Have you been thinking a lot about someone you haven’t talked to in a while lately?
Maybe it’s your ex from ten years ago who you haven’t heard from in ages.
Nothing really special about this ex and you’ve outgrown each other and all. They’ve long been dead to you. But one day, out of the blue, you just woke up with vivid images of your fun times together.
It’s like getting a whiff of an old perfume you used to love and now you’ve been thinking about them. A lot.
It’s a little strange. You actually feel their strong presence and it makes you miss them even if you’re happy with your current relationship and doing well in life. And yes, you’re sure you’re not just going through a life crisis.
Because you can’t stop thinking about them, you fight the urge to send them a HEY ‘ZUP text because…what would you say then? That you miss them? It’s embarrassing! But also, what for?
They don’t even miss you one bit! Or do they?
What if I tell you that there is a chance that you miss each other at the same time?
That maybe you’re sending them strong psychic vibrations which triggers them to think of you too. There are many things that are impossible to explain but I will try.
In this article, I will tell you why some people can feel it when someone misses them and what you should do about it afterward.
It’s all about vibrations!
Everything is made out of energy. That includes not just our physical state but also the thoughts and emotions that go through our heads.
The most important thing to note is that we give off vibrations in the world and these vibrations can affect us, other people, and our circumstances. These vibrations are not really easy to pinpoint and quantify because this is just something we feel inside and we feel from each other.
Have you ever wondered why you simply click with some people and not with others?
It’s either you’re vibin, or you’re not vibin’, amirite? This is because of something called energetic alignment.
When two people’s energies align or match, then they would gravitate towards one another. We call this chemistry. Meanwhile, if their energies clash, then they just push each other away no matter how hard they try to stick together.
As John Cusack’s character in High Fidelity said:
“Some people, as far as your senses are concerned, just feel like home.”
If you have this warm, homey feel with someone, you just know it. This is good chemistry, good energetic alignment — something that’s hard to explain.
But what does this have to do with missing someone?
If you have a strong energetic alignment with someone, your intuition for each other is strong even if you’re apart.
You established a good connection and nurtured it and this kind of connection remains for a long time — sometimes, for a lifetime.
Did you ever have a close friend call you and tell you they had a bad feeling right when you needed them? This is exactly what’s happening.
But if you feel it and they don’t, then that is considered a one-sided spiritual connection.
But what about those people with who you haven’t established a strong connection yet? Maybe your classmate or colleague who you still miss even if your interactions are usually brief.
Definitely, not all people but some people can sense it, especially empaths. An empath or someone you’re in sync with can catch your vibrations easily and this can often clue them into what you are thinking or feeling.
So yes, even if you’re just thinking about them, you’ll be surprised that it will actually have an effect on them because some people are just psychics, especially if your bond is strong.
Thoughts are powerful
You may be skeptical of manifestation but you can’t deny that thoughts are things. Everything begins with a thought.
We can manifest miracles and whatever our hearts desire by first thinking that we can because our thoughts determine our actions and vibrations. The thoughts and feelings that dominate our minds affect the things we do in ways big and small.
If you keep thinking about something or someone, you will unconsciously and consciously make decisions and say certain things that reflect your thoughts.
And then there’s this thing called the “Butterfly Effect”
The flap of a butterfly’s wing in Brazil can set off a cascade of atmospheric events that, weeks later, spurs the formation of a tornado in Texas.
See, there’s a funny tendency for small things to unpredictably snowball into much bigger things given just the right push.
Your thoughts and vibrations can cause an almost magical chain of events.
Let’s say you’ve been missing your best friend a ton, so later in the day, you decide to change your profile photo. Unconsciously, you choose a photo that meant something to both of you in the past.
Then your best friend sees that picture while scrolling through their feed and of course, starts thinking of you. The effect might be so subtle that they (and you) won’t even attribute it to the picture you posted.
However, one thing is true: your actions were affected by your thoughts which made your best friend “feel” it!
The little things we do can easily reach farther than we ever thought they would.
5 clues that someone you’ve been thinking about misses you too
1) You feel your alignment getting stronger again
If they’re someone you meet daily, you will notice that you will mirror each other’s actions again.
You will catch them glancing at you at the same time you glance at them. You probably notice you sigh at the same time. Just too many coincidences!
If they’re away from you, you notice that you match a lot.
They may be online at the same time you are. They might change their profile photo on the day you changed yours.
2) They reach out in direct and indirect ways
They’ll like and comment on your posts. They’ll send a generic message, a casual meme, or a friendly invite.
They will try to talk to you even if they have to resort to talking about seemingly pointless things.
3) You keep seeing them
It’s almost uncanny how often you seem to stumble into them while you’re out walking.
Or is it them who keeps stumbling into you?
It’s almost as if the universe itself is pushing you two to be together.
4) You dream about them
Sure, dreaming about them a few times might be a coincidence. But if it keeps on happening?
You’re probably in their thoughts just as much as they are in yours. They might be thinking of you intensely that you’re communicating and giving signals through your dreams. Sounds a little BS but Sigmund Freud actually documented cases of telepathic dreaming.
Again, this doesn’t happen often. But if your connection with this person is strong, you will creep into each other’s dreams from time to time.
5) You can just feel it
Sleep is usually when your thoughts and emotions reach others most easily. But strong and persistent enough longing will eventually affect someone who is fully awake.
You might find yourself getting goosebumps all of a sudden or you might feel sudden mood swings that you swear are not your own.
You would think about them and suddenly feel a touch on your shoulder. Might seem creepy but that’s psychic energy for ya.
There are many subtle and unexplainable signs that someone is thinking of you!
So what now?
Alright, you miss them and you’re sure they miss you too. But what if everything was just a coincidence?
Sure, the signs are there but there’s also the possibility that the universe is just playing a prank on you. Just some cognitive bias because you want them to miss you so bad.
Honestly, even if you do truly believe that they are thinking about you too — because of how everything lines up a bit too perfectly — the only real way to know for sure would be for you to connect with them.
Not through psychic energy and dreams but through actual physical actions. Here’s how you can do it:
Step 1: Try to manifest
One of the first things you can do is to try manifesting. This isn’t just your usual thoughts of them. No, this isn’t a passive activity.
You are creating a clear plan in your head.
Manifestation Magic is bending reality to your will by firmly thinking of the things you want as things that have already realised.
There’s a bit more to it than that, of course, so here is a longer overview on manifestation magic if you want to know more, and here’s a more in-depth guide to manifesting miracles.
But the long and short of it is being super clear of what you want and believing it will happen!
In your case, you can visualize that the two of you are having dinner.
You have to be more detailed, though. Visualize it well so it becomes a clear picture. You can imagine what food you’ll be ordering, the music that’ll be played, what you’ll be wearing and that you’re laughing so hard.
You cannot rely on this alone, of course.
Sure, they might end up contacting you first, but it’s more likely that your manifestation will simply make them more open to you when you actually reach out.
Step 2: Have the courage and prepare yourself
You might find yourself scared to reach out for many reasons — what if they’ve moved on or have forgotten about you?
What if you’re just going to intrude into their life?
It’s okay to be afraid. Every big decision should come with a healthy amount of fear. What matters isn’t that you’re afraid but that you’re dealing with it properly.
Manifesting will help you gain courage because you already visualize good things to happen but if you’re an anxious type like me, you gotta do more. Here are some tricks that might work:
- Rejection? So what? Think about it. The worst thing that could happen is that they’re going to reject you. Will it kill you? Nah!
- Go a little zen. Learn some meditation techniques. It can help a lot with anxiety.
- Ground yourself. Even if they miss you too, it’s important to keep yourself grounded and to temper your expectations so that you don’t end up smothering or overwhelming them. Remember, it’s important that they feel at ease too!
Step 3: Go ahead and just reach out to them!
You can prepare all you want for something, but if you’re not going to actually do it then all your preparations are going to be pointless, right?
So just go!
Just make sure to remain mindful and you’re set.
Shoot them a message or give them a call and just go with the flow. This can be a lovely re-kindling of an old, warm relationship if you let it.
Sometimes, someone can even miss you badly but seem distant at first, especially if they had been hurt in the past. When this happens, the best thing to do is to try and stay in touch and just wait for them to open up.
“But what if I make myself look desperate?” you may think and fear that you’re going to push them away.
Well, here are a few things you can do about that:
- Be patient. If you had just broken up with your SO a few days ago, you might want to give them space. Even if they are missing you just as you are missing them, they might still not be ready!
- Keep things casual. You’re trying to reach out again, maybe rebuild an old connection. You shouldn’t expect things to be as they were in the past! Talk to them, listen to them, make it about them instead of just you. Be a friend first before you smother them with affection.
- Respect boundaries. This is incredibly important. If something feels too personal to talk about, it’s probably too personal to talk about and you should probably avoid talking about it unless they bring it up themselves. And if they respond to your reaching out with something like ‘now is not a good time’, you should probably wait until later.
Look, rejection is awful and the unknown is always scary.
There will always be a small ache when you look at someone you used to know but haven’t talked to in ages — especially if your last meeting was pretty bad. And nobody wants to be hurt again and again and again, especially not by the same person.
But you can’t let that hold you back!
Be brave, little one!
Who knows, maybe — just maybe — the reason you miss them so bad is because they’re missing you a whole ton first!
Maybe they’ve been manifesting you like crazy. Someone has to take the first step and it might as well be you.
You won’t die from it. I guarantee you!