If you’re reading this, this is the sign you’ve been waiting for.
When you started having feelings for your partner, you asked the universe for signs if you should be with them. And you listened to the universe. You believe that they’re the right person for you.
But lately, things just feel off. You don’t understand why but suddenly there are all these changes in your relationship that you can’t piece together.
And you think to yourself, is the universe telling me they’re not the one?
If you’ve been asking if these signs are messages from the universe, this article is definitely for you.
In this article, we’ll talk about whether the universe is trying to tell you to move on.
1) You’re falling out of sync with your s/o
Everything used to fit together so perfectly. You kept whispering to yourself how it’s fate that you’re with them. It was like in Frozen where Hans and Anna finished each other’s sandwiches.
But recently, you don’t feel in tune with them. You used to think that it was just the both of growing as individuals. However, could it be that you’ve been growing apart? We think this is the case.
Every time you try to process your growth, you see how different you’ve both become. And that’s supposed to be a good thing. But somehow you can’t see it as such. You think that they’re slowly becoming somebody you used to know.
And it’s scary because you’re so familiar with being with them. The universe understands that, of course. But it’s telling you that there’s someone out there, who would always be in sync with you.
Will you let yourself settle for less?
2) You feel like you’re detaching
There’s this one song you and your partner always go back to. It could be the song that was playing when you first met at the library or that song from your first slow dance.
In the course of your relationship, you have both attached so much meaning to the song. But today, you feel very detached from it. It’s such a subtle nuance but you can’t shake the feeling off.
The next week you try to listen to the song again. It used to make you instantly happy and filled with positive thoughts. But now it doesn’t. And you think maybe it’s just the genre of the song. (It’s not.)
If you can relate to this, you’ve been asking yourself what’s happening. And this is a sign from the universe that your relationship could be greater if you were with someone else.
The detachment you feel is the lack of connection between the two of you. Your spiritual connection lies somewhere else. Not with the person you’re currently with.
Trust us, you won’t ever feel like you’re detaching when you’re with the one.
3) You don’t feel like yourself anymore
You feel empty. That shouldn’t be how things are when you’re with your person.
In order to be with them, you must have tweaked your personality to complement theirs. You’ve spent most of your relationship adjusting for them. You keep making sacrifices and you keep changing who you are.
But that’s just it. That’s not you. And at the end of the day, you feel like you don’t know yourself anymore. Because who you’ve become is a fabrication of their wants.
You’re not who you truly aspire to be and that’s why you feel empty. What you’re feeling is unfulfillment. It’s your heart telling you this wasn’t the plan. That you’re destined to be so much more than who you are today.
The universe is trying to explain this to you. It’s emphasizing how hollow you feel to let you know that you should break up with your partner. And this is hard to take in. Especially when you thought you’ve been working towards your happiness with them.
But all you’ve done is make them happy by compromising your happiness.
4) You feel drained after spending time with them
One whole day spent with them feels so tiring. It doesn’t matter if you were walking around with them at the park or just binge-watching your new favorite TV series. Either way, you feel so exhausted.
You can’t even understand why. Because being with them used to feel so light-hearted. They used to be your safe haven. Before, whenever you are with them, you feel like you’re recharging.
But now even a short phone call with them feels heavy on your shoulders. You say that you love them. But if they’re your one true love, it shouldn’t feel like this.
You shouldn’t feel like they’re a burden. Or that talking to them is like a math puzzle. Because they’re supposed to make you feel at ease.
And this is exactly what the universe is saying to you. It’s time to move on because your relationship with them is a cause of stress.
5) You always seem to have bad timing
You’re both preoccupied with work and your schedules don’t match. And every time you are together, something comes up. Either there’s an emergency at work or you bump into a close friend you haven’t seen in so long.
And on a much more serious note, when they brought up moving in together, you weren’t ready. And when you were, they needed some space to work on themselves.
There’s always a setback. You think that it’s nothing but if you look at the signs, it’s really something worth taking note of.
One of you is always moving faster than the other. You can no longer work on the relationship at the same pace. And this is the universe telling you to move on.
6) You keep noticing red flags you haven’t seen before
In dating around, we have our Hard Noes. Like when someone chews with their mouth open or when someone insists on standing on the Walk Side of the Escalator.
You also get bothered by certain behaviors they have. Like when they twitch their nose when they’re thinking or when they chew on their pen.
And as time goes by, you notice that your partner has these qualities that you don’t like. And you try to discuss it with them because it feels so small and insignificant.
But all of these “small and insignificant” things pile up. And when they do, you won’t be able to ignore them. Because they form in the shape of your s/o. These little flaws are a part of them.
The universe is showing these to you to see if you can still choose to be with them. And if you think that in the long run, you can’t take all of these red flags. You should find someone else.
7) You keep hearing breakup songs
This is a perfect example of synchronicity. Synchronicity is when the universe keeps sending you seemingly unrelated signals with the same theme or aspects. Some people also call this serendipity.
In your case everywhere you go you hear about heartbreak. You put your Spotify on shuffle and The Last Time by Taylor Swift comes on. Later that day, you walk inside a coffee shop and The Heart Wants What It Wants by Selena Gomez is playing.
And you don’t think of it as anything until you hear “say you see I’m lying babe and let this go, I can never promise you tomorrow” from NIKI’s Anaheim.
The moment you heard it, you felt as though it was a direct message for you.
8) You feel uncomfy when you’re holding hands
When you’re holding hands, you keep shifting the position of your fingers. The way your fingers are interlaced together doesn’t feel right for you. You nitpick the little things about holding hands.
So you let go of their hands and try again. But again, something feels off.
Sometimes you brush the feeling off by saying it’s just the heat. That’s it’s way too hot to hold hands. But other times you say that your fingers are freezing. And that you’d rather keep your hands to yourself.
Holding hands should just be a natural thing. There shouldn’t be a complicated thought process behind it. When there is complex logical thinking that comes with the thought of holding hands, you’re reading too much into it.
You’re trying too hard to make things comfortable when it should just be comfortable.
The universe is telling you to move on from this relationship by highlighting the discomfort you feel. How can you say you find home in your partner when you feel awkward when you’re holding hands with them?
9) You keep getting interrupted in intimate moments
When you’re in an intimate moment like on a date on your anniversary and something goes terribly wrong, that’s a sign.
You’re holding hands but then the waiter has to put a plate exactly where your hands are placed. Or you’re whispering sweet nothings to each other but then you realize the wine tastes funny. You’re on your way to the car and it starts to rain so hard you can’t see the road.
And then when you come home you think you’re in the clear.
You put on some light music and start to be intimate. But then you start sneezing because of the rain earlier.
It was supposed to be your special night together but the universe had other plans. And it plans to set you up with someone else.
That wasn’t the first instance something like this happened as well. So the universe has been trying to send you this message for some time now.
10) You think silence feels negative
You used to understand to the core what Bruno Major meant when he sang “there’s nothing like doing nothing with you.” But now the silence is just KILLING you.
You keep making up excuses to do all these things with them because every lull in the conversation feels unsettling.
Every 3-second pause is awkward for you. Like you don’t understand why but there’s something wrong. And you don’t want to feel this way. So you try to push the thought away. But when they moved their hand closer to yours while you were reading, you flinched.
What you just felt is the universe using your body to talk to you. The way your skin seemed to crawl when they just want to be connected with you by holding hands is a clear sign.
You used to love the comfort of their company no matter what. Even if it’s just spending time together doing different things.
Something feels missing. Silence used to be tranquil but now it feels like a missed connection. And that’s the universe trying to tell you to move on. You should definitely listen.
11) You’re waiting for a plot twist
It’s as if you’re always trying to anticipate something that’s about to happen.
You keep waiting for the next chapter of your lives but every new happening doesn’t seem to be enough for you. When they got that big promotion that allows you to save up more for your holiday trip, you weren’t as psyched as you thought you would be.
You don’t feel like you’re destined to be where you are currently. And that should concern you. Because true love makes you believe in fate and destiny.
The pivotal moment you’ve been looking forward to never comes. Because the next chapter you’re looking for is your breakup. Your heart knows it but your mind doesn’t know it yet.
Maybe subconsciously, you’ve already grasped that you’re about to break up. You just need to consciously decide to let go.
12) You’re not inspired by them
You’re not motivated to do your work. They only serve as a distraction. You think that they’re life-giving but they don’t contribute to the goals you want to achieve in life.
And that’s such a big sign that they aren’t your soulmate. Your soulmate is supposed to help ignite the flames of your passion. They’re supposed to make you want to do more and be more. Your s/o could be the muse in your art or just the nudge to keep you going in your wants in life.
And they’re clearly not doing that because you don’t find inspiration in them.
Maybe what you feel isn’t love. It’s just you falling for the idea of love. Maybe you like being with them just because it looks good on paper. And the universe is making you realize that.
13) You like spending time with other people more
You keep choosing to hang out with other people instead of them. You are fond of your friends’ company over your s/o’s. And you might think it’s just nostalgia but it’s something else.
Your headspace and mindset become so much calmer and peaceful when you’re spending time with people that would love to spend time with you as well. You feel your energy being reciprocated and naturally, it makes you feel a lot better.
Your s/o should make you want to spend time with them more than anyone else. Because why would you spend the rest of your life with someone you don’t like spending time with a lot.
If you find yourself choosing others over your s/o every single time, it’s time to rethink your choices. It’s what the universe wants.
And you’re guaranteed to have the best time of your life with someone else.
14) You keep zoning out
Whenever they’re talking to you, they can’t seem to capture your attention. Even if it’s about something you love or something you’re passionate about. Like the other day, they were talking about getting into your favorite hobby to spend time with you more. You tried listening to them but your mind kept going elsewhere.
That’s the universe calling out to you. You are supposed to be in a much better relationship. A relationship where you can’t stop listening to your s/o. Where they don’t need to try so hard to grab your attention.
Because if it’s love, your whole being is attracted to them. And you’re so interested in them that all you want to do is hear them talk.
While you’re zoning out, listen to the universe.
15) You keep asking for signs
You keep asking the universe for signs. Signs if they’re the one or signs if things will be okay after your fight.
But when the universe thinks that they’re the one, you’re supposed to hear the message right away.
Just a reminder that if they’re the one, you’ll know it in your heart. No questions asked.
By asking for all these signs that they’re the ones, you’ve closed yourself off from the universe telling you that they aren’t. They’re not even your twin flame.
You have to open your heart to be able to get the message. Because sometimes the message isn’t what you want to hear.