Dating apps have made meeting potential partners easier than ever, but it’s also made it more difficult to be sure that you’ve found your soulmate, given that there are literally hundreds of options at your fingertips at any given time.
People are having less time and energy to build relationships.
And when they are in them, it’s often hard for them to stay committed. This raises the question: have you already met your soulmate?
Is the person you are with the “One”?
Luckily, there are some psychological ways to figure this out! Look at these 10 points and ask yourself if they resonate with your current relationship:
1) They bring you a sense of peace and comfort
When you are truly compatible with someone, you will feel a sense of peace and comfort when you are with them.
This means that you’ll be able to be yourself completely, free of judgement and expectation.
You won’t have to try to be anything you’re not. When you’re with your soulmate, you can drop your guard and be as silly or as vulnerable as you want.
You won’t feel a need to conform to anything or anyone else’s idea of how you ‘should’ be.
And the best part?
You won’t have to monitor yourself, censor your language, or hold back from sharing your feelings and thoughts.
You can just be yourself around them, and feel completely safe and supported by their presence.
This is so beautiful because they will be the person you are most comfortable with in the entire world, and that is very special.
But that’s not all, you will still love each other after seeing, well, the worst sides:
2) You love this person even after seeing them at their worst
While you might not always see each other at your best, the person you should be with will be the one you love even at their worst.
That’s why one of the ways you know you are with your soulmate is that you love them even after seeing them at their worst.
You have compassion for their struggles, and you don’t have any desire to judge them or make them feel bad.
When you love someone, you want to be there for them. You want to help them feel better and get past their obstacles.
Simply put, you see loving kindness in their weaknesses, and you want to support them to become stronger and wiser.
When you love someone, you don’t see their flaws as an opportunity for judgement. You see their flaws as an opportunity for compassion.
You see an opportunity to extend love and support to someone who is struggling.
This is the beautiful thing about strong and healthy relationships: there is no fear of being sick or looking bad because your love is not tied to a physical appearance.
In fact, you have the power to lift each other up to higher levels of self-love and acceptance.
This love runs so deep that no external force can keep you apart.
This is also due to the fact that you are very aligned at your core, which is what I will talk about next:
3) Your core values are completely aligned
Your core values are what guide you in your life. They are the things that are most important to you.
Some examples might be being kind, loving, respectful, and honest. When you are with your soulmate, your core values will be completely aligned.
You will feel an instinctive urge to be the best version of you, and to treat the other person with the same kindness and respect you’d want to be treated with.
You will feel a sense of responsibility to steer each other towards the best outcomes, and a drive to do good in the world.
When you are with someone who truly understands you and respects you, you will find yourself communicating your core values and guiding each other towards making better decisions.
You will feel an easy urge to commit to higher standards and to create a relationship that is built on love, kindness, and mutual respect.
And the best part?
You won’t have to compromise on the truly important things.
You will be on the same page when it comes to the future, having kids, where you want to live, etc.
This is crucial because when you need to start compromising, your relationship is heading for some trouble.
When you compromise on what’s important, you are losing touch with the core of your relationship, and this is usually when decisions need to be made that don’t feel so easy.
You might have to make a choice to leave the relationship or stay in it, and that’s never an easy decision.
That’s why being able to see that your values align from the beginning makes it much easier to understand you have met your soulmate.
And when troubles do arise, they are never as bad, which brings me to my next point.
4) Troubles in your relationship have left you feeling stronger connected than ever before
When you are with your soulmate, you will go through all kinds of struggles together.
You will argue, you will get hurt, you will make mistakes, and you will grow from it. When you are with someone who is truly meant for you, the troubles you face together will leave you feeling more connected than ever before.
You will come out of your struggles feeling stronger with each other. You will feel like you have overcome something together and come out stronger, wiser, and more connected as a result.
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel like you have found your true north.
You will have someone who is committed to you and who you can trust completely.
You will have a companion who you are totally comfortable with and can share anything with.
And most importantly, you will have someone who is always there for you, who you can always count on, and who will always make you feel safe.
This means that you can finally let your guard down:
5) You can let your guard down and be yourself around them
When you are with your soulmate, you can let your guard down completely and be unapologetically yourself.
You don’t have to conform to any standards or expectations. You can share all of your thoughts, feelings, and desires with the other person.
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel comfortable and safe enough to share your true desires and fantasies with them.
You won’t feel any hesitation about how the other person will react to you.
The truth is, you will feel certain that they will respond to you in a compassionate, loving manner.
When you are with someone who is truly meant for you, you will feel like you don’t have to censor yourself.
Instead, you will feel like both you and your partner are committed to creating a space for complete openness and honesty.
This is really important for a strong, healthy relationship!
Of course, you might still have your differences, but that’s also a good thing:
6) You are different but you balance each other out perfectly
Your partner will be different from you in some ways, and you will be different from them in some ways.
Your differences will complement each other and create a relationship that is completely unique.
Your partner will be the one person on the planet who is uniquely compatible with you if they are your soulmate.
They will be the person who can bring out the best in you and who can help you achieve your highest, most fulfilling potential.
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel an urge to support each other to become your best selves.
You will feel an urge to improve each other, to help each other grow, and to encourage each other to become the people you know you can be.
And the best part?
Your differences will only help you both grow and learn from one another even more!
Most importantly, they will always feel safe, which is my next point:
7) You feel safe around them and they feel like home
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel safe and at home around them. You will feel like they are your safe place, the one place that you can always go where you feel completely comfortable and supported.
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel the urge to take care of them. You will feel the desire to protect them, to be there for them, and to create a safe space for them to be their best selves.
Simply put, you will feel the urge to nurture them, help them feel loved and appreciated, and to support them as they strive to achieve their goals.
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel like everything is exactly as it should be.
It will feel like you have found your home, where you can always be yourself and feel completely safe and supported.
This is beautiful, everybody deserves to find a person that feels like home to them.
In order for that to happen, you need a strong connection though, which is what I wanted to talk about next:
8) You share a deep emotional and physical connection
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel a deep emotional and physical connection with them.
You will feel like you can connect with them emotionally in a way that you can’t with anyone else.
But not just that, you will feel an urge to share your emotions with them, and an urge for them to share their emotions with you.
It will be easy to be vulnerable with them, to let them see your weaknesses and insecurities so that they can help you overcome them.
You will feel an urge to share your thoughts and your hopes and dreams with them, so that they can hold you accountable and help you make them happen.
When you are with your soulmate, you will also feel a deep craving to share physical intimacy with them.
This desire to be physically close to them and to let them see you completely and unapologetically will be ever-present.
You will feel an urge to share your passions with them and to let them show you how they feel.
However, this deep connection also means you might be sharing your pain:
9) Their pain causes you pain
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel their pain as your own. You will feel a deep desire to help them overcome their struggles, and a deep desire to heal their pain.
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel an urge to make them feel better. You will feel an urge to help them heal and overcome their challenges so that they can feel better.
Simply put, you want to be there for them and support them, but you won’t want them to go through their challenges alone.
You will want to shoulder some of their burden with them. When you are with your soulmate, you will feel their pain as if it were your own.
But all of these signs can be summarized by this last, simple one:
10) Your intuition tells you they are the one
I know, it sounds like a cliché, but to be honest, if they are your soulmate, you will just know.
You will know in your heart that they are the person you were meant to be with.
All the signs I have written above will be pointing toward them, and you will feel the urge to make them your priority.
It might feel like a strong pull or an instinct, or it might just come naturally to you without even trying:
Either way, it is a very good sign if you find yourself gravitating towards this person who makes you feel so fulfilled and so happy.
Final thoughts
If you have gone through this article and resonated with each of these points, then I can say pretty confidently that you have found your soulmate.
You see, these qualities are what’s important in a partner and so when you find someone who fulfills all of these, that’s pretty special.
You can rest assured, this is your person, the “One” for you!
