What it really means when a psychic tells you your boyfriend is not the one

When a psychic tells you that your relationship is doomed even though you’ve been fairly happy, it can feel very confusing.

Does it mean you should leave your boyfriend? Should you stay together and stop believing in the power of psychics altogether?

You’re absolutely right about feeling confused, it’s a very messy situation. In this article, we can dissect together what it really means for you and your relationship when you hear the bad news.

Why did you ask about your relationship in the first place?

First and foremost, we should take a closer look at how your situation even came to be in the first place.

What led you to seek out a psychic, and more importantly, why did you ask about your relationship?

Getting to the bottom of this is often the first step in clearing up any confusion tied to what your psychic has told you.

This will also give you a better idea as to where you stood in regards to your relationship before hearing a psychic’s opinion.

Did you go because you’re really happy and wanted a confirmation that the two of you are meant to be and have a bright future together?

Or did you you because a part of you was already having doubts, feeling unsure as to whether or not your boyfriend is truly the one?

If the latter is the case, chances are you felt deep down that something is off, and just wanted a “valid reason” to end things.

In case you were truly happy about your relationship, it might be a good idea not to take this reading too much to heart.

Psychics can be extremely powerful, don’t get me wrong, but even when the person you talked to is not a fraud, they can still make mistakes sometimes.

It could be the biggest regret of your life ending things with the person you love just because someone else told you he might not be the one!

This brings me to our next point:

Don’t trust others more than you trust yourself

I know, we would love to just go to a psychic, get all the answers we need and then be successful for the rest of our lives.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work like that.

As I said, psychics are great, and they can be an incredible way to receive guidance.

However, at the end of the day, they are still human, just like you.

Once you put a psychic medium on a pedestal, seeing them as much wiser than you, you are giving your own power away.

It’s no wonder you do that, trusting others to decide what’s best for us is often engrained from an early age onwards.

Older people, siblings, authority figures, and teachers always know better, so we learned to trust their judgement over our own.

One of our most powerful tools, especially as women, is that we have an incredible intuition.

Learning to tap into that and use it as inner guidance would clear up so much confusion in life!

That’s why, after your psychics reading, I want you to do something before making a decision.

Sit down in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. If you’re used to meditating, try that for a few minutes.

Otherwise, you can just focus on deep breathing until you feel calm.

Once you’ve reached a state of peace, I want you to think about what your psychic said about your relationship, and I want you to really notice how that feels in your body.

Do you have a nagging feeling that what they said just isn’t right?

Or is there a small voice telling you that this message was just a confirmation for what you already suspected?

That little voice of your intuition can give you lots of insight into what the right decision would be.

Don’t trust other people more than you do your own intuition, even when they are psychic.

If I’m confused about my relationship, should I leave?

Doubt and confusion can be a very normal part of every relationship.

Especially when the honeymoon-phase starts to wear off, conflicts can leave us feeling confused and like the relationship might not be right for us.

It is completely normal to doubt your relationship with your boyfriend from time to time, or even to think about breaking up, especially during a fight.

Unless you think about it constantly, even when things are seemingly good between you two, you shouldn’t worry too much about it.

If, on the other hand, you never feel completely happy, and even good days are clouded with doubt and confusion, that is something to look at.

Whatever the case, and whatever your psychic told you, sometimes the best way to go about this is open communication.

It’s not always the easiest thing to do, but if you are truly constantly plagued with doubts or confusion, talking to your partner is the most productive thing you can do about it.

After all, the two of you are the only ones involved in this relationship, so he will be able to have a lot more insight into what the issue might be.

If you’re scared of opening up this conversation, think about the fact that if your boyfriend is really the one for you, hard talks like these will only make the two of you stronger.

The worst thing that can happen from being honest with him, is realizing that he isn’t the one and getting the freedom to move on and find the person who is.

4 signs that your psychic was right

Now, I’m sure a little part of you is wondering if your psychic was right when they said your boyfriend isn’t the one for you.

If, after listening to your intuition, you still feel confused, here are a few signs that can indicate that your psychic was correct!

1) There is no more sexual chemistry between you two

Although it definitely isn’t the most important part of a relationship for many couples, sex is still crucial for most people in order to be happy in the long term.

Now, before I talk more about this, I want to give a little disclaimer. Having a dry spell or feeling like you’re a bit in a slump sexually, is not a red flag per se.

In fact, it is totally normal for desire to fluctuate over time. Another thing that has to do with this, is the time you spend with your boyfriend.

The more time is spent together, the more desire tends to dissipate.

Don’t let that discourage you, though. It is a natural phenomena and if the chemistry is right between you two, desire will come back eventually!

Especially with the current pandemic, lots of couples have been forced to be together 24/7.

This has taken a toll on many sex lives, believe me!

When you should actually take a closer look and worry, is when you have absolutely no urge to be with your boyfriend anymore, and it feels like the chemistry is completely gone.

2) It’s not fun with him anymore

Humans love to have fun, which is why we often choose people as partners who can make us laugh.

After all, who wants to spend their entire life with someone they can’t have fun with?

Have you noticed a sharp decrease in fun with your boyfriend?

This could mean that there are no more spontaneous activities, adventures have ceased, and you often just hang out in different rooms.

With the right person, things as mundane as watching Netflix can become extremely fun.

If you feel like your relationship has lost all its playfulness, this could be a sign that your psychic was right, and that your boyfriend is not the one.

You can of course communicate with your partner about it, there might be something on his mind that has been distracting him lately.

3) Your boyfriend stresses you out

A good partner is often described as the person you feel most at home with.

People want to feel like their boyfriend or girlfriend is a safe space, someone who calms them down when life gets turbulent.

Sometimes, partners who aren’t right for us can do the exact opposite.

Instead of making you feel peaceful, they stress you out even more and spark your anxiety.

If that sounds like you, and you just never manage to feel calm in your boyfriend’s presence, that can be a big indicator that he’s not the one.

On that note, you can also look at how the two of you tackle issues together.

Does your boyfriend support you, working on the problem as a team, or does it often turn into a fight, where instead of the problem, you end up attacking each other?

If it’s the latter, there might be some issues in the relationship.

4) You have trust issues with him

Another hallmark sign that your psychic was correct, is when you have big trust issues with your boyfriend.

Trusting one another is crucial for a happy, fulfilled relationship.

Now, it’s probably important to mention that trust can obviously take a hit by actions such as lying and cheating, and those are not necessarily reasons to end a relationship.

If that has been a recent experience, and you’re working through it together, just know that it is completely normal to have some trust issues at first.

Once you decide to work on it as a couple, trust will need to be rebuilt slowly.

However, if your partner repeatedly lies and/or cheats, that’s obviously a huge red flag, and a sign for you to get out of there.

In that case, your psychic was absolutely right and he is not the one for you.

If your boyfriend has not given you a single reason to doubt him, and you still struggle with trust issues, this could be a cue to look at something within yourself.

Innate trust issues can often stem from childhood, or from experiences in past relationships.

Working on those will not only improve your current relationship, but all relationships in your life, also the platonic ones.

What should I do now?

These were obviously just a few signs your boyfriend might not be the one for you.

If you have recognized yourself in a few of these, or your intuition is telling you that your psychic medium was right, you are probably wondering what to do next.

Of course, if you feel strongly about it, you can always leave the relationship immediately, you are under no obligation to stay with your boyfriend.

However, if you feel like things could take a turn for the better, it’s always best to talk to your partner.

Tell him your doubts, tell him the issues you see with the relationships, and ask him if he’s willing to work on it with you.

If he is, that’s amazing. Try to come up with a game plan on how to improve the things that are currently going wrong with you two.

Getting a couples therapist can also be a great way to rekindle the flame between you two.

In case he doesn’t want to try, you have a very clear answer, as well!

At least now you know that he is definitely not the one for you, and you are free to find the love of your life!

Your psychic might be right, but only you will know

As powerful as psychics are, in the end, you are the only one who will know whether your medium was right or not.

When you feel like they made a mistake, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a bad psychic or that this whole psychic thing doesn’t work.

They might have just made a genuine mistake.

And if they were right, chances are you already knew that deep down within your heart, you just didn’t want to accept it.

Either way, do what is right for you and listen to your own intuition first and foremost.

There is no right or wrong answer here, only what feels good to you and what doesn’t.

Listen to that.

Anna Scheucher

Anna Scheucher

Freelance writer specializing in holistic health, wellness, and psychology. Check out my blog to find out more https://www.fullyholistic.com/!

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