There’s nothing like the feeling of an authentic and deep spiritual connection.
You are drawn toward one another as soon as one of you enters the room.
Conversation between you flows effortlessly. You think about each other constantly when you aren’t together.
But, not every spiritual connection is the same.
Sometimes, we can feel that intense, passionate pull toward someone, but start to wonder if they really are feeling the same thing.
When a spiritual connection is one-sided, it is unhealthy for both people in the relationship, but in different ways.
In your current relationship, are you experiencing a one-sided spiritual connection?
These are some of the signs that could be happening and what to do about it.
What is a spiritual connection?
First, it’s good to define what you mean when you say you have a spiritual connection with someone.
A spiritual connection is one where the couple experiences a deep intimacy with one another.
They’ll feel at ease with one another and lower all the barriers that are usually there in the start of a relationship. One will be thinking about the other and they’ll suddenly call.
The emotions between them will be satisfying and intense, but with a peace that makes the powerful intimacy feel safe.
A spiritual connection is incredibly fulfilling, but it also can come with some risks.
When you are feeling a strong sense of trust and intimacy, you make yourself more vulnerable to the other person.
You are willing to be there for them in any way that they need. Your levels of compassion and understanding are deeper, so you are more likely to let little things slide.
When this sort of connection is mutual, it’s a wonderful thing.
You each have room to grow more than you would apart from each other.
You can make mistakes as you learn to be a better person.
You have someone who you can lean on since two together is stronger than one on their own.
When that spiritual connection is one-sided, though, you will find that all that you give is not reciprocated.
You are making yourself vulnerable, and potentially being hurt because this is only going one way.
Signs your spiritual connection is one-sided.
Are you going between feelings of deep connection and a nagging worry that something is not quite right?
You may be experiencing a one-sided spiritual connection.
Read over the signs below to learn whether these are ones you have noticed in your relationship.
1. You spend a lot of time listening to them unload.
One of the greatest acts of trust is confiding your feelings to someone else.
You are trusting that they’ll still respect you if you confess to emotions that make you feel weak.
You are allowing them to know the things that can wound you or have hurt you in the past.
This sort of confidence feels good because you can unburden the things that have held you down. It can let you work out past traumas.
But, if you are doing all the listening, you aren’t getting a chance to enjoy the same support and reflection.
It can be extremely draining to absorb all of someone’s trauma without getting to work on your own.
2. A real psychic confirms it.
The signs above and below in this article will give you a good idea of whether this is a one-sided spiritual connection or not.
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3. They don’t communicate with you.
On the other side, you may be with someone who does not communicate with you as much as you would like.
If they’re in a bad mood, they may sit around silently, making you wonder if you’ve done something wrong.
They fail to call when they said they would, leaving you waiting by the phone.
No one is a mind reader.
If you are with someone who doesn’t communicate with you, you are stuck in a situation where you have to guess what’s going on with them.
And, when we’re feeling insecure, it makes us very bad guessers.
We are likely to draw the worst possible conclusion, which only makes us feel more unsafe and unsatisfied.
4. The effort between you is unbalanced.
When you care about someone, it can feel satisfying to help lighten their load. You may pick up the tab to help them out financially.
Or, you can spend a bit of time cooking for them or doing laundry because you want to save them the stress of doing it themselves.
If they never do anything for you, though, your relationship is unbalanced.
You are never getting the chance to enjoy the relief of having part of your burden lifted for you.
This means that you don’t get to have the chance to feel cared for and secure the way that you would in a relationship with a true, reciprocated spiritual connection.
5. They never express appreciation for you.
When you have a spiritual connection with someone, you feel like they are the most amazing person in the universe.
You make sure to tell them how much you appreciate them, because it’s important to express these sorts of feelings.
When the spiritual connection is one-sided, though, they are unlikely to tell you all the things about you that they love.
This is because they are not experiencing the same sort of intimate and satisfying connection you are.
6. They surprise you by saying uncaring things.
When you ask them for support, do they respond by saying that your concerns are overblown?
If someone tells you that you are too emotional or too needy, it could just be that they do not feel the same connection that you do. As a result, they are not as invested in your needs as you are in theirs.
A spiritual connection that is one-sided can mean that the person who you are with just doesn’t feel the need to support you that you do toward them.
This one-sided exchange means that you do all the giving while they just don’t give back to you.
7. Sometimes you feel like you don’t know them at all.
When a spiritual connection exists between two people, they can anticipate one another’s thoughts, feelings and actions. This is because couples with that sort of connection observe closely to learn about one another. They are open, and they share what they are feeling.
If that spiritual connection is one-sided, you may be caught by surprise by the things that your partner says or does.
This is because they have been guarded with you and you really don’t know them as well as you think you did.
And maybe you feel like you don’t know them at all because they’re not truly the one for you. They’re not your soulmate, not the person you’re meant to be with.
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8. They let you down.
When we have a spiritual connection with someone, we trust them without thought. We just know that they will have our backs and will be sure to take care of us no matter what happens.
When that connection doesn’t go both ways, though, you are more likely to be left in the lurch.
This can mean something like them not calling to check on you when you told them you were having a hard day at work.
Or, it can mean you needing their help with a big project at home but them just not answering the phone when you call them to come over.
9. They won’t put a label on it.
When you have a deep spiritual connection, you want the world to know that you two are bonded to one another. When the connection is one-sided, they are more likely to want to keep things undefined, even if you have agreed to exclusivity.
10. You don’t feel comfortable with them.
In a relationship with a spiritual connection, we feel at ease. We trust the person we are with to accept us, no matter what.
If you are finding that you are hiding parts of yourself, it could be because your spiritual connection is one-sided. On some level, you suspect that they don’t reciprocate the deep acceptance that you’ve extended to them.
How to protect your boundaries if it’s a one-sided spiritual connection.
If the connection doesn’t go both ways, it may be a good idea just to end the relationship.
However, many of us are not ready to do that before we try to fix things.
If you are in a place where you feel like the relationship could get better, be sure to keep all of these things in mind.
1. Realize that your needs are valid.
It is reasonable to want love and support from the person you are with. It is reasonable to want validation, affection, and attention.
If someone you are seeing makes you feel like you are being too demanding when you want reciprocation, there is a chance they are gaslighting you.
Realize that you are worthy of the same sort of love, attention and connection that you are willing to extend.
You deserve to be cared for and treated well.
2. Communicate clearly with your partner about what you want and expect.
As I mentioned before, no one is a mind reader.
Before you assume that someone is deliberately neglecting your needs, make sure you express them clearly.
It is okay to ask someone who you are seeing if you can vent to them for a little about your day. It is alright to want to spend more time cuddling in bed.
When we ask for the things that we want from a relationship, we are honoring our needs.
We are acknowledging that we are worthy of the satisfying spiritual connection that we crave from the one who we love.
3. Don’t overextend yourself.
It can be emotionally exhausting to be the one who is caring for the other person all the time.
If someone calls you late at night to talk about their problems, for instance, you are giving up both sleep and emotional energy to help them.
It is okay to tell someone that you can’t take calls too late on a weeknight or that you can’t listen to them unload all the time.
In a relationship with a spiritual connection, each partner supports one another.
This allows them to each recharge so that they can be there fully and take care of one another. When it is one-sided, though, you have no way to recharge.
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4. Don’t take the bait.
If they try to make you feel that your feelings aren’t valid, don’t fall for it.
In a one-sided spiritual connection, you will find yourself open to manipulation.
Realize that you know what you are feeling and experiencing. Don’t let them divert you from your feelings by either denying what they are doing or by changing the subject.
It is okay for you to set up boundaries.
You can tell someone when they are leaning on you too hard. You can tell them when you expect consideration.
For instance, someone who is supposed to call when they get home from work but doesn’t is not honoring your time. It is reasonable for you to expect them to be considerate of you.
5. Be willing to leave.
You’ve communicated your needs and expressed your boundaries.
But, you are finding that nothing changes. If you are happy with your relationship as it is, then sure, why not stay?
Most people, however, won’t be happy or satisfied in a relationship where the spiritual connection is one-sided.
It can be hard to leave.
When you have a spiritual relationship with someone, you crave their presence. You want to be near them, and will often accept behavior that you shouldn’t to get that.
But, if you are keeping space for someone who doesn’t return your deep connection to them, there’s no room for a truly connected relationship.
You will never meet the person who will reciprocate your spiritual connection if you stay with the one who doesn’t.
It can take a lot of courage to leave a relationship that is one-sided.
But, we are better off alone than giving our energy and affection to people who can’t give it back.
Leaving this sort of relationship can help you realize that you are worth caring for, that you are worthy of connection.
When you realize your worth, you are ready to get out there and find the partner you deserve. You can leave behind one-sided spiritual connections and instead find the sort of mutual relationship that enriches your life.
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