Breaking up is hard, but moving on is just agonizing.
Especially when you know deep in your heart that you’re really meant to be together.
What if I tell you that you can actually get back together if you know how to play your cards right?
Here are 12 ways to make him want you back during a break:
1) Be a friend, not a crazy ex
Try not to become a crazy ex. The more desperate you are to have him by your side, and the more you force yourself into his life, the more he will want to push you away. Instead, try to be his best friend.
Be the cool-tempered, reliable person you’ve always been in your relationship—and if you haven’t been that way, then you should start trying to be.
He’ll start to wonder why you even broke up and would certainly miss the times when you’re always just by his side.
You’ll become his best friend and the person he can count on whenever he needs advice or just wants to talk. He’ll appreciate all the things you’ve done for him and how much he’s grown to love you even more.
2) Change your ways
It might be a tough pill to swallow, but a possible reason why he broke up with you might be because you just don’t know how to be a good girlfriend yet—you might have pushed him around too much or spent too little time for him.
You’re never going to win back his heart unless you try to make a change for the better. Think about the things he might have complained to you about before you broke up and try to do better.
So try your best to change for the better and show him that you’ve learned from your mistakes.
3) Don’t go overboard
Going overboard is a sure-fire way to kill any lingering interest he might still have for you. He might be thinking “did I really do the right thing?” and by throwing yourself all over him you’re basically telling him “yes.”
If you feel like he’s no longer interested in you, then don’t try to get him back too soon. Give him enough time to process everything or otherwise you’ll just end up making him retreat.
Please remember:
If he’s interested in you, then he’ll come back when he’s ready.
If he’s not interested, then you won’t be able to get him back no matter how hard you try. Be patient and let him come to you.
4) Stay in touch but don’t over-communicate
If you want to get him back, then try not to be too clingy. Try to talk to him as you would a colleague or an acquaintance. Don’t rush him to reconnect by bombarding him with messages.
He’s only going to get annoyed if he comes home from work to see his phone filled with you giving a minute-by-minute update on your day. Even worse would be texts like “I saw you at Jollibee earlier”—you’ll make him feel like you’re stalking him.
This could make him lose his attraction to you altogether.
You need to let him know that you’re still interested but in a non-desperate way. This will make him feel more comfortable talking to you and being around you.
5) Make him jealous (but do it in a really sneaky way)
If you’re feeling a bit adventurous, you can try stoking his jealousy with a few well-worded texts. There’s a chance that he still sees you as “his”, and if so tickling his possessiveness towards you can help you along.
You can say something like this for example:
“I think it was a great idea that we decided to start dating other people. I do just want to be friends right now!”
Jealousy is a powerful thing. By giving your ex this text, you’re communicating to your ex that you’re actually wanted by others and that. We’re all attracted to people wanted by others.
By saying that you’re dating again, you’re pretty much saying that “it’s your loss!”
After sending this text they’ll begin to feel attraction for you again because of a “fear of loss”.
I learned from Brad Browning, hands down my favorite “get your ex back” online coach.
Here’s a link to his free online video. In this video, he gives a number of useful tips that you can apply immediately to get your ex back.
6) Focus on yourself
You can’t just be his girlfriend—now ex-girlfriend. You have to have a life, too!
If he’s been your everything while you were together, then show him that you’re starting to pick up the pieces and rebuild your life.
Getting new hobbies, meeting new people, visiting places, even something as simple as cooking a new dish would trigger him to reconsider a relationship with you again.
You have to be a slightly new person—and him too—before you should think of getting back together. Otherwise, things might end up badly again.
7) Find a way to update him about your life
How would he know you’ve changed and that you’re into new hobbies if you won’t relay it to him?
Take the time to talk about your new interests, hobbies, and even your most recent taste in fashion.
Let him know that you’ve since moved on from hurting from the breakup and now you’re finding a way to become a person you can be proud of.
How do you do this exactly?
Well, you can do this by sending him a text message or even posting stuff on your social media. But you have to learn how to do it right so it won’t look desperate and you don’t become annoying.
8) Don’t bring up old wounds
If you’re still holding a grudge against him for something he did in the past, just leave it there. Don’t bring it up again—ever!
Even if you feel like he didn’t take responsibility for his actions or that he didn’t apologize sincerely, don’t try to rehash the situation. That’ll just make it worse, and it also shows him that you’re stuck in the past.
By letting it go, you’re showing him that you’re much more mature than he might have expected you to be.
9) Keep things light
When you do talk to him, make sure to keep the conversation light and fun.
Avoid talking about heavy topics like relationships, love, and commitment. Instead, focus on fun topics like your favorite activities, hobbies, or interests.
Talking about light and fun topics will help you feel less nervous when talking to him. Plus, it will keep the conversation from becoming too heavy and awkward.
Talking about light and fun topics will also make him feel less nervous when talking to you. Doing this will make you both feel more comfortable and relaxed…which is what we’re aiming for.
10) Reconnect in real life
You can also try to re-establish the connection by doing something that you both enjoy. This will help to enhance the connection between you and will let him know that you still care.
Talking about your favorite memories together, or doing something that you both enjoy will help to re-establish the connection between you and will help to let him know that you still care about your relationship.
It will also make him see all the changes that you’ve made from your looks to your temper.
11) Bring back fun memories of you together.
Once you’ve become friends again, it’s a good idea to make him miss you as a lover.
It will make him feel good about you and your relationship if you try to make him remember the good times you had together. Again, this requires skill. If you don’t know how to do it right, you’d sound desperate. To learn how to do it right.
You’d have to know which memories are the dearest to him, and what you should trigger. So how do you figure that out?
Earlier, I mentioned the relationship expert, Brad Browning.
He specializes in helping people reconnect with their exes and guides them into creating healthier and happier relationships.
He’s helped thousands of couples get back together, and he’d help you figure out just what you need to say. You can start by clicking here to watch his incredible free video.
12) Make him feel good about himself.
This is no secret.
When a man feels good about himself when he’s with you, he’d want to spend more and more time with you. Sometimes, it can be as simple as that. Men are not as complicated as we imagine them to be.
Feel good= yes!
Feel bad=no!
What’s great is that you already know him and therefore know exactly what can make him feel good (or bad).
Maybe he likes it when you listen to him talk about his hobbies (and you’ve neglected him towards the end of your relationship), then girl, you know exactly what to do. Just ask him about his hobbies and truly listen.
Make a list of the things that can truly make him feel like a king, and do them discreetly.
What to do next?
So let’s say that you have a feeling he’s into you again…but it’s been going on for too long.
If he won’t ask for a second chance, then be the one to ask for it. You can ask him how he’s doing and if he still wants to have a relationship with you—this time stronger and better.
You can’t wait forever! Your time and life are precious.
Remember: If he says no, then at least you tried. But if he says yes, then WONDERFUL!
Now that he’s willing to give you a second chance, it’ll be easier for both of you to talk about the relationship again—and rekindle the flame of love between the two of you.
Tip:
When you’re trying to have the talk, remember to be calm and understanding. Ask him questions about how he’s feeling, and listen to his responses. Tell him that you’re sorry for what you did and how you want to make things right between the two of you.
This talk is crucial. You have to say it like you’re giving it one last try, and if he doesn’t take that chance, he will lose you forever.
Be clear with your feelings, but be ready to walk away (with your chin up high) when he shows any sign of hesitation.
Conclusion
It’s not exactly that easy to make your ex want you back during a break. There are some general tips you can take to raise your chances, but every relationship is different and there’s nothing quite like a personal touch.
So while the tips in this article should help you figure out how to get your ex back, there’s only so much you can do alone.
If you genuinely want your ex back, you need the help of a professional.
I’ve mentioned Brad Browning throughout this article – he’s the best at helping couples move past their issues and reconnect on a genuine level.
His tried and tested methods won’t just re-spark your ex’s interest in you, but they’ll also help you avoid making the same mistakes you made in the past.
So if you really want a shot at getting back together with your ex for good, check out his excellent free video below.
