Whether you’ve had just one ex or a handful, there’s something different about a certain ex that you just can’t put your finger on.
No matter how long ago the relationship may have been, and no matter what happens between you two, there seems to be a special bond that keeps you two connected.
In cases like these, the easiest explanation might be that you have a soul connection with this ex.
You and your ex are bonded together at a level deeper than either of you understand, meaning your lives were always intertwined and will continue to be.
So what are the signs of a true soul connection with an ex?
Here are 16 signs to look out for:
1) You Haven’t Found Anyone Else Who “Gets” You the Same Way
One of the clearest and most obvious signs that your ex is your soulmate (or one of the other kinds of soul connections out there) is how much you two “got” each other, in a way no one else seems to get you.
You and your ex bonded almost immediately because talking to them was like talking to a best friend you’d known all your life, even if you’d just met them.
Your ex just understood you and vibed with you on every level.
You rode the same frequencies without even trying to do it, and you woke up on the same side of the bed every single day.
When you were with your ex, it was like being with a copy of yourself to some degree: you just knew they would have your back, they’d agree, and they’d always be another voice unified with yours.
And when you finally broke up and went back out on the dating scene? It just never felt right again.
Sure, there are countless nice people you could choose and settle down with, but they just don’t get you the way your ex did.
2) You Still Know When They’re Feeling Bad, Even If You Haven’t Spoken In Weeks
You think about your ex from time to time, and most of the time, you go about your day.
But every now and then you get the faintest feeling that something is off when you think about them.
It’s impossible to explain because it’s not something we quite understand.
But there’s a connection between you and your ex that keeps you linked no matter how far apart you may be, and that connection keeps you aware of each other’s emotions at the subconscious level.
So ask yourself: did you always know whenever your ex wasn’t feeling “right”?
Maybe you called them up, or maybe you asked a mutual friend about your ex, and you found out that they were going through something difficult.
They needed you, and their soul was reaching out to yours without them knowing it.
As you’re the only one in their life who “gets” them, they know that there’s no easier way to heal their soul than by getting back in touch with you.
3) You Can Almost See Where They Are If You Try Hard Enough
This might not work every time, but there are times when an image flashes in your mind and you immediately know what it is or where it came from: your ex.
A deep and intimate soul connection is mostly about thoughts and feelings, but every now and then it also gives us the psychic ability to pick up on the location of the person we’re connected with.
That doesn’t mean you have the ability to tell their exact location — if they’re at the grocery store or at the dentist — but sometimes you might get the feeling that they’re nearby, or you can see their surroundings even if you don’t know what those surroundings may be.
Your eyes get a glimpse into their window, and this usually occurs when the connection between you and your ex is triggered for some reason.
4) You Broke Up For Reasons Beyond Your Control
Breakups are often messy and difficult, with acts of betrayal, negative thoughts and feelings, and hard nights of arguing and fighting over things you might not exactly remember anymore.
Often when a couple breaks up, it’s obvious to both parties right away that there are fundamental differences stopping them from truly being together; it’s best for both individuals to just move on.
But when you break up with an ex with whom you have a soul connection, it’s not always so obvious whether you two can or can’t work together.
It almost always feels like you just didn’t click at the right time, or there were one or two small factors keeping you apart.
Or maybe the reason why you couldn’t be together was far beyond your control, and you simply had to break up for logistical reasons more than anything else.
Simply put — you didn’t break up because you fell out of love with each other; you can’t fall out of love with each other.
5) You Just Can’t Seem To Get Rid Of Them
You know it’s not a good idea to keep seeing your ex.
You’ve read countless articles, listened to all your friends, and heard it from all the romance experts: when you break up with an ex, it’s best to leave them in the past and move on with your life.
Logically, you know that. But emotionally? You just can’t ignore your heart.
No matter what happens, your ex seems to now be a constant in your life.
They’re there as your new best friend, or at least close friend, and you just have a feeling in your heart that they’ll always be around, especially when you’re in dire need of a friendly face.
And you’re slowly starting to realize that despite all the professional advice that says otherwise, it doesn’t seem to be a bad idea, keeping your ex in your life. And if your new partner can’t deal with it, then it’s their loss.
6) You Can’t Stop Thinking About the Sex
You can’t deny it: the best sex you ever experienced in your life was with your ex.
And here’s why it was: it wasn’t just physical or even emotional.
It was the deepest and most intimate act between two bonded souls, making it something more special than you’ll ever experience with anyone else.
Deep in your heart, you know this to be true. It never felt like it was just sex when you were doing it with your ex.
You completely lost yourself in the moment, and you could go on and on for as long as you liked until your bodies gave out on you.
7) No One Made You Feel a Peace the Way They Did
Life can be aggravating, frustrating, and downright agonizing.
All the little tests and obstacles we have to face on a daily basis can be enough to make even the strongest of us wilt from time to time.
But when you had your ex by your side, you discovered a strength inside of you that you never knew you had.
There’s the age-old line: “He brings out the best in you.” And when it came to your ex, it was true.
They knew how to tap into an innate resource inside of you that you’d never had access to before, and you grew and evolved because of them.
Because in a way, they knew you more than you knew yourself. And they helped you unlock your potential, becoming a better version of who you are.
With all that came peace.
The serenity of knowing that you don’t have to struggle as much as you once did because you now have a new strength that they helped you unleash.
8) You Can Feel Right Before They Reach Out To You
You can’t remember the last time you spoke with your ex.
You know they’re going on about their own lives, and you’ve got your own things going on as well.
But every now and then you wake up with a certain feeling. It’s almost like an itch — an itch telling you that you are going to hear from your ex soon.
And 9 out of 10 times, it happens. You can’t explain it, and neither can your ex.
When your phone starts to ring, or when you get a notification from a chat app, you don’t even have to look at the screen to know who it’s from. And of course, your ex has the same ability.
9) The Breakup Didn’t Change Anything About Your Connection
The relationship is done and somehow you’re still in sync. You still have the same chemistry, the same energy, and the same bond. It’s almost as if you never broke up.
At the end of the day, it was really just a matter of semantics. You don’t have to be in a relationship to enjoy each other’s presence.
You didn’t even need to be in a relationship to develop the close bond you guys had. It just felt natural to be open and honest with them. Being around them was like second nature to you.
Your romantic feelings for your ex might not be the same as before, and that’s okay.
Still, there lies an underlying fondness for each other that could easily pave the way for passion if the right circumstance presented itself.
10) You Feel Safe and Secure With Them
For the first time in your life, you feel like you finally belong somewhere.
All those nights spent with friends, surrounded by strangers, or even by your own family pales in comparison to the times you’ve spent with this person. Something deep within you just knows that this is where you belong.
You feel safe in this person’s arms. You’re confident you can always count on them and that they’ll always have your back.
You’ve tried looking for the same connection elsewhere but it just doesn’t feel the same.
Even after the breakup, there is still that palpable connection between the two of you; your ex is very much still your safety net.
You feel so safe and secure with your ex that you still instinctively go for them for advice any time you feel unsure because you’re just convinced they know the right words to say to make you feel better.
They’re still the person that makes you feel safest against all odds, regardless of your relationship status.
11) You Don’t Really Feel the Need to Find Someone New Yet
You’ve lost the love of your life – how come you’re not really pining for anyone?
Unlike almost everyone you know, you’re not jumping at the next opportunity to get to know another person.
A lot of that has to do with the fact that you still feel complete and satisfied with your ex.
Even as friends, you continue to share that unique and rare bond.
You don’t really feel the need to go out and chase that feeling of completeness and belongingness you found with your ex because you never lost it in the first place.
Even when you try, the feeling you get from others just isn’t the same.
And maybe, deep down, you don’t want to find someone new because you think you don’t need someone new. Maybe you’re secretly hoping that you and your ex will get together soon and all of this is just a matter of better timing.
12) Your Goals and Ambitions Are Almost Exactly the Same
The strongest couples break up for a variety of reasons.
Some break up because they weren’t equipped with the best coping mechanisms and communication techniques at that time.
Others break up because of things like incompatibility, different temperaments, or completely opposite life paths.
Some reasons for breaking are more serious and irreversible than others.
But that’s not really the case with you and your ex. You may no longer be in a relationship with your ex but your lives together are still aligned.
You share core beliefs, aspirations, and maybe even life trajectories that put you in close proximity with each other, so much so that it’s easy to rekindle the fire should better circumstances arise.
In this next chapter of your lives, you might be growing separately as people.
But both of you are still on the same page, more or less – as if the universe is trying to make sure that you never really outgrow each other.
13) You Respect Each Other Deeply
Looking back at the relationship, it’s clear that there was a strong foundation of mutual respect.
You supported each other throughout your individual endeavors and encouraged growth as a couple.
You were supportive of each other’s careers, were open and accepting about the other person’s core beliefs, and had a really strong foundation of trust.
There were incompatibilities but those didn’t stop both of you from communicating effectively.
You trusted each other to be a supportive, reliable partner and awarded each other that baseline courtesy.
Respect is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
Natural chemistry is a lot more common than most people think. What’s pretty rare, however, is a deep sense of respect for the other person.
Most couples have to strive for an ideal when it comes to mutual respect but it just came naturally for you and your ex.
When you inherently like a person, despite all their little quirks and the things you don’t always agree with, it’s so much easier to form a life lasting bond with them.
14) Your Humor Is Identical
Shared humor is one of the easiest ways to determine compatibility within partners.
And that’s because there’s nothing better than laughing with your partner and knowing they’re enjoying something that you are on the same level.
When you think back to your time together, you’re flooded with happy memories involving the two of you exchanging inside jokes or laughing at the same scenes at a movie.
You just make a good pair overall, and your shared humor is a testament to that.
Having identical humor is important for relationships not just because it gives you something to bond over. Laughter is an amazing tension breaker.
A simple joke can de-escalate a fight and turn around even the gloomiest of days.
You want someone who is as happy as you are, someone who can share that level of joy in your life, and even magnify it with their own bubble of happiness.
Having shared humor makes everything easier and more seamless. If you and your ex truly share the same sense of humor, that’s another thing that could glue you back together in the future.
15) The Future Was Always Exciting With Them
Connecting with someone is exciting but connecting with your soulmate is something else entirely. One way to see if your ex really is your soulmate is to ask yourself how you felt with them.
Did you feel bored, like your life was predictable? Or did you feel like anything was possible, like you’ve never been more alive when you were around them?
Something about their energy just felt undeniably good.
Planning trips, talking about career progression, maybe even the prospect of starting a family – things that typically scared other couples made the both of you excited.
Even something as mundane as grocery shopping was exciting and fun as long as you did it with them.
At the end of the day, it didn’t matter to you what the future held. The only important thing was that you did that together.
And even now, as you’re broken up, you still follow the same rule.
You’re happy to stay in touch because you just wish to keep them in your life no matter what.
16) Communication Has Never Been a Challenge
Poor communication is a common problem for couples and is usually an overlooked symptom more than anything else.
Couples that have had communication problems often have to deal with abandonment issues, jealousy, or possessiveness at its very root.
The problem is that most couples never get around to unpacking these things.
That’s not to say your relationship with your ex was smooth sailing.
You disagreed from time to time, as did any other couple, but you always found a way to work through it.
When it comes down to it, both of you were more invested in resolving the issue and finding your way back to each other more than anything else.
This almost ethereal draw that kept pulling you together just made it easier to communicate.
Whenever a fight happened, you were both insistent on making things right and setting apart your differences just to restore your balance in the relationship.
It’s almost as if you couldn’t help it but reach out to them.
Is It Time To Start Again?
Just because you have a strong soul connection with your ex doesn’t mean you’re destined for life.
The universe has an interesting way of doing things and you can’t really hedge your bets on just one person.
You broke up for a reason – the reason may not make sense now but the relationship had to end because of something.
The universe is urging both of you to grow individually as people and use whatever you’ve learned in the relationship to better yourselves as individuals.
Who knows, maybe eventually your souls will find their way back to each other.
But even if it doesn’t, it’s comforting enough knowing that there’s a person out there who connects with you in the way that they do. That itself is a rare blessing.