I had a dream I was cheated on by my girlfriend

In your dream, you saw your girl cheating on you. You can’t shake it from your mind, and it’s left you feeling unnerved.

That’s how you’ve ended up here. So, what does it mean if you dreamt your girlfriend cheated?

Well, don’t jump to conclusions. You might be feeling anger, sadness, and even depression, but it’s not all doom and gloom.

Dreaming about being cheated on is among the top 5 most common dreams, and it could have several meanings.

So, without torturing you any further, this article will contain everything you need to know about your dream, why you dreamt it, and what you should do next.

Let’s dive in.

Possible reasons you’re dreaming about this

1) You’re worried they might cheat on you

Having frequent dreams about cheating may indicate insecurity in your relationship or fear that your partner will find someone “better.”

Consider whether or not you are bothered by this.

For example, do you worry that your relationship might not work out or your partner might not be happy? If so, unfortunately, they could explain why you sometimes have cheating dreams at night.

Admitting insecurities or discussing cheating is difficult.

However, if you let your partner know how you feel, you are more likely to generate trust and support – and experience fewer cheating dreams.

2) You’ve been cheated on in the past

A heating dream may mean that you still lack trust in your partner after they cheated previously.

In addition, you may be scared that your partner will cheat on you if someone else has done so previously.

Dreams based on fear and anxiety from negative past experiences are normal.

Although there is absolute security in your current relationship, you might still be bringing this fear into your dreams if you were cheated on in the past.

Having a cheating dream is not necessarily a sign of a problem, but if you have them often, it may be worth thinking about the impact cheating has had on your life, maybe by going to therapy.

With that in mind, you can work together to find ways to increase your sense of security in your relationship.

3) You have “spare tire” in your relationship

If your lady doesn’t have another partner or romantic interest, you may still feel something or someone between you.

This “cheating” might take the form of a friend, their job, a new dog, or anything else that leaves you feeling like you’re not getting the attention that you need.

If you have this dream, your subconscious may be suggesting that you are feeling lonely or rejected or that your relationship is out of balance.

In this case, talking to your partner about your loneliness and finding a way to prioritize each other again will prove to be the best solution.

Making extra time and purposefully scheduling dates with your significant other might be what you need to feel more loved.

4) You’re harboring feelings of betrayal

Betrayals of other kinds could also manifest as a cheating dream, so take a moment to think about recent arguments or misunderstandings.

Something happened to make you feel cheated out of feeling respected, understood, or that what you said was taken the wrong way.

The best medicine for this scenario would be to talk it out. Once you have gotten it off your chest, you’ll feel much better, and you might notice that these cheating dreams will go away.

5) You’re afraid of being abandoned

Reoccurring cheating dreams might also indicate an underlying fear of abandonment.

You’re worried that a cheating partner will destroy your relationship and be left on your own. Our dreams help us to draw attention to these potential fears.

If it’s weighing heavy on your heart and you can’t stop dreaming about it. The best way to make sense of what you’re feeling would be to speak to a therapist.

The meaning of the dream could be the tip of the iceberg, and having someone to guide you through what possible purpose it could hold will help you overcome the issue.

If you decide against therapy, consider speaking to your partner. Be sure to let them know about what you’re feeling and how they make you feel. Often, a good heart to heart is all it takes.

6) You both have trust issues

Dreams represent our subconscious, so if you keep having a cheating dream, perhaps a betrayal of some kind has transpired.

There might be some areas of your relationship where you and your partner do not fully trust each other.

Perhaps you feel uncomfortable sharing future plans, a family, or your finances. It feels like your partner doesn’t have your back which causes you to dream of this.

However, when you open up and start communicating your feelings and fears with complete honesty, you’re building trust between each other.

Knowing that you have complete trust and honesty with your partner will help alleviate the reoccurrence of this dream.

7) You have a suspicion that they’re cheating

The good news! Cheating dreams rarely indicate that your partner is definitely cheating.

But, unfortunately, they happen to almost everyone, even those who have “perfect” relationships.

However, if you keep on having these dreams and there is no other plausible reason, it might signal that your girlfriend is being unfaithful to you.

Divine intervention often takes place in the weirdest of ways, so perhaps the universe is trying to get you to pay attention.

It’s easy to ignore the signs of cheating if you’re head over heels.

If your partner seems closed off emotionally, is distant, hides their phone, or goes out more than usual, they may be, in fact, cheating.

You’re in denial and don’t want to face it, so when you sleep, your mind is trying to get you to catch a wake-up.

When you dream, you are far more honest with yourself, and suppressing your emotions is close to impossible.

This is why we sometimes dream of unpleasant things because they bubble to the surface during deep sleep.

So, if you keep dreaming that your girlfriend is cheating on you, use the topic as a conversation starter.

Discuss any issues you are experiencing in your relationship.

Open communication is the cornerstone for any happy and healthy relationship–it might be precisely what you need to normalize your dreams!

8) Your partner can be too flirty at times

Often, dreams are there to help “tell it like it is.”

You might be interpreting this dream like you’re being cheated on because your girlfriend is too flirty.

You might have been irritated by her because she was too friendly with the guy at the bar or made a fuss of her coworkers (who happens to be super good-looking) Snapchat.

In this case, your dream urges you to speak up and let your girl know that she needs to tone down on the flirting.

 9) You feel like your partner betrayed you in a non-sexual way

If you felt a sense of disloyalty from your girlfriend after your dream, you might be harboring resentment or some hatred because they’ve likely broken a promise or have “betrayed you” in other ways.

It’s not also necessarily about betrayal in the sexual sense. It could be something as petty as her not backing you up in an argument with your in-laws.

This reveals that the incident made you feel unsupported and abandoned, hence the bad vibes.

What causes cheating dreams?

We all have unique dreams, but they can be traced back to three typical underlying issues in terms of cheating.

Emotional dissatisfaction

As mentioned previously, these dreams don’t always turn out to be about physical intimacy.

Instead, they’re more manifestations of the emotional, psychological union that the act of sex represents.

Because the emotions you experience in the dream come from an authentic place, it’s up to you to take the necessary steps and figure out which emotion is being triggered.

Some of the most common culprits include guilt, insecurity, jealousy, anxiety, or boredom.

Dissatisfaction sexually

Most cheating dreams don’t always indicate sexual problems, but some can manifest sexual dissatisfaction or unease in your relationship.

Perhaps you’re not having as much sex as you would like, or maybe you’re not having sex at all.

Also, you’re trying to spice things up in the bedroom, but your partner won’t play along.

Finally, dreams about infidelity are also primarily linked to your sexual dissatisfaction.

Unresolved feelings about a past infidelity

The trauma of past infidelity can cause long-term side effects.

Even if you’ve worked through the issues, they can stay with us long after and can manifest in our dreams.

So, if you were cheated on in a previous relationship, it’s completely normal to dream that it will happen again,

If your current girlfriend cheated on you, it indicates that you need to keep on working on building trust. 

Once lost, it’s complicated to get back, so this process is integral if you’re going to stay together for the foreseeable future.

Cheating dreams scenarios

So now that you know the possible reasons and the underlying causes, here are some of the most common dream scenarios for cheating and their possible meanings.

Dreaming about girlfriend cheating with a complete stranger

Perhaps your partner has been working longer hours than usual or is spending more time with a family member or friend. This usually indicates that you’re feeling left out.

Dreaming about your girlfriend cheating with their ex

This could reveal that you are harboring some form of jealousy towards your partner.

Perhaps it’s their sense of style or that they are super confident.

Rest assured, your partner loves you 100% and won’t be going anywhere anytime soon.

Dreaming about your girlfriend cheating with someone you’re close with

This dream could be an indication of your wants. For example, maybe you’re seeking financial stability, being engaged, or even wanting a baby with your partner.

If your partner doesn’t get along with the person whom they cheated with, it’s a sign that you want them to because it’s important to you.

What does it mean if you’re the cheater in the dream?

It’s normal, so don’t panic.

However, when the roles are reversed, and you become the infidel in your dream, it’s a signal that you feel like you have compromised your beliefs or values in some way, or you feel guilty and have betrayed yourself somehow.

Here are some common scenarios when you’re the cheater in the dream:

Dreaming about cheating with a stranger

You might be spending too much time working, gaming, or with friends.

If this is the case, you need to re-evaluate your priorities and focus more on your lady.

On the other hand, you could be feeling guilty about not giving your girlfriend the attention she deserves.

Dreaming that you cheated with your ex

This one is likely to cause your feelings of massive guilt! Please don’t beat yourself up too much; it doesn’t mean that you should get back with your ex (unless you really want to)

Your dream is trying to help you heal past issues you may have faced with this person. Perhaps it was a toxic relationship, a betrayal, or something emotionally abusive they said to you.

Dreaming you cheated with your girlfriend’s friend

If you have this dream, you need to examine how this person’s relationship with your girl makes you feel.

Most likely, the dream indicates that you want to build a bond or get closer to this specific friend.

Cheating with someone who you know

Suppose you have an underlying attraction to this specific person and find yourself flirting or emotionally connected to them.

In that case, you need to examine why you find yourself gravitating towards this individual.

If you’re not attracted to them that way, they might have a specific personality trait that you think is lacking in your current partner.

For example, maybe this individual has a better job and gets paid more than your partner, or perhaps this person has a fantastic sense of humor, something that your girlfriend doesn’t possess.

Perhaps this person is also in a relationship.

You dream that you cheated with them; it doesn’t mean you actually want to be in a relationship with them but rather that they have some of the qualities you’re looking for in a long-term partner.

Dreaming about getting caught cheating

If you dream about getting caught in the act, it often signifies that you’re feeling guilty about something.

So, with that, it’s time to get it off your chest or man about something you’re hiding from your girlfriend.

Dreaming about cheating with several people

Omg, did you just have an orgy in your dream?

These dreams reveal that your attention is being diverted in too many directions.

If this is not the case, it could signify that you are bored with the current state of your sex life, and you want to spice things up in the bedroom.

Dreaming about swinging

Dreaming about partner swapping could mean that you’re interested in trying polyamory, swinging, or being in an open relationship.

But, most likely, it means that you are envious of a specific couple because they might have better communication skills, a better sense of humor, or want your partner to come on board in terms of finances.

Cheating dreams before a life-changing, even.

When you have a cheating dream before a huge life milestone like marriage, moving house, or getting engaged, you need to pay attention to what you feel during the dream.

Not the cheating part of the dream, but what you’re feeling at that moment. Is it dread, anxiety or excitement?

Does your current relationship dissatisfy you?

Are you irritated with your partner over something that doesn’t seem to have been resolved yet?

Would you like your relationship to be more open?

Do you fear the intense commitment this relationship requires?

The fantasy can also be a problem if it interferes with your ability to be present and focused on your partner.

So, look at the context, circumstance and do some soul searching as to why this dream continues to re-occur.

Should you tell your partner?

You will continue to have this dream or a similar one until you address the underlying issue the dream is pointing out. Therefore, you need to address this underlying issue.

Points to ponder:

  • Do you really want to be in a relationship with this person?
  • Will you manage to work through the jealously you feeling
  • Are you happy sexually? What needs to change for you to be sexually fulfilled
  • Can I deal with current feelings of guilt?

If your current girlfriend is not long-term material and you don’t see yourself together for the long haul, it’s best to end it.

If you want things to work out, the best approach would be playing open cards and having an honest and sincere conversation with your lady.

How to talk about it

Make it clear that you’re noticing an issue, and tell them you’d like to work through it together. If possible, share the feelings you had when you dreamt.

How to broach the subject with the Mrs:

  • I want you to know I am aware of how my attention has been split these last few weeks, and I would like to make a plan to spend more time together.
  • [Open relationships, group sex, pegging, and scissoring] caught my attention, and I wonder if it’s something I would like to try. Are you interested in exploring this with me?
  • “I have a recurring dream that you are cheating on me, and I suspect it’s because I’m jealous of [xyz]. Why do you think this is?

Another great option is to consider having couples or sex therapy.

Your dream might be coming out of nowhere, and you and your partner have been having this issue for a while.

Working with a mental health professional can help you explore and work through this issue together.

Remember, there’s no shame in asking for help, and a professional can give you a fresh perspective.

Bottom line

They might seem more like nightmares, but they can pretty much always teach you something valuable about yourself.

Just don’t jump the gun, and don’t blame your partner for anything they did while you were sleeping.

Dreams come in many flavors, and there isn’t a single solution for them.

You can deal with any issue that may arise before it manifests in your dream world by actively working on your relationship and communicating about your emotional and sexual needs, desires, and wants.

Communication and compromise will likely stop the dreams if you are open and willing to compromise.

If this doesn’t stop these dreams, why not try journaling immediately after waking up from the dream and before going to bed.

In your journal, write down all the details you remember from the cheating dream when you wake up. Then go ahead and rewrite the dream and let the outcome be what you want it to be.

Although it might not work straight off the bat, the more you do it, you’ll be training your brain in such a way that your subconscious will eventually get the message.

Good luck!

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Lyndol Lyons

Lyndol Lyons

The business of life is the acquisition of memories. In the end, that's all there is. Writer, spiritualist, mom. Tolerant of people, but prefer animals. Owner of 346 cats in a previous life.

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