Life moves at the speed of light, and it can be hard to stop and think about our actions as they are flailing out of us, also at the speed of light.
Some people don’t ever stop to think about how they are acting, while others, those people who have true integrity, take the time to reflect on their actions to learn from them and become a better person as a result.
Love or hate them; they are out there doing good where the rest of us are pushing people out of our way to get to the top of the ladder. Here are 7 signs of people who have true integrity.
1) Taking Ownership for Their Actions
In all aspects of life, people who have real integrity are recognizing the impacts of their behavior and are adjusting it accordingly. That doesn’t mean they are bending to everyone’s will; in fact, it means the opposite. They just want to be the best version of themselves.
A good example of this is when parents who are overworked, underpaid, and suffering from sleep deprivation take the time to apologize to their small children when they fly off the handle.
It’s easy to take your frustration out on those you love the most, but people with real integrity realize when they’ve crossed the line and apologize to even the smallest people in their lives. They know it’s important to set the expectation that people take responsibility for themselves.
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2) They Praise the Accomplishments of Others
People with true integrity will always talk up a coworker or colleague before themselves. They know that praise goes a long way to lift people up, and it helps them feel good about themselves as well.
Time is well spent when it’s spent building people up instead of breaking them down. People with true integrity also realize that they can learn from those around them and don’t assume they know everything.
3) Keep it Clean During an Argument
You can always tell when someone has more integrity than you because they won’t diminish themselves to name calling or finger pointing during an argument.
They are cool, calm, and can clearly articulate their feelings and thoughts in a way that doesn’t make other people feel bad about themselves.
Because they can take ownership of themselves (see sign #1), they are more likely to be good at winning an argument because they are focused on the solution and not the problems.
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4) Road Rage Restraint
While road rage might feel good at the moment and help you blow off some steam, people who have real integrity can just sit and use the time to reflect, think about dinner, or do anything besides freak out on the highway.
Not only is road rage dangerous in a physical sense, but it can also hurt your mental awareness, and capacity to get on with your day because you’ll be so wound up from yelling and flipping the bird on the road.
People with real integrity know that the traffic will move or that stupid people can’t be taught how to drive, so they just let it go.
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5) Putting Others First
People with true integrity don’t put others first in a way that takes away from their sunshine, but they do put others first in a way that makes them know their time is valued.
For example, when a person with true integrity takes the stage to give a speech to colleagues or coworkers, they will apologize for keeping them waiting.
They recognize and acknowledge that people are busy and their time is valuable, so while they make every effort to get on stage as fast as possible, they will still acknowledge the time people have waited.
6) Asking to Hear the Other Side of the Story
People with true integrity will always give someone the benefit of the doubt when things are unclear. They never assume anything and understand that are always two – or more! – Sides to a story. They will take the time to ask questions and find out as much information before making any decisions about the information. This shows real character and is thought to be a sign of strength and integrity.
7) They Volunteer
Even though our time on this planet is short, people with real integrity know that time is best spent in service of others.
Whether that’s pouring soup at a local food bank or organizing the holiday concert at their children’s school, giving away their time is one of the best uses of their time they can think of, and we would agree.