“My twin flame thinks I’m crazy.” – 5 reasons why and what to do about it

Your twin flame is supposed to be the reflection of your soul — a soul so similar to your own that it is possible you were one soul that has been cleaved in two. It is akin to a soulmate, except that the two souls are so similar that when the two of you are around, it’s like your souls have remerged back into one.

So it’s devastating when your twin flame, the person who is supposed to be the mirror image of your soul, calls you crazy.

Why would your twin flame do this? You’re not crazy, right? Are they even really your twin flame?

It turns out, that — beauty of the soul set aside — twin flames are human, just like all of us. And humans in relationships get on each other’s nerves.

Let’s take a look at what it means when your twin flame calls you crazy, why they may call you crazy, and what to do about it.

Let’s take a step back

Hey, I love getting into metaphysical, spiritual concepts with you all. I love blogging about dark nights of the soul, lunar eclipses, all that intriguing, otherworldly power.

But, some of these terms are so loaded, that they run the risk of dooming a relationship with unfair expectations. It’s like how at this year’s Olympics, American journalists basically stated that the entire games were riding on Simone Biles, putting an enormous amount of pressure on her to perform.

That’s not fair.

Similarly, labeling a relationship as “twin flame” can put an inordinate amount of stress on your relationship. You’ve basically just said that your s.o. is literally the other half of your soul. That’s a lot of pressure. And if you break up, you can suddenly feel like you’ve blown the greatest opportunity of your life.

If that person is your twin flame, and they’re gone — what’s the point of even dating again?

You see what I mean? This can get dark, real fast.

So, I want us to take a step back, and choose to define a twin flame relationship as an intense relationship that we have with someone who is a lot like us. This reduces pressure on the relationship and also alleviates guilt and shame if the relationship ends.

Because not all relationships go the distance. And that’s ok.

My twin flame called me crazy. Why?

Ok, so it’s important to understand the context of being called crazy. Did your twin flame call you crazy, directly to your face, during an argument?

That’s hurtful. When you call someone crazy in an argument, you’re basically invalidating their perspective. You’re saying “that’s not true, and you believe it’s true because you’re not in touch with reality.” It’s an incredibly disrespectful thing to say to someone.

Why would your twin flame disrespect you like that?

1) Your twin flame is deflecting

Your twin flame may call you crazy in an argument to deflect from something true you brought up. Saying “you’re crazy,” is a quick way to defend oneself if something struck a nerve.

2) Your twin flame is gaslighting you

Gaslighting is when someone manipulates another person into questioning their reality.

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If your twin flame keeps saying “you’re crazy,” every time you bring up something you know is true when you bring it up, then they may be trying to get you to question your reality.

3) Your twin flame thinks this is acceptable

If your twin flame says things like, “you’re acting crazy,” when you argue, there may be a chance that your twin flame picked up this habit from a prior relationship they were in or that they witnessed. Maybe your twin flame’s parents fought a lot, and they always said, “you’re crazy!”

Maybe your twin flame thinks that’s acceptable. The truth is, it isn’t acceptable, and you need to have a conversation with your twin flame about how to argue fairly and with love.

4) Your twin flame can’t see your side of things

Sometimes, when two people argue, seeing the opposing person’s viewpoint is almost impossible.

You so strongly believe what you’re saying that hearing the opposite really seems crazy. There’s no way that’s true! I know what’s true, and it’s the opposite of that! You must be crazy for thinking that. 

This is common. It’s not acceptable to say, “you’re crazy,” but it very well may be that, in the heat of the argument, your twin flame thought, “what are you even talking about?”

What to do when your twin flame calls you crazy in an argument

First off, once the argument has cooled down, you need to have a serious conversation with your twin flame about how you argue. Being twin flames, you have an intense relationship, and this intense connection can become intensely argumentative when something slips.

And it’s no fun to argue with someone you care about deeply.

So, when you and your twin flame have cooled down from raging infernos to calm candles, you need to discuss how being called crazy made you feel.

It’s important to use I Statements when discussing these matters. “I felt invalidated when you called me crazy.” “We shouldn’t call each other crazy when we argue.”

Another good tactic is to encourage both parties to focus on specifics while arguing.

Saying “you’re crazy,” can often be a lazy way of rebutting a point, and it simply invalidates and shuts down the argument. Instead of shutting down and invalidating, try to validate the emotions, “I understand that you feel upset, I want to understand why,” and then continue to discuss while focusing on the issues at hand.

If things feel too heated, it’s perfectly acceptable to say, “I need to take a break for a bit, but I will be back once I feel calmer.”

You and your twin flame should calmly sort through these discussions, and you should leave room for your twin flame to explain themselves. The important thing, though, is to arrive on a good set of ground rules for going forward, and hold yourselves to them.

Your twin flame, if they really value this relationship, will put in the effort to be a more effective communicator and partner.

My twin flame is telling other people I’m crazy

Ok, this is a little different than your twin flame calling you crazy in the heat of an argument. This is your twin flame spreading negativity behind your back.

This usually happens after twin flames break up — a more common occurrence than you’d think!

If, on the other hand, you find out that your twin flame is going around telling people you’re crazy, and you two are still dating, then you seriously need to reevaluate your relationship.

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But, for this article, let’s assume that you and your twin flame have broken up. Now, your twin flame is telling your friends, their friends, your mutual acquaintances, coworkers, that you’re crazy.

What? Why would they do that?

1) They’re venting

The most likely reason that your ex-twin flame is telling people you’re crazy is because breaking up sucks! It doesn’t matter much whether you got broken up with or initiated the break-up, you still feel an intense amount of pain.

Sometimes, due to that pain, people will vent to their friends and families.

This venting process can help someone “get over” their ex by helping them view their ex as not the best person they’ll ever date, but simply a person — like any other.

So, if your ex is just commiserating with her friends, saying “ugh my ex was so crazy,” it may not be the end of the world. It only becomes a problem if your ex is saying really inappropriate or slanderous things about you, or they’re telling your friends and coworkers that you’re crazy.

Those actions cross the line from relatively harmless venting into a form of revenge, where they’re trying to make your life miserable.

2) They’re working through the unhealthy parts of your relationship

I’m not calling you crazy. I’m definitely not calling you crazy.

I am saying that maybe you and your ex had some unhealthy parts of your relationship that weren’t fully processed. Just like you may resent that they never went to your parents for the holidays, they may resent that you forced them to go to that Halloween party even though they have social anxiety — and you said it’s not that big of a deal!

These things happen. We mess up.

It can feel unfair for your ex to air your dirty laundry — especially because your twin flame relationship felt so intense and perfect — but sometimes, people need to air that dirty laundry to learn from bad times.

I’ve listened to my best buds tell me about unfair things their exes had done. I’m there to help them get rid of that mental and spiritual burden that they’ve been silently carrying around for months if not years.

3) A real psychic reveals why

The reasons above and below will give you a good idea of why your twin flame tells other people you are crazy.

But a surefire way to know for sure is to speak with a real love advisor.

However, I know how important it is to stay away from fake “experts”.

That’s why I recommend Psychic Source. They provided me a unique insight into where my life should go, including who I was meant to be with.

Having tried several online advisors, I think they’re the most caring, compassionate, and knowledgeable psychic network out there.

Not only will a genuine love advisor tell you about your twin flame’s reasons, but they can reveal all your love possibilities.

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4) They don’t want to analyze the hurt

Twin flame relationships, like I said earlier, have a lot of pressure on them to be the best and most perfect relationships in our lives. When that twin flame relationship ends, you can easily start to think, “holy shit, have I ruined my one true chance at happiness?”

“No. Girl, he was just crazy.”

See? Just saying that your ex twin flame was crazy rids you of any guilt, “it’s not my fault, she was crazy,” and it stops you from thinking, “she was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was truly happy with her. And now I’m alone.”

Getting over a relationship is a painful and drawn out process that isn’t really over until the relationship can be examined objectively, and you can see what both parties did right and wrong. Seeing your own fault in a relationship’s demise is hard. Seeing your ex’s validity and humanity — especially if they broke up with you — is also really hard.

If it has only been a few months since you and your twin flame broke up, consider that your twin flame is putting up walls to prevent themselves from feeling the pain. They’ll come around when it’s time.

5) You won’t leave them alone

Twin flame relationships are intense.

They represent two souls who are so similar it feels as if they are two souls cleaved from one. These relationships can become suffocating if one part of the twin flame has the constant need to be with the other, and the other isn’t ready for this intensity.

This is a common phase in twin flame relationships, called the runner and chaser. One twin flame recedes, and the other gives chase.

Sometimes, this happens within relationships, and twin flames are able to hash out differences and create healthy boundaries.

Other times, this step leads to a break up, and the chaser can’t stop chasing.

Did your twin flame say “they needed space,” and then you promised to give them space, except you kept sending them funny memes that reminded you of them — every thirty minutes?

Do you keep inviting them out to coffee or the movies or for a drink, totally insisting it’s not a date! We can be friends!

Did you text them late at night saying, “miss you?”

Did you call them crying, asking them to take you back?

… you did, didn’t you?

Don’t worry, it’s not uncommon. It happens to the best of us. It’s ok! You’re not crazy. But you are clinging to a past relationship that no longer exists.

You need to give your twin flame space. You need to give both of you the space to figure out who you are as individuals, not as couples. This means you got to stop sending the memes, stop going out for friend coffee, and stop the late-night calls. You need to sit with yourself and figure out who your soul is.

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And I want you to imagine that your soul isn’t half of a soul magically cleaved from its twin.

I want you to understand that your soul is whole on its own.

In conclusion

Hopefully, the reasons above will shed some light on why your twin flame thinks you are crazy.

But if there’s a part of you that still wants to know more, I recommend speaking to a genuine, professional love advisor.

And there’s one company that I always end up recommending; Psychic Source. Not only did they blow me away with their accurate readings, but they were also kind and understanding of my situation.

So if you’re tired of wondering about your twin flame’s reasons, get in touch with a legit advisor and take your future into your own hands. I did, and I’ve never looked back since.

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