ways to show that you like the way he handles his emotions:

  • Acknowledge his anger or frustration with a soft, caring touch on the forearm.
  • Let him know that there’s nothing he can do to change you and that you’re okay with what he says and does.
  • Compliment him when he’s acting mature and not passionate.
  • Tell him that he’s a good man and that you enjoy being with a man who’s not overly emotional.

7) Be subtle about how you compliment him

Scorpios are gifted natural psychologists. They can read people as if they were open books.

This is one of the reasons why they’re very good at reading emotions and being aware of when someone’s interested in them.

You’ll have to be subtle about how you compliment him if you want to do it right.

Just make sure that you’re not putting him on the spot because he’ll feel trapped, and that’s something you do not want.

8) Stay away from physical contact with him

This is the most important step because Scorpios don’t want to be touched by other people.

It’s a very intimate thing and they don’t want to do it.

So if you’re planning on going out with your Scorpio man, then make sure that you never hold hands or hug him in public.

Never get too close, always keep a distance between you two and make him feel comfortable about it.

You’ll be surprised at how much better he’ll act around you and how much more affectionate he’ll be.

Final thoughts

Scorpio men may be intimidating and they definitely have their own ways of doing things.

But this doesn’t mean that you can’t get a hold of them, and it doesn’t mean that you can’t change them.

If you follow this guide then you’ll be able to get him to fall for you over time and eventually fall in love with you.

Hopefully, the signs above will shed some light on a Scorpio man who just wants to be friends.

But if there’s a part of you that still wants to know more, I recommend speaking to a genuine advisor.

And there’s one company that I always end up recommending, Psychic Source. Not only did they blow me away with their accurate reading, but they were also kind and understanding of my situation.

So if you’re tired of wondering about whether your Scorpio man likes you or not, get in touch with a gifted advisor and take your future into your own hands. I did, and I’ve never looked back since.

Click here to get your own professional love reading.

Can a gifted advisor help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to someone with special intuition.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Psychic Source when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into what my future holds, and the confidence to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

If you haven’t heard of Psychic Source before, it’s a site where gifted advisors help people through complicated and difficult life situations.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a highly intuitive psychic and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my psychic was.

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Thảo Anh Nguyễn

Thảo Anh Nguyễn

It is the little daily things that make life worth living and I know how to put you in the right perspective. I write about the intersection of life and love: how spirituality has changed my relationships, what I do to cultivate love in my life, and why I believe that all relationships are spiritual. Meet all your needs for your relationship and pieces of life advice with my articles.

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