18 signs a girl wants you to notice her

Have you ever found a specific girl’s behavior with you a bit strange? You might be feeling like she isn’t acting normally and you can just tell that something’s up.

Well, something might be up if she’s attracted to you and wants your attention.

Still not sure how you can tell? Here are 18 signs a girl wants you to notice her.

1) She finds ways to spend time with you

If she’s pushing for some one-on-one time, she’s trying to get you to notice her.

The more time you spend together, the more you’ll get to know each other, and she’s hoping that getting to know her more will push you to like her back.

This could include often asking for help—even when it’s for things she could probably do on her own. From small things like opening a jar to bigger ones like asking you to tag along for furniture shopping, she enjoys every minute with you and wants to spend as many of them with you as humanly possible.

She might even be trying to form a spiritual connection with you in the hopes that you suddenly feel the need to be with her.

2) She gets rid of barriers

Whether it’s physical distance or a couch cushion, if she wants you to notice her, she’ll remove any barriers between the two of you.

Have you ever hung out at a crowded party where you ended up sitting a few chairs away from each other and, for some reason, she’s suddenly at your side? Or maybe you’re at a coffee shop with some friends and when she comes back from the bathroom, she insists on sitting next to you.

She’s hoping you’ll notice her if she’s physically closer to you, so she’ll remove any unwanted purses or empty solo cups if they’re in the way.

3) She acts weird around other girls

Obviously, if she wants you to notice her, she won’t appreciate you noticing someone else—particularly another girl.

You can tell if she’s bothered by observing both her verbal and non-verbal behavior; if she’s physically looking bothered or vocally expressing annoyance, you can bet she’s into you and wants your undivided attention.

Pay attention to what she’s like especially when other girls outright flirt with you. Is she squirming in her seat or nodding to whatever you say more enthusiastically than normal?

She could be trying to set herself apart from the other girls to show you that she’s the more interesting option to talk to.

4) She dresses up

If she wants your attention, she can’t very well do that best in a grubby outfit and messy hair.

One sign that a girl wants you to notice her is that she’s always dressed to impress around you. No signs of imperfection here! Only immaculate outfits and artfully styled braids.

Has she ever asked what your favorite color is only to show up the next day in that exact color? Or maybe she’s fished for your favorite style of clothing before and ends up wearing that style frequently?

This is her way of fluffing her feathers to show you her best angles and looks. If she wants to look attractive to you, she’ll use every makeup brush in her arsenal to look her best.

5) She maintains eye contact

You’ll notice that her eyes are drawn to yours, or she looks at you and glances away—and glances back (you get the gist). It’s as if she can’t help but stare at you.

This kind of body language is telling if she’s trying to get you to notice her. She wants to gain and capture your attention, so she’ll do that by keeping your eyes focused on her. She might also draw attention to her face when you talk to bring your gaze back to her eyes.

Eye-to-eye contact causes an arousal reaction, and while she might not know it, maintaining eye contact with you is her way of sparking that feeling of excitement and arousal.

6) She opens up to you—a lot

If you find that you’re having deep conversation after deep conversation about her and her feelings, she might be signaling to you that she wants you to notice her.

It’s like you don’t even have to try getting her to open up; she just freely opens up to you, like she has no secrets to hide from you. This means she trusts and feels safe with you.

She’s hoping to create a strong connection between the two of you by baring her soul and being vulnerable.

7) She finds ways to touch you

And not in a creepy way.

Another sign that a girl wants you to notice her is if she constantly finds excuses to physically touch you and get closer to you, in both big and small ways.

Physical—not necessarily sexual—touch is important for maintaining intimacy, so she could be doing this on purpose to get you to notice her.

The touching might even increase over time (depending on how your relationship progresses), ranging from polite handshakes at the start to hitting you playfully or lightly touching your arm. If she’s comfortable with it, she might even give you hugs.

Whatever it is, if she’s always initiating physical contact, it’s a big sign that she wants your attention.

8) She looks out for you

If she’s always making sure you’re okay and not hurt in any way, she might be trying to get you to notice her.

She could be very considerate of your feelings and this is because she never wants to hurt you; she wants to do the opposite, which is to make you feel safe with her and feel secure in the fact that she’s never doing anything wrong with you.

Unfortunately, a subconscious reason for this is that women are conditioned to want to be an emotional service station and nothing less for the people around them, so she’ll apologize often and explain herself even when she doesn’t need to.

Basically, she just wants you to know that she cares about you and your feelings.

9) She’s curious about you

Whether it’s on a date or not, she might be asking you a million questions from what your favorite color is to what you think about the cycle of life and death. Think of it as her doing research on your life, and you’re the primary source.

People want to know as much as possible about the person they like because it gives them a more detailed picture of that person and makes things more intimate. If she’s naturally curious about you, it’s a sign that she’s investing in you (because she wouldn’t ask about you if she wasn’t interested in taking things further).

Apart from that, she’s got a really good memory for everything you say; she remembers everything you’ve told her because she paid attention to whatever you said, and that’s another sign that she wants you to notice her.

10) She laughs at everything you say

Ever cracked a joke with a group of friends and you noticed that she laughed louder and longer than everyone else did?

You’re funny, but sometimes you can catch yourself thinking that you’re not that funny for her to laugh this loud and this often at the things you say.

It’s a big sign that this girl wants you to notice her, and one of the more obvious ones. Humor indicates relationship interest, so if she finds you funny and shows it, she might be romantically interested in you.

11) She mirrors you

Mirroring is when someone subconsciously imitates the behavior of another, and it’s a big sign that she likes you and wants your attention.

Pay attention to how she acts when she’s with you. Does she laugh when you laugh? Does she cross her arms when you do?

She could be mirroring you in words or in body language, like when she adopts your slang or when she sits when you sit. Sometimes, that’s normal for conversation, but if you start noticing that she only does it with you, it’s another sign that she wants you to notice her.

12) She’s nervous around you

Her body language is definitely something to watch out for if you’re figuring out whether this girl wants you to notice her. It’s especially obvious if you can tell that she’s nervous around you.

Here are some body language signs that she’s nervous around you:

  • Talking at a loud volume
  • Stuttering or stumbling her words
  • Fidgeting with nearby objects, her clothes, or her hair
  • Blushing

If any of these sound like her at some point, she might want you to notice her—but doesn’t know how to confidently do that because she may be shy.

13) She’s active on your social media

Have your notifications ever been flooded one morning with this one girl, or you notice that she’s more of a consistent and subtle commenter on your posts?

Likes, retweets, and comments can be obvious, subtle ways to get you to notice her. Interacting with your socials sends you a notification; if she sends enough of them, she might be hoping that it’ll catch your attention and make you curious about her.

Just don’t mention anything embarrassing, like her accidentally liking an Instagram photo from two years ago (because she was probably stalking you).

14) She talks to others about you

Girls tell each other everything, and if you’ve been told otherwise, they might not have been telling the truth.

This is especially true for crushes or people they like. If her friends know about you, they’ve probably been witness to her freaking out over a text message from you or frantic late-night messages about what she should wear to see you.

How would you be able to tell if this sign is or isn’t there?

Easy. They’ll tease her when you’re around or tease you with her, making you look like a couple. It’s a surefire sign that this girl wants you to notice her. Who knows? She might even have asked her friends to do all that on purpose to push you towards her.

15) She cares about what you think

If your opinion means a lot to her, especially if it’s your opinion of her, she might want you to notice her.

She might constantly ask what you think about certain things and whether she agrees with it or not, she’ll use it to make conversation or change some of her behaviors.

This doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll do whatever you say. It just means she cares about what you think and might make a mental note of them for the brain map she has of you.

She just wants to know more about you. Sharing your opinion on politics or her choice of jeans is a nice bonus.

16) She immediately replies to all of your texts

If you sent a message at 3:42 and you get a reply at 3:43, it’s a big sign that this girl wants you to notice her.

She doesn’t want to keep you waiting, so she’ll make sure that she responds to your texts in the span of .2 seconds. This might be because she doesn’t want you to lose interest in talking to her and wants to keep you thinking about her all the time.

17) She’s fine with playful teasing

Have you ever noticed that fake, teasing bullying is a great way to see if you’ve got a spark with someone?

She might be playfully teasing you (or bouncing your playful teasing back) because she wants to spend time with you and make sure that you’re enjoying your conversations as much as she is with that cheeky spark you’ve got going.

Just make sure that the playful teasing doesn’t turn into real meanness; she might take it fine enough on the outside, but that’s because girls are conditioned to think men are mean because they like them.

18) She drunk texts you

Alcohol doesn’t make you do things you really don’t want to do; it gets rid of the inhibitions that keep you from doing things you really want to do. So if she texts you when she’s drunk, she might be trying to get your attention.

She might even confess her feelings for you if she has them for real; without her inhibitions stopping her, she might be in the mood for some truth-telling with you.

All of these are big signs that a girl wants you to notice her. The secret to knowing for sure is paying attention to how she acts and what she says, and you’ve got the key to finding out whether a girl is into you or not.

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