21 psychology signs a man is in love (complete list)

Dating doesn’t have to be hard!

If you know what to look for, you’ll know whether a guy is serious – or just looking to play the field.

There are many different ways that he may show his love for you, but sometimes you need a little more than your intuition.

The following is a list of 21 psychology signs that a man is in love.

Let’s get started:

1) He wants to spend all his free time with you

One of the first psychology signs a man is in love is that he wants to be with you all the time.

This is more than just wanting a date on the weekends.

This can include meeting you for lunch on a workday, Chinese takeaway after work, cuddling on the couch watching Netflix, basically, spending every free moment with you.

If you’ve already got plans, he’ll be pretty disappointed.

He might even show up at your doorstep in the middle of the night just because he wants to see you.

You see, when a guy really cares about a girl, it doesn’t matter what’s going on in his life – he will always make time for her.

So if he’s rushing to meet you after work to go to the movies without even getting a chance to grab something to eat – if you’re more important than food – know that’s a sure sign that he’s in love with you.

2) He puts your needs first

Here’s an interesting fact: When a guy is in love, his main goal is to make you happy.

When a guy puts your needs before his own, it shows how much he cares.

For example:

  • He’ll gladly sit through a four-hour musical to make you happy.
  • If he’s really craving Indian food he’ll still take you to an Italian restaurant because he knows it’s what you want.
  • He’ll cook you dinner even though he hates cooking.
  • He’ll spend the last of his salary to buy you a gift.
  • And, of course, he’ll be willing to compromise on huge issues if it means that you’re happy with him.

In any relationship, compromise is important – but when someone loves you they do so without expecting or wanting anything in return.

In fact, they’ll often make sacrifices even if they don’t have to.

Let’s say that he doesn’t like your friends. He’ll make an effort to get along with them anyway because he knows how much they mean to you.

And the best part is?

He’ll always remember the things that you enjoy and do them for you!

He’ll also know what makes you sad and avoid those situations.

3) He wants to protect you

Everyone wants to feel safe, but when a guy is in love he’ll want to protect you so badly that it feels like an obsession at times.

I know – it sounds a little crazy, right?

But there’s a reason for his behavior, it’s because you’ve triggered his hero instinct.

You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12-word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.

4) He’s constantly texting you

When a guy really loves you, he’ll constantly check in with you.

  • He’ll text you when he wakes up and ask you how you slept.
  • He’ll still text you when he gets to work just to say hi and wish you a good day at work.
  • He’ll text you a lunch to see what you’re eating.
  • He’ll text you after work to see what you’re doing.
  • He’ll text you when he gets home…
  • He’ll text you before bed…

See where I’m going with this?

He just can’t get enough of you.

Even though he can’t be with you in person all the time, he’s with you in his mind and loves being in touch with you.

So if a guy is constantly checking in on his girl, it’s because he’s in love with her.

5) He keeps you close when other guys are around

Have you noticed that every time you go out, he’s extra affectionate?

This is especially true when other guys are around – even if they are your friends.

  • He’ll make a big show of kissing you, hugging you, and holding you close to him.
  • He’ll call you “babe” and “sweetie” and stick to you like glue.

It’s as if he’s saying to them,  “Back off, she’s with me!”

He may even act a little jealous when you hang out with your male friends.

You see, his sense of possessiveness and jealousy are a sign of love.

He wants to make absolutely sure that there’s no doubt in any guy’s mind that you are taken.

6) He works hard to make you happy

When someone loves you, they’ll go out of their way to make sure that you’re happy.

  • Maybe he’ll buy you jewelry or surprise you with trips to places you’ve never been to before.
  • Or he’ll fly your parents across the country to visit you for your birthday.

But there is more.

It’s not only about the grand gestures. It’s often the little things that count.

  • He’ll listen to your problems and try to help you solve them.
  • He’ll do small things for you to make your life easier – like walk your dog or pick up your dry cleaning.
  • He’ll buy you flowers or chocolates for no reason other than because he loves you.

And, of course, he’ll try to make you happy in other ways too – like by being affectionate – complimenting you and holding your hand when you walk down the street.

7) His eyes say it all

What does it mean when a guy stares deeply into your eyes?

The answer is:

He’s in love with you. It’s as simple and clear-cut as that.

Sometimes, it’s difficult to understand what a man is thinking, especially when he doesn’t want to say it out loud.

But one way to know for sure if a guy likes you is by looking into his eyes. If they’re gazing longingly into yours, then it’s a surefire sign he’s head over heels in love with you!

He might even have this dreamy look and his eyes may even look like he’s about to cry.

They say that the eyes are the window to the soul, so pay attention to how he’s looking at you.

8) He likes to show you off to the world

Nothing says “I love you” quite like showing you off.

When a guy loves you, he’ll want to show you off to the world.

He thinks you’re the most amazing girl ever and he’s so lucky to be with you.

He’s so proud that he wants everyone to know that he has a girlfriend who is as beautiful and graceful as you are.

  • He’ll take you out to fancy restaurants.
  • He’ll take you to premieres.
  • He’ll take you dancing.

Now, he may not be the most confident guy you’ve met, but when he’s with you, he’ll strut around like he owns the world.

9) He introduces you to his friends

Hey, this is a pretty big deal! You don’t just introduce any girl to your friends.

If he’s introducing you to his friends it’s because he wants them to see how great you are. He wants to bring you into his “inner circle”.

He’s probably been telling them all about you and he can’t wait for them to see you for themselves.

And, what’s more, he’ll ask to meet your friends.

He’s so smitten with you that he wants to take this relationship to the next level.

10) He introduces you to his family

Wow! Now, this is an even bigger deal.

You only introduce your girlfriend to your parents when you’re in a committed and loving relationship and you think she may be “the one”.

If he’s introducing you to his parents, maybe he’s already thinking about the future, about marriage and children, and living happily ever after.

It’s important to keep in mind that he wants you and his family to get along because you are the most important people in the world to him.

I think that’s pretty sweet!

11) He worries he’ll lose you

When a guy is in love, he worries about the possibility of losing you, even if it’s unfounded.

He’ll worry and wonder if the relationship will work out – even if he’s been with you for a long time and has no reason to be concerned.

This could be because he’s a little unsure of himself or insecure… maybe it’s because of past experiences with other girls.

You see, you’re the best thing that ever happened to him so he wants to make sure that everything is okay so he can wake up next to you every morning for the rest of his life!

12) He’s infatuated with you

Another sign that he’s in love with you is that he’s totally infatuated with you.

If you want to make any man infatuated with you, check out dating and relationship coach Clayton Max’s free video here.

He’s created a unique set of texts that will reach any man on a deep, primal level, unleashing his lust and craving for you.

The best part is Clayton explains how men work when it comes to attraction and love, so it’s well worth checking out advice.

13) He loves your quirks

Do you chew loudly? Are you extremely competitive? Do you like to pour instant coffee powder directly into your mouth instead of mixing it with water? Do you like to leave the dirty dishes in the sink for days on end?

You see, everyone has their own unique ways and, when you’re in love, you’ll see those weird little habits that would normally drive you nuts as adorable quirks.

He doesn’t just tolerate your quirks – he finds them cute! He thinks of them as part of your charm.

He would never dream of changing a thing about you because he loves everything about you, quirks included.

14) He misses you when you’re apart

When you’re in love, you become a part of each other.

When you’re apart, he misses you, which is why he takes as much time as possible to be with you.

You could be in the middle of a jungle for all he cares – so long as he’s with you!

You know how dogs have separation anxiety? They’re so excited to see you even if you were gone for only 5 minutes to throw out the trash.

Well, a guy in love is kind of like that…

He’ll miss you when you’re asleep. He’ll miss you when you’re at work. And don’t get me started on traveling…

I know, his behavior seems a little too clingy but it’s only because he’s so happy that he found you and he doesn’t want to miss a minute of happiness with you!

15) He’s there for you when you need him the most

When you’re feeling blue, when nothing seems to be going your way, or when you’re simply stuck in bed with the flu, he’ll be there for you.

He’ll be there to listen to you. He’ll bring you chicken soup to help you get better. He’ll be your shoulder to cry on. He’ll hold your hand when you’re scared.

He’s not just your lover, he’s your friend too.

You know that you can always count on him to be there for you!

It’s a surefire sign that he’s in love because you don’t even have to ask, he’ll always be there when you need him.

16) He’s a real gentleman

He opens doors for you. He holds your umbrella for you. He’ll even fight for your honor on social media!

This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.

When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to fall head over heels in love with you.

And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.

All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

17) He really listens to you

You know how guys sometimes nod their heads when you’re talking and pretend they’re listening?

Not this guy though.

He doesn’t just nod his head and pretend to be interested in what you’re saying. He’s actually listening.

Now, he’s actually interested in what you have to say and he’ll ask you questions that show that he’s actually paying attention to your words.

You’re more than just a pretty face – he wants to know everything about you! What gets you out of bed in the morning, what makes your eyes shine, what makes your heart skip a beat…

He wants to know about your hopes and aspirations.

More than that, he wants to know about the little things, like what happened at work or what a friend said to you.

What’s more, he’ll remember everything you ever told him – a sure sign that he’s in love.

He’ll surprise you by bringing up some minor thing you mentioned months ago and saying, “Remember when you said you wanted to do that thing?”

Not only does he listen, but he gets you.

18) He opens up to you

In my experience, it’s not always easy for guys to open up to someone about their feelings.

It’s just not what they’re taught to do growing up.

If a guy opens up to you it means that he trusts you and feels comfortable enough to let his guard down.

He’ll start telling you about things that happened in his childhood. Problems he has at work. Issues he has with his family. He’ll tell you about his worst fears because he knows you won’t judge him.

In short: He is completely vulnerable with you so if you’re lucky enough to be able to get him to do that, know that he loves you very much.

19) He can’t stop talking about you

Your mutual friends complain that he keeps going on and on about you.

He just can’t shut up about how great you are, what you said, what you did, how cute you were eating ice cream, where he’s taking you next week…

You get the drift…

It’s quite obvious that he’s smitten with you and has a hard time thinking or talking about anything, he’s boring your friends to death!

20) He’s making plans for the future

It will start with little things like planning to go to the farmer’s market on Saturday followed by sailing on a friend’s boat.

Soon it will be followed by plans for the holidays, “Shall we spend Christmas with your family or mine?”

And before you know it, “I’d love to have at least two kids, one of each!”

If he’s making plans for the future with you, you can be sure that not only is he in love with you, but he’s thinking about spending the rest of his life with you.

21) He’s taking risks

When a man is in love he feels more alive than ever before. He wants to live life to the fullest.

He’s open to new things. He’s up for all sorts of adventures.

He may even become a bit of an adrenaline junky.

You see, being in love has opened him to many new possibilities and he’s taking risks that he wouldn’t have taken before meeting you.


By now you should have a good idea whether your guy is showing any of the psychology signs a man’s in love.

However, if you still have doubts, I really recommend looking for signs that you’ve triggered his hero instinct.

I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.

You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.

And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.

If you’re not sure you’ve triggered his hero instinct and you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.

Click here to watch his excellent free video.

Can a gifted advisor help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to someone with special intuition.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Psychic Source when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into what my future holds, and the confidence to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Nomadrs to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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