10 alarming signs someone is wishing bad on you

No matter how much positive energy you send out into the world, you’re still bound to come across people who live with a different kind of mindset entirely.

These people have their own deep-rooted issues that they end up taking out on the people around them, and there are times where you might become their next unfortunate victim.

And there’s just no helping a person like this, the type of person who, no matter how much kindness you show them, they want nothing more than to wish the worst on you.

But how do you know them when they appear in your life? Here are 10 signs of someone who is wishing bad on you:

1) You Feel Strange Around Them

You know how it feels to feel normal, and how it feels to feel strange.

Something just feels… off, like there’s an unusual vibe in the air, and you don’t know how to shake it off.

Most of the time you feel normal, but whenever you’re around the person who is wishing bad on you, you can’t help but feel that same strangeness come over you again.

The thing about this feeling is that you can’t really pinpoint exactly what’s causing it.

They just make you feel uncomfortable in a way, as if your gut is trying to tell you something your mind can’t pick up.

But since you don’t have real, clear reasons to avoid them, you keep your interactions with them going.

Remember: intuition is one of the most powerful forces you have in you. Don’t ignore it.

2) They Insult You With Humor

Who can’t take a little joke, right?

We all take turns being the butt of the joke, and if you can’t roll with it, then you can’t be part of the friend group.

You’re not “cool”, so to say, which is why whenever this specific person insults you “jokingly”, the only way you know how to react is by laughing along with it, even if you feel awkward and even embarrassed.

A person who wishes the worst for you is someone who wants to keep bringing you down, reminding you of your flaws and insecurities.

But it’s not socially acceptable to bring those things up in front of other people, unless they use humor, of course.

So ask yourself: is there a person in your life who is constantly insulting you in the form of jokes?

Bringing up the things you hate most about yourself but in a comedic way?

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3) You Always Catch Them In Lies

Lies, lies, lies. We all tell small, harmless lies from time to time — maybe you fudge the truth instead of explaining it in detail, just because you don’t believe the details are important, or the person you’re speaking with doesn’t really need to know anyway.

As long as the lie doesn’t really hurt or betray a person, then what’s the harm, right?

But this person wishing the worst for you is the type of person who lies almost as often as they breathe.

You’ve witnessed it firsthand: they might be lying to your face, telling you something you know for a fact isn’t true.

Or maybe you’ve seen them do it to another friend, and you’ve been amazed at how easily and casually they spun an entire fictional tale, all without flinching.

A person who lies this easily is the kind of person you can’t ever trust, even if you haven’t caught them in a lie to you yet.

4) You Feel Them Manipulating You

What’s so wrong with lying?

Aside from the fact that it’s always better to hang out with someone who prefers the truth over dishonesty, lying is also a major sign of manipulation.

And if someone is a professional manipulator, then chances are they’re also the type of person who doesn’t want what’s best for you.

A manipulator is someone who doesn’t see people as individuals.

People are simply tools in their lives, tools they can use to help them get what they want (whatever that may be).

And if you can feel someone trying to manipulate you — they lie to your face, they try to charm you, they justify their actions and behaviors in ways that you know are insane — then they’re no longer thinking about you as a person; they’re thinking about you as another step in their path.

5) They Invalidate Your Feelings

If you feel sad, happy, excited, fearful, concerned — the truth is, none of those things matter to a person who is wishing bad on you.

Your feelings are just getting in the way of communicating with you; they couldn’t care less what you feel, and want you to refocus your attention on their concerns.

So always keep a lookout for people who joke about fears, your worries, or even belittle your periods of joy and sorrow.

You deserve to feel what your mind is trying to make you feel; don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

6) They Relish On Your Misfortune

There’s a German word for feeding off of the misfortune of others — schadenfreude — which literally translates to malicious joy.

It’s the satisfaction you experience when you learn of or witness the misfortune of another person.

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And this person in your life wishing the worst for you can’t get enough of your misfortunes.

When something bad happens to you, they act like a concerned friend who just wants to know all the details.

They’ll pretend to comfort you, but all they’re actually doing is fishing for more information — they want to know everything.

For them, the satisfaction in seeing you fail provides more euphoria than the satisfaction of achieving their own success.

7) They’re Never Happy For Your Successes

Have you had a great week? Have you been acing your tests?

Maybe you got a promotion at work, or even a new job? Are you building an awesome relationship with a new partner, or just having a great time in general?

This person doesn’t care. You could tell them the best news in the world about you, and they’ll act like it’s just another Tuesday.

They might feign some small level of excitement, but they’ll never truly give your success the praise it deserves.

Why?

Well firstly because they’re so caught up in their own lives, they couldn’t care less about yours.

Secondly, your success might be intimidating to them, and they can’t stand the idea that you might be succeeding more than them.

Their nonchalance is just the easiest way to belittle your success and make you feel it’s not as great as you thought it was.

8) They Try To Turn Your Friends On You

If this person who is wishing bad on you is more than just a colleague or acquaintance, but someone who is actually part of your friend circle with access to all your closest and dearest friends, then you’re in trouble.

The moment they turn their evil eye on you and decide that they want to destroy your life, they can lie and manipulate their way in that direction in no time.

Sooner rather than later, you’ll find that your friends no longer trust you.

They talk behind your back, they don’t invite you to their gatherings anymore, and they even attack you for things that aren’t actually true.

Getting your friends to turn on you is the easiest way to make you feel lost and alone, which is why it’s one of the most common things this type of person will do when they really want to cripple your spirit.

9) Your Relationship Is Completely Conditional (and Even One-Sided)

Having a friendship with a person who is wishing ill on you can be a rather confusing affair, because the friendship dynamic goes against everything that you might think a friendship is supposed to be.

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A real friendship shouldn’t feel so “out of sight, out of mind”; the bond you build with a person should remain intact, even if some space and time has passed.

But your relationship with this person is almost completely the opposite — the bond doesn’t seem to exist outside of the here-and-now at all.

As long as you give this person what they want, they’ll act like a friend to you right now.

But if you let a week pass without interacting with them, they’ll treat you like you’re starting from square one all over again.

10) They Use Anything You Give Them Against You

If your “friend” has shown several of the signs listed above, then you need to stop talking to them as soon as possible.

Why?

Because this is the exact type of person who will use any information you give them about yourself against you.

No matter how mundane or trivial that personal information is, they’ll find a way to use it against you behind your back.

For example, if you let it slip that you try not to drink too much because you want to control yourself at parties, they might start spreading the rumor that you’re a wild alcoholic, barely staying on the wagon.

If you tell them that you think someone is slightly attractive, they’ll make everyone else believe that you’re obsessed with that person, or you’re cheating on your current partner.

Watch your mouth when this person is around you because the last thing you need is their creative maliciousness trying to tear you down.

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