It takes courage to be single.
Maybe you’re newly single and don’t know how long it will last. Perhaps your recent breakup left you unsure about dating again so soon.
Regardless of your situation, it takes a lot of courage to be single and we will take a closer look at that today!
1) Starting over is scary
Starting over after a breakup or long-term relationship can be one of the most frightening experiences.
You’re jumping into a brand new chapter of your life and it can be intimidating.
If you’re dating again after a long-term relationship, you may feel like you have to prove yourself all over again.
You may have to win over your date’s friends and family again and show them that you’re a great person and worthy of their attention.
But not just that, usually, dating is the last thing on your mind after a breakup.
It’s more about starting over with a new phase of life, where suddenly, everything seems to be different.
Starting over after a breakup or long-term relationship can be scary but you can push through it with courage and perseverance.
You got this
2) You don’t know what to expect
When you break up and you have been in a relationship for a long time, it’s hard to know where you stand.
Where will you live? What will you do?
Knowing what you want and having the courage to go after it is something only a few people can do.
You don’t know if your ex will want to get back together or if they’ll want to stay friends.
When you start dating, you don’t know if your date is just looking for a hookup or if they’re interested in something more long-term.
You don’t know how your friends and family will react to the news that you broke up or are single again.
Especially after a long relationship, everything seems to be new.
I mean, when was the last time you spent an evening or weekend all by yourself?
It’s impossible to know what to expect from all kinds of situations in life because you simply haven’t experienced them in such a long time.
And the worst part?
You have no idea how long you will be single or what to expect from this new phase of life.
You don’t know what to expect when you’re newly single, but you can push through it with courage.
3) It’s not always easy to be happily single
Being single is not always easy and it can be lonely at times.
When you don’t have a partner or any romantic relationships in your life, you may start to feel alone and miss having that companionship.
You may be tempted to rush back into a relationship at the first sign of loneliness.
You may want to fill that void as soon as possible and jump right into a new relationship.
You see, you may think having someone in your life will stop you from feeling lonely but that’s not necessarily true.
Sometimes the people we date and who are in our lives don’t make us happy.
They may not be compatible with us and make us feel even lonelier because of the way they treat us.
The person you’re dating may not be the person you want to be with and you may just miss having someone in your life.
Being single is not always easy, especially when society tells you that you should be happy and savor your independence.
I know, this can feel like a huge load of BS while you are in the midst of crying because you feel lonely.
However, I found this video that really helped me out when I was single.
Justin Brown talks about how to be happily single, even when you want a partner.
Trust me, if you feel like you can never be happy again until finding the love of your life, you need to watch this video!
4) People will judge you without knowing your story
Being single after a breakup or long-term relationship is one of the hardest things ever.
You may be among the majority of people who are single after a romantic relationship but some people will judge you for it.
They’ll question why you’re single, they’ll assume things about you that aren’t true, and will judge you without knowing your story.
Some people may assume that you’re too picky or that you like to play the field.
Or perhaps there are rumors about your ex-relationship or breakup that simply aren’t true.
The thing is, people will judge you without knowing your story, so you’ll need to have the courage to ignore those judgments.
People will believe whatever they want to believe, and you can’t really control that.
Sure, you can tell people your side of the story, and your true friends will always have your back.
But those other people that are just here for the drama? Let them be and focus on yourself, instead!
You’ll need to learn how to accept the fact that people will judge you for being single and that you can’t change their minds.
You may need to remind yourself of this every day in order to feel better about yourself when someone judges you.
You’re not alone!
5) You have to face your fears alone
When you break up or end a long-term relationship, you’re ending a significant relationship in your life.
You may have been with your ex for years or your partner may have been your first serious relationship.
You got comfortable in your relationship and may have grown complacent.
But when you end that relationship, you no longer have that comfort.
You no longer have someone to talk to when you have a problem.
There is no longer someone to help boost your confidence and make you feel good about yourself.
You no longer have that person to share your life with and you may be scared to be alone.
You may be scared to face those fears alone and be forced to confront the things you don’t want to do alone.
It’s true, you may miss having someone to go to when you’re sick or need help or someone to share the big moments of your life with like your birthday or Christmas.
Being single after a breakup or long-term relationship is a chance to face your fears alone but you can do it with courage.
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I know you’ll probably say “but you still have friends and family!”, and that’s 100% true.
However, when you are used to being in a relationship, the connection with your friends and family is just very different than the connection you had with your partner.
And at the end of the day, when you go to sleep alone, those thoughts of loneliness will creep in, no matter how supportive your friends and family are.
So yes, it takes courage to face your fears alone, but trust me, this will help you so much further down the line and you will only be a better person because of it.
6) You have no one to lean on when things get tough
Being single after a breakup or long-term relationship means that you don’t have anyone to lean on when things get tough.
When you’re in a relationship, you have your partner to turn to when life gets hard.
You may be able to lean on them for support when you’re having a hard time or you may be able to turn to them when you need help.
You have someone to call when you have nowhere else to turn and you have someone to talk to when you’re worried or anxious.
You see, with a partner, you may have someone to take care of you when you’re sick or need help.
You have someone to comfort you when you’re crying or upset.
They are there for you to pour your heart out to when you need to talk.
Being single after a breakup or long-term relationship means that you don’t have that support.
You have no one to lean on when things get tough and you have no one to turn to when you’re having a hard time.
But trust me, while it may feel that way at first, learning to lean on friends and loved ones again after a breakup will show you that you are not alone, after all.
There are so many people who love and support you, and who want the best for you, always.
Sure, they may not give you the same feelings your partner did, but they are there for you and you can lean on them for support.
7) You are faced with the big questions
Being single suddenly gives you the time and space to think about the big questions in life, like “what is your purpose?”, which can be really scary.
What would you say if I asked you what your purpose is right now?
A month ago I would’ve closed my eyes and sighed. I had no idea.
The problem is that there are far too many fake gurus out there ready to sell you on unrealistic and ineffective solutions.
They told me to meditate, radiate “positive vibrations” and visualize the life of my dreams. They said I’d find the romantic partner I’d always wanted and that prosperity and peace would flow.
It sounded good, but it backfired.
Here’s the crazy thing:
Visualization and positive vibes won’t bring you closer to your dreams, and they can actually drag you backward into time-wasting, idle fantasy, and frustration.
But it’s hard to be happily single when you’re being hit with so many Instagram influencers and studio gurus who want to convince you that you’re just being negative.
You can end up trying so hard and not finding the answers you need that your life and dreams begin to feel hopeless.
You may end up further back than where you started, miserable, alone, and angry.
The fact is:
Before you can experience a real change, you need to really know your purpose.
I learned about the power of purpose from watching Ideapod co-founder Justin Brown’s video on the hidden trap of improving yourself.
Justin used to be addicted to the self-help industry and New Age gurus just like me. They sold him on visualization and positive thinking. It left him lost and confused.
That’s why he traveled to Brazil to meet the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, who taught him a life-changing new way to find your purpose and use it to transform your life and everything around you.
After watching the video, I discovered my purpose in life and it’s no exaggeration to say it was a turning point in my life.
I can honestly say that this new way of finding success by finding your purpose actually helped me to find peace with being single.
8) It takes a lot of time and energy to date while being single
Dating while being single takes up a lot of time and energy.
You may have to spend time dating multiple people at once, which takes a lot of energy.
You may have to spend time finding people to date and then you have to spend time on the dates themselves.
Dating while being single takes up a lot of time and energy and it can be difficult to find time to do all the things you want to do while also dating.
You may have to miss out on spending time with friends, and family, and doing the things you enjoy while you’re dating.
It’s not always fun, especially when you go from knowing someone inside and out, to asking someone about their favorite food on a first date.
But you got this!
Try to see this process as something fun, something that will broaden your horizon and potentially get you closer to the love of your life!
9) Being single makes you grow as a person
I know, you’re probably thinking “why would that take courage?”, but trust me, personal growth is one of the most courageous things a person can do.
Personal growth means you’re changing and learning, growing as a person, and becoming a better version of yourself.
It means feeling vulnerable, trying new things, and pushing yourself to do things that you wouldn’t normally do.
It means taking risks and being open to the possibility of something great happening!
But it also means that it’s not always easy or fun, especially when you have to be vulnerable about things you’ve been struggling with for a long time.
Just like dating someone else is hard work, so is personal growth.
You’ll have to put in the time and effort to learn new things and improve yourself so that you can grow as a person.
The good news?
When you use your time being single to focus on yourself and grow as a person, you will attract the right person into your life and find the love of your life!
And that’s worth being single every single day!
Don’t get frustrated!
I know, it’s easier said than done, but try not to get frustrated from being single.
You see, you are exactly where you need to be at this moment, and the right person will come into your life when the time is right.
Isn’t it better to wait for the love of your life rather than wasting your time with low-quality partners and delaying the experience?
You got this, don’t give up!
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