6 easy steps to manifest your perfect boyfriend (no bullsh*t guide)

Are you sick and tired of being single? Manifesting a boyfriend might be the solution to all your troubles. It’s a great way to finally meet “the one”.

Does that sound like something you want?

Then keep reading, because I will tell you exactly how to go about manifesting your perfect boyfriend using the law of attraction!

The key to manifesting your dream relationship

Before we go into detail about how you can manifest the boyfriend of your dreams, I will let you in on a little secret: the key to not only manifesting your dream relationship but really anything you want!

This is super important to understand before attempting to manifest your relationship, as it will be the foundation of all your manifestation work!

To go about manifesting anything, you have to acquire whatever energy it is you want to feel and then believe with your whole heart that it is already a reality.

The key to manifestation is truly feeling the energy of what you want to experience and then reveling in that feeling, living that reality, and allowing it to manifest.

The universe always responds to your energetic state, so when you mope around and pity yourself for still being single, the universe will respond accordingly and affirm your perceived reality, and guess what?

You will stay single that way.

Make yourself believe that anything you want is already here, and the universe will respond to your energy.

High vibrational energy will bring you your desired outcomes. The universe matches your high vibes and will bring people and experiences into your life accordingly.

This is important to understand first and foremost, as it will be the basis of everything else we’re about to dive into!

6 steps to manifest a boyfriend:

Now we’ll get to what you’ve been waiting for – the 6 steps you can take to manifest the boyfriend of your dreams into your life.

1) Clarify why you want to manifest a boyfriend

Before you start with the actual process of manifestation, you have to get very clear on the reason why you want to manifest a boyfriend in the first place.

The reason your “why” is so important, is because it will determine whether the experience you’re calling in will be a positive or a negative one.

If your “why” is based on lots of negative emotions such as feeling lonely or jealous, you will subconsciously attract negative experiences, and you really don’t want that, do you?

Focus on the positive reasons why you want to be in a relationship – this could be happiness, joy, desire for connection, you get the picture.

Sure, your initial motivation might have been feeling a bit lonely, but before you start with the actual manifestation, try to reframe your mindset to more positive motivators.

And believe it or not, although it is “preparational” work, this is already the first step towards manifesting a boyfriend.

The first signals have been sent to the universe.

2) Get very clear on what you want to manifest

Just as your primary motivation for manifestation is important, the details of what you want to manifest are equally crucial.

In order for manifestation to work properly, you need to get as clear and detailed about your wishes and desires as possible.

A good way to go about this is by using a manifestation journal. Grab an empty notebook or journal and get started.

First, write a paragraph like a diary entry, describing your everyday life with your boyfriend. This could look something like this:

“My boyfriend is the sweetest. He bought me flowers this morning and surprised me with breakfast. He is always thoughtful and tries to spoil me as much as possible. Our conversations are deep, and I feel so understood and loved for who I am…”

Write as much as you like, describing what you would hope a future diary entry would be when in a relationship with your person.

Once you have done that, get into the nitty-gritty details and write a list with all the qualities your future man will have.

Get as detailed as you can, writing down things like

• His height
• His name
• His hobbies
• His hair and eye color
• His personality traits
• His core values

…basically any detail you can think of that you would love in a future boyfriend.

You will be surprised as to how many of these details will actually be found in your future partner!

Another reason this step is so important is that having a vivid picture of him will make the visualization process a whole lot easier, as you aren’t just picturing some guy, but a very specific person. 

This brings me to the next step:

3) Visualize how the relationship will be

For this step, the work you did in your manifestation journal prior to this will be incredibly helpful.

You have to visualize how the relationship will be, and more importantly, how it will feel.

Remember the key to manifestation? Your energy creates your reality.

Because of that, your feelings will be what ultimately attracts your future boyfriend.

To do this visualization, really let yourself feel what being in love is like, and what it will be like when you meet the guy of your dreams.

Here is a little guide to doing this exercise:

• Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed
• Sit or lie down and get comfortable. If you’re familiar with meditation, you already know the drill
• Take deep breaths and let your body relax. Feel your own presence at this moment and take a few seconds to let any thoughts or worries dissipate
• When you’re ready, start to visualize your boyfriend with all the details you have previously jotted down: his face, personality, anything that makes him look and feel real in your mind’s eye
• When the image you have of him is strong, start to direct your focus to your emotions. Let yourself feel what it’s like to be head over heels in love, feeling safe and adventurous at the same time, having a person you can always rely on
• To solidify the visualization, end with very high vibrational emotions to accompany your mental image with strong energies. The highest vibrational emotions are unconditional love, joy, bliss, and gratitude, so focusing on these will make your visualization even more powerful.

Try to make this visualization practice a daily habit.

The more you do this, the easier it will get to also incorporate tiny visualizations into your day-to-day life without dropping into a whole meditation.

The more often you dwell on these positive feelings and visualizations of your boyfriend, the faster you will manifest him.

Think about it on your way to work, in the bathroom, while cooking dinner – really whenever you get the chance.

4) Work on eliminating limiting beliefs

We all have limiting beliefs, some of them are even rooted in our core beliefs about ourselves and the world.

These beliefs are things we picked up on as kids, or things that were reinforced through negative experiences in the past.

Sometimes, we aren’t even aware of what our limiting beliefs are, yet they are often the main blocker that keeps us from manifesting a relationship.

Some limiting beliefs that are very common in connection to love are:

• I’m bad at relationships
• I sabotage all my relationships
• Real love doesn’t exist
• Others only want to exploit me and my love
• I will never find true love
• True love is hard to find
• I’m not attractive
• Most relationships fail anyways
• There is no such thing as real love or soulmates

Does any of this sound like something that keeps replaying in your own head?

Then that might be a sign you just uncovered a limiting belief.

The thing that all these beliefs have in common, is that they are false. They are only the result of your ego trying to protect yourself from potential pain in the future.

To eliminate these beliefs, start by uncovering and acknowledging them.

Whenever negative thoughts like these sneak in during the day, simply witness their presence and tell yourself “I know you are only trying to protect me, but this is not true and we are safe”

Another way to help with these limiting beliefs is the next step:

5) Work with Affirmations

If you’ve never heard of affirmations, they are basically just very positive phrases or statements that are repeated frequently.

They can be used to replace any negative thought patterns that inhibit your mind on a daily basis.

There are many affirmations that would fit well with this practice of manifesting a boyfriend.

Here are a few examples, maybe a few of them resonate with you. Of course, you can also use these as an inspiration to write your own, personal affirmations.

1) I am loved more than I ever thought possible

2) I love who I am, and so does my partner

3) I am making room for an amazing partner in my life

4) I am worthy of a healthy, loving relationship

5) I am open to love

6) I am in the healthiest relationship of my life

7) The Universe is bringing me romance and passion

8) I attract healthy relationships

9) I am worthy of deep connection and intimacy

10) I am love, and I am lovable

11) I am grateful for the love in my life

12) My relationship is fulfilling

13) My heart is open and ready to let love in

14) My partner loves me and treats me right

15) I am attracting a relationship that feels right

As with most things concerning manifestation, the way you feel is crucial. Try to really believe what you are saying when using these affirmations.

Once you have picked (or written) a few affirmations that feel good to you, repeat them often.

Say them to yourself in the mirror when getting ready, say them on your way to work, say them when negative thoughts feel overwhelming.

If you are into regular meditation, incorporate your affirmations as mantras, as well! This can be incredibly powerful.

6. Surrender to the universe

Last but not least – it is time to surrender.

When you are actively following all the steps mentioned above, the only thing left to do is to surrender to the universe and trust the process. 

Letting go of control can be hard, but step back and let the universe take charge. When you try to control the outcome, this can subconsciously block the entire manifestation process.

This also includes putting a time limit on your manifestation. That is a big no-no, by the way.

Trust that the universe will come through eventually, and don’t obsess over why it hasn’t worked yet if you’ve been practicing manifestation for a few days or weeks.

Getting stressed out about why it isn’t working is sending the message that you don’t really have faith in the universe after all, and that’s a message you don’t want to send.

Let go of expectations and simply allow the universe to do its thing.

Maybe it will take longer than you thought it would, but trust me, if you stick to these 6 steps, all your patience will pay off.

A few extra tips to help you on your manifestation journey:

In order to make your manifestation as successful as possible, I will provide you with some extra tips that will boost your manifestation to the next level!

1) Be aware and open to opportunities

Although the previous steps are the foundation of a successful manifestation, you also have to do your part to help attract a boyfriend into your life.

In order to manifest the love and relationship you dream of, you must be open to receiving it.

This includes following potential opportunities to meet someone new, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone.

As much as we would love to believe that we can do our manifestation practice and the love of our lives will just knock on our door one day, that’s usually not how that goes.

You gotta help the universe out a bit here. When your friends invite you to go out with them, or on a little road trip, don’t decline!

This will open up your opportunities to meet the person the universe has in mind for you.

Without actively reaching out a bit and taking steps towards what you want, nothing will happen.

2) Don’t get dragged into negativity

You’ve been doing your manifestation for a month, and still, nothing happened.

Before going back to beating yourself up over how unlovable you are and that not even manifestation works for a hopeless case like you, pause and don’t fall into the trap of negativity.

I know it can be so easy to get discouraged, especially with emotional topics like love and relationships, but this spiral of negative thinking will be what ultimately blocks your relationship from manifesting.

Keep your heart as open as you can, and think about the fact that the love of your life is probably moving through similar struggles right now, in an attempt to finally meet you.

As mentioned earlier, when these thoughts creep in, rely on your affirmations and visualization to pull you out of the negative mindset.

Trust the universe, you will find him, and he will find you, you just need to have faith.

3) Get to know yourself better

Do you want a healthy, strong, long-term relationship where both you and your partner can live in your authentic truths?

I’m sure your answer is yes, otherwise you wouldn’t be here, reading this article. If that is what you desire, the only way to attract this love is when you know what YOU want and need.

A partner can’t help us meet our needs if we don’t even know what they are in the first place.

Use this time before meeting the love of your life to get to know yourself. Soon you will be distracted a bit, getting to know him.

How can I get to know myself?

• Get a journal and start writing every day. Write about your day, your thoughts, your feelings. Anything that comes to mind. Use journal prompts that make you reflect on the deep questions in life. Some of these might be:
  • Who am I?
  • Who do I want to be?
  • What does a successful life look like to me?
  • Am I already on my way or what can I do to move closer to this successful life?
  • What is happiness?
• Meditate. Meditation helps us connect to our inner self, and is a great way to discover our thought patterns and behaviors. If you’re new to it, start with guided meditations and see what floats your boat. There are countless ways to meditate, so if you try one and don’t like it, don’t give up, just find another technique!
• Experiment with your life. Maybe you feel like you’ve been in a rut, or like you always follow the same routine. To get to know yourself better, experiment with a few things in your life and see what you like! Maybe there are things out there you never knew you were passionate about! You could:
  • Try out a new fashion style
  • Try out a new haircut
  • Try out a new sport
  • Join a club of something you know nothing about
  • Learn a new instrument
  • Teach yourself a craft
  • Go to a new country or city

This way, you will be secure in who you are when you meet the love of your life, and they can fall in love with the real you.

4) Feel good in your own skin

During the process of manifestation, extra confidence is always a great asset to have.

Feeling good in your own skin will not only raise your vibration while manifesting but will also be crucial to the foundation of a healthy relationship, as you will not be eaten up by self-doubts and insecurity.

To feel good in your own skin, practice self-love, and self-care. This means taking care of yourself on all levels.

Physically, make sure your body gets the right nutrition, focusing on plenty of whole foods and water, while also treating yourself to soul-nourishing foods every once in a while.

Move your body to channel excess energy, and rest when your body needs to recover.

Usually, we know exactly what it is our bodies need, we just got really good at suppressing those signals.

Learn to listen, and treat your body like you would a child, encouraging it to be healthy, but tending to it lovingly when it needs rest.

On a mental level, try to work through difficult emotions, either by yourself or with the help of a therapist.

Spiritually, you can nurture your connection to the divine, strengthening that bond through daily practices.

Another tool to feel better about your life is spending more time doing the things you love.

Cultivating hobbies like that will spark a fiery passion inside of you that will help you fall back in love with your own life more than ever before.

All of these things will make you feel good in your skin, and not just on a superficial level. More importantly, this confidence will run deep, and that’s exactly the kind of confidence that is permanent and sustainable.

5) Be grateful for the love you already have in your life

I mentioned earlier that gratitude is one of the emotions with the highest vibration. This is why gratitude will help tremendously with staying in a positive mindset while manifesting.

Reflect on your current life and all the love that is in it. This could be love for your family, your friends, your pets, really anything that comes to mind.

The more time you spend in a state of gratitude, the faster and more easily your relationship will manifest.

Feel how lucky you are to have so many people in your life that you get to love, and who love you in return.

If gratitude for the love in your life feels overwhelming at first, you can start your gratitude practice with tiny, mundane things you are grateful for, like a cup of coffee in the morning or the feeling of a long shower.

It doesn’t matter what you are grateful for, as long as you bring yourself into that state of pure bliss when realizing how lucky you are with the life you are living.

6) Don’t be afraid of rejection

I know, I know. This is much easier said than done. However, it is really helpful to reframe your mindset concerning rejection when looking for the love of your life.

Rejection doesn’t hurt you. There, I said it.

Let me explain what I mean because I’m sure you’re thinking something along the lines of: “Of course rejection hurts, I cried for days the last time someone has rejected me and it left me scarred.”

Let’s rephrase that. Rejection doesn’t hurt you, your interpretation of the situation is what causes you pain.

The truth that you weren’t the right fit for someone you liked does not hurt you.

You, thinking to yourself that you simply weren’t good enough for them, aren’t attractive enough, are unloved, and will never find a partner who loves you, is what creates pain.

Reframe your mindset to be closer to the truth, namely that rejection does not say ANYTHING about you as a person, and instead just means that this relationship was not meant for you and was merely standing in the way of meeting the love of your life.

This will not only help you be more confident and meet potential partners but will also help you further down the line in your relationship.

Knowing the lack of relation between someone else’s behavior and our inherent worth will benefit you in all relationships, not just the romantic ones.

Get manifesting!

Now you have all the tools necessary to bring the love of your dreams into your life and make that amazing relationship a reality.

Follow the steps to manifest a boyfriend, and most importantly keep your faith in the universe.

To summarize, get clear on why you want to manifest a relationship and what exactly you want your boyfriend to be like.

Spend time visualizing him and the relationship the two of you will have in the future.

Work on yourself and on eliminating your limiting core beliefs, so that the path is clear for attracting your partner into your life.

Lastly, trust the universe and don’t lose faith, even when it takes longer than you expected.

Cultivating confidence and deep knowledge of yourself will set the foundation for the long-lasting, happy, and healthy relationship you have always dreamed of!

After all, the universe can do amazing things, but in the end, it is you who will convince your future boyfriend of the amazing, breathtaking person you are.